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LadyBelle

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Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« on: 30 October 2014, 10:27:06 pm »
Hi girls,

So I have some fantastic photos that are retouched and make me look better than I am in real life. However the photos are me, they arent overly photoshopped  but they are shopped. Recently I have had 2 clients get to the front door and then tell me they had changed their mind

This is making my self esteem very low, I wondered if this was normal. I am going to get some different photos taken and put up. But does this just happen to me or does it happen to others too?

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #1 on: 30 October 2014, 10:51:06 pm »
It does happen but for two to happen close to one another I would suspect it has something to do with pix.
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #2 on: 30 October 2014, 11:00:40 pm »
I'd agree with Lady Lust. Some clients are very particular about weight/shape, so if your photos are a bit too flattering/misleading they might just walk on principle.

I've had one man scarper just as I was opening the door, but he texted later to say he was too nervous!
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #3 on: 30 October 2014, 11:02:56 pm »
Some guys want the exact these are called perfectionists.

LadyBelle

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #4 on: 30 October 2014, 11:10:30 pm »
I am unsure what to do at present as they are the only pics i can use til i get some more done. But I dont want to lose business.

What should I do? keep those pics for now? I suppose I have no choice, I cant stop working. I dont want it to happen again that is all.

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #5 on: 30 October 2014, 11:13:55 pm »
What about until you get some new professional ones doing some on your phone? It will be better than misleading ones?
Also some clients are idiot look, see, go ones.
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #6 on: 30 October 2014, 11:15:51 pm »
Looks like the only option you have then is to use the photoshopped photos but if it's happened twice it can happen again and you need to be prepared for that until you get replacements done.
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #7 on: 31 October 2014, 12:05:24 am »
Do you still have the originals? If you explain the problem, would the person who did the photo shopping not be prepared to redo them so they're flattering, but not unrealistically so?
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #8 on: 31 October 2014, 12:37:25 am »
I don't know though. Yes the fact 2 have done it in a short space of time is rare but it could be coincidence. You can get the pervs with too much time on their hands who want to look and go as stated, or who do it to make you feel bad about yourself.

In 4 years, I've had 5 walkers so not too bad I spose.  I've saved them of course as walker 1 etc.  3 though phoned back months later! This really annoys me because if one doesn't like the look of me then I guess they are entitled to walk although my photos aren't shopped so quite clear, but the ones who phoned back were obv just look and go's who were too thick to realise I've saved their numbers and were probably going to try it again so you do get them like that. Some of those even accepted a drink and only when we got to the bedroom did they do the I've left my wallet in the car!! TWs who slipped through the net I think. Oh and I've had a couple who haggled when they were at my place and I said no so they left but that's slightly different.

For now can you not perhaps just take some 'real' ones yourself with a camera perched up and add them to your collection in case it is because of your pics? I do that.

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #9 on: 31 October 2014, 08:19:20 am »
Walkers are the worst and they really do your head in. 2 in a short space of time, I personally find worrying. IMHO, I would think that it has got to do with your pictures. It's good that you can be honest and state that they make you look better than in real life. I agree with sourgrapes in that it'd be a good idea to get them re-edited to be more accurate.

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #10 on: 31 October 2014, 08:34:54 am »
What is interesting is that the only time I've ever had anyone turn away at the door was a time when I was absolutely looking great and probably better than the photos I was using.

Two in a row however and by you saying upfront you are aware of the photoshop on your photos, I would say you already have a good idea that your photos are not representative.

There is photoshopping to remove stray objects, marks that aren't usually there and there is photoshopping that makes you look slimmer, much bigger boobs etc. If you have had the latter then I'd suggest you brief your photographer better, minimal make-up, or close to what you do yourself if you are having that done, and minimal PS. In the meantime half-decent ones can be created yourself with a simple camera and tripod.

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #11 on: 31 October 2014, 09:48:21 am »
Hi girls,

So I have some fantastic photos that are retouched and make me look better than I am in real life. However the photos are me, they arent overly photoshopped  but they are shopped. Recently I have had 2 clients get to the front door and then tell me they had changed their mind

This is making my self esteem very low, I wondered if this was normal. I am going to get some different photos taken and put up. But does this just happen to me or does it happen to others too?

I would recommend that you use photos that look as much like you as possible. I used to have studio shots and I had this problem. I now have regular snapshots and the response has been very positive.

I did have a walk-out two days ago, the guy said I was "too tall." Since my profile has my height on it and my photos are recent/unshopped, I didn't feel paranoid or anything - just annoyed with the guy for wasting my time. I took some satisfaction in known that he'd had to pay for parking and driven in especially to see me, so it wasn't just my time wasted.  ;D

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #12 on: 31 October 2014, 11:14:32 am »
I'm yet to have anyone walk, but I've only been escorting for a year, so there's still time! It's understandable you're upset by it, in this line of work our looks are scrutinised and it can be soul destroying to have them criticised!
But I agree with the others, the pics are obviously the problem here, so try not to feel too disheartened.
I take my own, or get the bf to take them. I do faff on with them and change contrast, cropping etc, but nothing drastic, I believe they should be a true representative of you. x

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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #13 on: 31 October 2014, 01:42:31 pm »
I've only ever had two walk-outs, one was because I had the wrong football team on my wall  ::), and one was just the other
day, it was a strange one..
It was the old "forgot my wallet", but this guy had been texting me half the day, even sent me a video when he was on the
motorway on his way, came in and couldn't get his hands off me from the moment he walked in.
He'd asked beforehand if he could use the shower coz he came straight from doing a job at his grans caravan or something, I
said that wouldn't be a problem, he asked would I join him, I said I'd just had one, all this being relevant coz I think he maybe
tried to get me in the shower with him and THEN do the "forgot the wallet" act..
But since I wasn't going in that shower his plan (if that's what it was) fell to pieces, so he went down to his van to look for it etc,
even text me he was on his way back to where he last used it blah blah..
I was pretty pissed off as I'd turned down another client for him coz he'd booked for an hour.

It doesn't make you feel good at all, and it happening twice in a row must've made you feel like shit..
Like other posters said, get your photo's re-done, or maybe it was just a fluke and see how you get on with them??
Good luck either way, hope it doesn't happen again coz it is a shit feeling..
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Re: Being turned away/Clients changing their mind on arrival
« Reply #14 on: 31 October 2014, 01:51:06 pm »
My suggestion is, until you get new pictures, make some attractive offers (if possible as I do not know anything about you) that will not make clients go away.  Whether they are bad guys or not, I understand when you say is affecting your self esteem.