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Jessiegirl

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Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« on: 21 June 2022, 04:48:30 pm »
Hi all. I've a regular client and found out he has recent feedback from an escort offering bareback.
I would be very surprised if he had bareback sex but she does offer other services I don't do so he may have seen her for those services.

I don't want lose him as a client as we get on really well. Do you think it is reasonable for me to ask him if he had bareback sex. I don't see clients who bareback. I know he could lie but he's not the type to lie.
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English Green

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« Reply #1 on: 21 June 2022, 04:52:27 pm »
I think he probably would lie if he thought you would not see him again. More women do seem to be offering bareback now but bare in mind a lot might not put a trace booking in and just see some via the phone so you will never know anyway.
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KirstyKiss

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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #2 on: 21 June 2022, 05:25:03 pm »
Escorts are entitled to offer whatever services they like and it's not up to us to police clients.
It's none of your business who your clients have sex with (with or without a condom).
If I was your client and asked me that question I would never see you again. You are crossing a boundary.
If it bothers you (which it obviously does), don't see him.
« Last Edit: 21 June 2022, 05:28:12 pm by KirstyKiss »
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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #3 on: 21 June 2022, 05:28:12 pm »
I always check the last few AW feedbacks, but to be honest, it only helps you so much as they could be barebacking civvy women left, right and centre, let alone other escorts. If it was a client I was iffy about I'd probably dump (regular) or not see him (new), but if you otherwise enjoy bookings with him I'd just be particularly alert to safety.
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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #4 on: 21 June 2022, 05:28:41 pm »
It’s not your business. Also what would be the difference whether he fucks an escort or a night club lady bareback?
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KirstyKiss

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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #5 on: 21 June 2022, 05:32:10 pm »
If you're using condoms it doesn't matter a fuck what he does, surely?
Plus, the AW booking system is about as useless as a chocolate fireguard. 99% of my bookings are my by phone or text so your client's feedback isn't necessarily an indication of the number of escorts he's seen.
« Last Edit: 21 June 2022, 05:41:20 pm by KirstyKiss »
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« Reply #6 on: 21 June 2022, 05:58:32 pm »
I do think Jessie if you are using condoms for everything with the guy then you are protecting yourself. I know a lot of ladies do not want to see clients if they booked ladies that offer bareback but it's more about protecting yourself rather then what other clients or sex workers are doing.
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Jessiegirl

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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #7 on: 21 June 2022, 06:16:02 pm »
I always use condoms but do oral without so would be concerned if I catch an infection that way. He doesn't do nightclubs and leads a quiet life so doubt he's Fucking civvy women.
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« Reply #8 on: 21 June 2022, 06:29:05 pm »
Quote from: Jessiegirl on 21 June 2022, 06:16:02 pm
I always use condoms but do oral without so would be concerned if I catch an infection that way. He doesn't do nightclubs and leads a quiet life so doubt he's Fucking civvy women.

It's totally up to you who you see and do not want to see for whatever reasons it's your choice and your body. I think some that offer bareback will be offended by your post but each to there own.
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KirstyKiss

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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #9 on: 21 June 2022, 07:00:19 pm »
If you're worried about catching something then don't offer unprotected oral.
I've caught oral G in the past.
If you offer anything unprotected it's a risk you take.
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« Reply #10 on: 22 June 2022, 11:02:21 am »
To be honest Jessie if you are offering OWO which so many do now days you are at risk of catching something yourself even without seeing someone who might go with barebackers. OWO is still considered a service unprotected and infection spreader too. Although i understand the HIV risk of unprotected intercourse but if you use condoms for sex hopefully you will be ok.

I know of several ladies that have caught STI's from oral and gone on to spread it.

I know of one lady that caught a STI from doing oral without and because she needed the money she carried on seeing a few clients!! Not a good situation at all but if those clients looked after there health by having oral with a condom then her clients would not be risk of catching it or passing it on. A vicious circle.

