Ps...should have also said the message to me said ."I'm Xxx partner "

Experience of client death, is one reason I insist on on the day confirmation.

Not too long ago I received a death notice text from a wife, likely sent to all contacts it detailed his business and funeral arrangements. We actually had contact a few days before, he mentioned feeling unwell and I know he had health issues for a long time.

On the other hand one client was a total surprise wasn't particularly of an age, and fairly fit.

I have some clients that I’ve become so close with that I can’t even imagine what it would be like without them, I regularly text with them and talk about my life like with real friends, so I feel for you. Hopefully you will get over this shocking news :'(

That sounds awful, but I would be inclined to follow the other women's advice here.

Whether he is still alive or otherwise, contact has to cease.

I know it's odd in these situations but I am sorry for your loss x

For many years I regularly visited a disability client, his carers sometimes parents were involved even if just letting me into the house and getting him prepared. They would either go out or one would be in another room. I only learned about his death through social media. Did feel a little odd, as if they could have told me, but I also respected they wanted their privacy.  He actually had quite an impact on many people, and I learned a lot from him.

A few clients from when I knew them were in their mid or late seventies and that was over 15 years ago so they may have passed away but there are others I know for certain have died. They were local business men who had an online presence and they happily gave me their real names and details of their businesses. Not wise in my opinion but I have never and would never betray a trust. 

After their deaths I had no messages or calls so assume that despite their openness with me they kept a tight rein on their own secret life. These men had wives and families.  Had I received any texts or calls after I knew of the deaths I would not have responded and/or denied knowledge of these men.

I had an escort friend 10 years ago who attended the funeral of one of her clients but that's another story! 😱

It's a weird one.

I had a client who was loosing his eyesight. Lovely man, bit of a tragic story, which I shan't go in to.

It is inevitable that we will end up really caring for some who we share such intimacy with.

It can feel like a very abrupt cessation. I hope that you are ok and it's lovely to hear how sweet you are with your painful situation x