Hi All,

Had a bit of a shock at an incall this month where prior comms were fine, prices and basic GFE discussed and agreed on.

Bit of a background, I am not AT ALL dominant and do not offer it at all. I'm not comfortable dong it to men at all.

Anyway, when he turned up, he wanted me to not touch him, just play with myself whilst he played with himself. Fine!

But then he asked me to get used condoms out of my bin and empty the contents onto my chest. He also wanted me to put the used condoms onto a toy and use the toy on myself. Obviously I said no, but I was just so in shock as this is so different to the services he had agreed with.

I ended up finishing the service as it began, with him playing with himself, and me playing with myself, although uncomfortable, and he has since asked to come back and do his requested services. I've explained I'm not comfortable, and was uncomfortable when he asked me but he is continuing to ask. I have had to block him, but he made an email IMessage account to message me again!

My question is, is this a common thing, or is he just a chancer? I'm relatively new to escorting, so I am still learning all the different genres of clients, and this was a first. Is this something that I need to keep an eye out for more, or just a one off? Would you have done the same and continued, or asked him to leave?

Thanks!

I think I'd have done what you did in only allowing what you felt (just about) able to tolerate and not allowing him anything else he turned up and requested, but you would equally have been within your rights to end the session as he was suggesting kinky and health risking activities that deviated a long way from a GFE.

By the way what he wanted you to do to yourself sounds more like the activities a dominant would tell a submissive to do and get a thrill from watching, rather than him trying to put you in a dominant role.

He's waving a whole washing line of red flags and I'd suggest if he contacts you again you advise him that any further contact will be regarded as harassment. He may well be getting his kicks from knowing you're fairly new and hoping you'll go along with his requests.

In answer to your question no, it's not common for someone to rock up wanting something so very different after you've agreed to GFE. In my experience it's often the case the other way round where a client requests some kink or pegging from services listed on my profile and then tones it down or chickens out when it comes to actually trying it. For the record I've never yet had a client willing to receive my 13 inch anal dildo -  "yeah I can take the biggest one you've got"-  when confronted with it 

Joking aside though I'm sorry to hear what an off putting experience you've had x

My dear this guy is a complete douche bag
He came knowing you were relatively new and preyed on you, the more uncomfortable he made you the more he got off on that and still is.

He's 100% a boundary pusher and a creep, pop his number on CE with strong detailed warning, block him on everything and if he contacts you again tell him you have kept all of his messages etc and if he continues to circumnavigate the blocks you have put in place and continues to ignore your wishes to not contact you again you will report him for harassment.

Your profile, your body, your choice he needs to respect that., what he is asking is not normal and the way he went about it is devious.

The times I am asked to do roleplay when it is not ticked on my profile.

By the way what he wanted you to do to yourself sounds more like the activities a dominant would tell a submissive to do and get a thrill from watching, rather than him trying to put you in a dominant role.

He may well be getting his kicks from knowing you're fairly new and hoping you'll go along with his requests.

So with this, I didn't mean the condom part was him trying to make me dominant; reading it back, I should've been clearer oops. I meant that he kept trying to get me to degrade and verbally humiliate him throughout, before asking for the condom act. Reading back, I missed that bit. I agree that the condom thing is more submissive, which is more my style, but not if it's gonna risk my health...

These more risky services often carry a higher price tag so it's likely he was taking advantage of the fact that you're quite new to the industry and pushing your boundaries to get what he wanted without paying the going rate for that kind of kink.

He was a younger guy so I'm surprised he'd do this tbh! He looked around 24 (I'm 22 but my usual client base is from 35-55), but then again, any age could take advantage if they wanted to. I'm just glad I stuck to my instincts and didn't do it.

I've heard of some guys asking to buy the used condoms after the days work. I dont think that's too bad because it doesn't affect you but fully understand why you wouldn't want multiple men's semen in and inside you ...

I've had TW's ask to buy condoms before, and a few of my friends (who are dommes) have had their subs request to drink other men's used condoms... I can understand the requests if I was a domme, BUT I'M NOT 

The times I am asked to do roleplay when it is not ticked on my profile.

DO NOT get me sTARTED ON THIS. I mention that roleplay and outfit requests are a NO due to working from hotels, and at least 2 will ask a day.

I ask for 'any specific requests' at the same time as the time, date, duration, location - in order to prevent such surprises as well as try stop pre-booking back and forth.

How does this work for you? I found that in my area, if I send them a "script"/"form" styled text, they just ignore it. Sometimes I have to go through the back and forth to actually get a booking. Same with deposits though - NO ONE in my area will pay a deposit EVER. Now I only request a deposit if the booking is over an hour and I just risk losing out on money from booking my hotel. I think it's because the majority of my clients are 35-55 and are married/in a relationship so don't want it on their bank statements.


QUICK EDIT AS I WAS ABOUT TO POST: He just messaged me AGAIN from another email address. He has like 1000000 email addresses which are different combos of his first and last name, and birth year. I also noticed that he is actually most likely 31 as he has "93" in all his email addresses (1993?)