Bareback is not safe nor is OWO nothing unprotected is.

 
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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #11 on: 22 June 2022, 12:19:24 pm »
I don’t do bareback nor do I do owo as I try to be cautious. I do check clients feedback and if they have seen someone who does offer it, I won’t see them. Obviously, I don’t know who has seen who without feedback but I take the same pro-cautions with everyone.p I get tested every month/six weeks myself and don’t work if the results aren’t back in time. I keep a close eye on my health as I have a kid and can’t get sick.

However, as others have said, you cant really police what he does by asking him. What he does is up to him. But I would take extra pro-cautions. My GUM clinic are pushing Dental dams which I am trying (with mixed results).

You can only protect you and worry about your risks. What other SW or clients choose to do outside of seeing you is something we can’t control.
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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #12 on: 23 June 2022, 08:02:06 pm »
Quote from: Jessiegirl on 21 June 2022, 06:16:02 pm
I always use condoms but do oral without so would be concerned if I catch an infection that way. He doesn't do nightclubs and leads a quiet life so doubt he's Fucking civvy women.

I personally don't think there is anything wrong in asking if you offer OWO. I have asked clients that usually if we're in conversation about it, they usually say no they haven't but they obviously could be lying. Obviously it's there business and choice if they choose to do that and choose to talk about it or not. I just like to gauge if they are a high risk or not as I used to offer OWO.
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« Reply #13 on: 24 June 2022, 01:24:58 pm »
Quote from: Teetee on 23 June 2022, 08:02:06 pm
I personally don't think there is anything wrong in asking if you offer OWO. I have asked clients that usually if we're in conversation about it, they usually say no they haven't but they obviously could be lying. Obviously it's there business and choice if they choose to do that and choose to talk about it or not. I just like to gauge if they are a high risk or not as I used to offer OWO.

I agree women need to do what they are comfortable with no matter what and if she feels happier reducing her risk down a bit more by asking him that is her choice. If women offer bareback thats up to them and nobody elses business but equally Jessie has the right to ask the client her concerns and if he is offended or do not want to answer that is his choice too. I get asked things all the time from clients that i think is a bit rude or offensive i can always lie and make something up or say not telling you as not your business.

I see the points on both sides here. Some women are digusted at bareback going on that's fine they can think that and i get the point about infections are not only from bareback but OWO too so i see all sides here as it can look a little hypocritical. As a guess i would think there could be more infections caught from OWO then bareback as loads offer OWO over bareback anyway.

I personally really do not care who offers bareback as whether they need the extra business and money from it or get off on having it "raw" that is down to them but i will avoid seeing men that ask me if bareback is on offer as it's not something i offer so those clients are not for me anyway.



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Re: Clients who have seen escorts that offer bareback
« Reply #14 on: 24 June 2022, 11:59:17 pm »
Quote from: English Green on 24 June 2022, 01:24:58 pm
I agree women need to do what they are comfortable with no matter what and if she feels happier reducing her risk down a bit more by asking him that is her choice. If women offer bareback thats up to them and nobody elses business but equally Jessie has the right to ask the client her concerns and if he is offended or do not want to answer that is his choice too. I get asked things all the time from clients that i think is a bit rude or offensive i can always lie and make something up or say not telling you as not your business.

I see the points on both sides here. Some women are digusted at bareback going on that's fine they can think that and i get the point about infections are not only from bareback but OWO too so i see all sides here as it can look a little hypocritical. As a guess i would think there could be more infections caught from OWO then bareback as loads offer OWO over bareback anyway.

I personally really do not care who offers bareback as whether they need the extra business and money from it or get off on having it "raw" that is down to them but i will avoid seeing men that ask me if bareback is on offer as it's not something i offer so those clients are not for me anyway.

I agree. I've recently stopped OWO but if a client would ask if I do bareback then I generally would not offer OWO to them.
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