I applied for an agency yesterday and she was nice then after wards she said if I’m really size 10, as I do not look the size. She slated my appearance a bit, it did make me cry tbh but it made me think I need to get counselling specifically for bdd. What she said, hurts my feelings abit because I want my clients to see beauty; as never got complaints in real life. I don’t know what I’m asking . I guess I just am venting. If you have bdd; what did you do to help overcome it ? I’m bassically the beauty standard so I hate the fact I have bdd. I obsess over my looks and photos it’s annoying


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like Amy said above people will always comment and judge your looks, for some you'll be too fat, for others too thin, for others too young, too old etc... You will never make everyone happy so you need to like yourself first and foremost. I would Tell that pimp what I really think about his size and looks.

OP I read that and immediately thought 2 things, firstly  what an absolute c##t of a human

My second thought was the more important one for you, this 'pimp' is playing the classic game of make a person feel less than perfect,  bring them down to a low point, give them self doubt and then make then feel like only they can help you.
They will make you feel like shit then offer to 'take you on' but will need a bigger cut of the fee as marketing you will be an issue, however they can help etc.
The likeleyhood is they will try to make you reliant on them for all your bookings and you will end up doing stuff you don't want to do.

If you really really want to do sex work then be independent,  you are beautiful and you are worth it, there is a market for everyone in this industry.

Yes you will get comments and guys will judge you but that is their issue not yours, work at being happy with who you are and love yourself,  your opinion is the only one that matters

But 'high end clientele' is just marketing fluffspeak - they're punters, no different to the ones the rest of us get?

The only difference is that they'll be paying more, and given that the pimp will take a big slice anyway what's the point? It's unlikely you'll earn more (because as we've seen here before, the higher the rate generally means the fewer the bookings) and you'll get no say at all in who you see or what they're told to get them through the door.

If the men booking you at the moment are unpleasant, that's a marketing/screening problem and nothing to with how much they pay. A pimp may be helpful with the first if you don't have the time to make lots of ads and so on, but they won't do anything about the second.

Er, suggesting that women who pay for X or Y cosmetic treatments do so because they have mental health problems (rather than because they want to, or like the way it looks) is not what we do here. It's also nothing to do with sex work.

So called high end clients (wealthy doesn't necessarily mean they're nice to spend time with and I've had my share of millionaires who have tended to be arrogant and not welcome back in some cases) think because they pay higher fees they are "special" but they're basically men who want to offload their junk just like Billy the the sparky who's a good laugh and not up his own backside 🙄

Definitely. Some of the wealthiest punters I've met have also been the most needy, annoying and entitled of the lot. And so have some of the not so wealthy ones; there's no correlation at all.

Point taken Amy 🙂