Hi Guys.
Thankyou for all your replies and your good advice.
Yes i can see that i really need to clear the air. I think my problem is that I'm not a naturally dominant person and i worry too much about upsetting other people when really i should think more about my own feelings.
I will have to talk to him before the overnight as i don't want to travel all that way and then get into a confrontation when i get there.
I wish i had never agreed to start travelling to his for overnights now,I've set a rod for my own back. A few of you suggested that i ask him to see me in a hotel in my hometown. That did come up in conversation before and he mentioned that he would expect the cost of the hotel to be taken off the price of the overnight! I didn't agree as the price he is paying already is int really enough in my opinion for 12 hours of my time (i met him working through my last agency and he still pays the same price as then) Money has been an issue from the start,when we first started arranging private overnights he wanted to come to a cheaper 'arrangement' for seeing me on a regular basis. I was firm however and said it wouldn't be happening.
I have spoken with my boyfriend and he says to use him as the excuse for not doing overnights,i.e,say that my boyfriend is very unhappy about me doing them and i will have to stop as my relationship is more important. Then if i feel comfortable just see him for shorter bookings. I really don't want to be doing overnights,i dread them coming round and i can see now I've made a rod for my own back. The money just is int worth it for something i don't want to be doing (maybye if i was getting ?1000+
)
I think the problem is he sees us as friends and likes to kid himself that it is more than a financial arrangement and using my name is a part of that.I can see now that i will just have to explain politely that i would like to be called Colette while we are on an appointment and if he starts been funny or dismissive with me i will have to say i cant see him anymore.
Wish me luck.....