I've had these over the past 20 months, and I'm never quite sure what to do.
Basically, just got a guy, maybe 50 lbs overweight, small penis, difficulty maintaining and erection; I was...I had the energy, I was at my best, but he kept on saying things like "I'm a loser" "you're just saying that because I'm paying you" "You're too nice."
I have no idea how to deal with these types...obviously, I do my best and I'm not very concerned by bouts of flacidness/tubbiness/appearance etc... but at the same time, there's only so much to be done to make him feel special... I'm not going to do it for free to give him the proper ego-boost he needs!
advice?
I understand where you are coming from. I recently had a guy who emailed me to ask if I see older men. I told him that yes I do;I don't descriminate . Okay, so then he says he is muhc much older ha snot had sex for ages and that he finds it hard to have full penetrative sex.
So I tell him that's fine there are plenty of other ways to have sexy fun. So we email back and foeth and then he sayds that this is getting embassing and he feels he has to cancel booking that he finally made.
Right so I ask him why he feels like that and he reiterates the erection thing and am i sure that it is not aproblem.
I reassure him again and then he says he is sorry if he upset me and rebooks.
. Lots of clients come to see WGS because they genuinely have an 'embarrassing problem' like this or a 'self esteem' issue or what have you. With regards to these clients I am not sure the 'wallowing in self pity' labels very fair as having genuine body issues is not to be taken lightly.
Having said that, whilst making any client feel special is part and parcel of the job, I have to agree with ladyjennaj that beyond that we are not there to offer counselling and deal with psychiatric issues. All you can do in these instances is to practice tolerance, compassion(never to the point of bending to a freebie of course) and what you are already doing; dishing out the compliments/reassurance. If they are not accepted then just go away from your session knowing that you did your best.
If you really can't handle dealing with these clients then perhaps not taking these bookings would be the answer.
Hope that helps