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Aqua Allegoria

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #15 on: 19 August 2014, 04:52:04 pm »
Remember we as escorts might not see but clients will see discrimination without explanation.


'' The unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people'' That is how discrimination defines. So of course some parts of society will see it like this.

I know what definitions means thank you.

MD, she offers explanation: your big penis doesn't fit my vagina.

The discrimination issue remains vague. Should I understand that clients who like small boobs/skinny brunettes discriminate against me?

Come on!

Sexy_Kitty

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #16 on: 19 August 2014, 05:31:22 pm »
Remember we as escorts might not see but clients will see discrimination without explanation.


'' The unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people'' That is how discrimination defines. So of course some parts of society will see it like this.

I know what definitions means thank you.

OK, if you know definitions so well then please explain to me how I am being unjust by refusing to see someone who is going to physically hurt me by bruising an internal organ or rip my vagina canal or, at the very least, cause me severe pain?

I personally think that I am giving men with large penises a MUCH better treatment by explaining to them that I will not be able to give them rigorous penetration/penetration for a long period of time or in some cases penetration at all before they make a booking, I'm not just looking to get money out of whoever I can and fuck it if they get a good service or not. Sorry but you don't seem to have the vaguest idea of what discrimination means! Going by your definition refusing to have bareback sex with someone who has HIV would be considered discrimination! Refusing to have sex with someone who's black or who's Asian, yes, that's discrimination because you are refusing to see them based on the color of their skin-- refusing to see someone because they are going to hurt you physically is not!

And to be honest, 90% of my clients are generally nice guys who don't want to hurt me, I rarely get opposition from someone when I say "sorry that's hurting me, can we do another position" or "babe can we take a little break and I'll put you in my mouth? I'm getting a little sore" they just say of course and usually end up apologizing to me for being too rough or whatever, so I think most men would prefer to have a warning before hand as they aren't psychopaths looking to hurt women.

@CharlotteParis, yes what I put up after my last booking with a large man was a FAQ saying that if a client was very large they should contact me before a booking, if they're fine with just receiving oral and a HJ then I'm fine seeing them, I just can't do penetration. I'm just wondering if there should be something in my profile since I'm not sure if all men read the FAQs?
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Aqua Allegoria

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #17 on: 19 August 2014, 05:36:34 pm »

OK, if you know definitions so well then please explain to me how I am being unjust by refusing to see someone who is going to physically hurt me by bruising an internal organ or rip my vagina canal or, at the very least, cause me severe pain?

I personally think that I am giving men with large penises a MUCH better treatment by explaining to them that I will not be able to give them rigorous penetration/penetration for a long period of time or in some cases penetration at all before they make a booking, I'm not just looking to get money out of whoever I can and fuck it if they get a good service or not. Sorry but you don't seem to have the vaguest idea of what discrimination means! Going by your definition refusing to have bareback sex with someone who has HIV would be considered discrimination! Refusing to have sex with someone who's black or who's Asian, yes, that's discrimination because you are refusing to see them based on the color of their skin-- refusing to see someone because they are going to hurt you physically is not!

@CharlotteParis, yes what I put up after my last booking with a large man was a FAQ saying that if a client was very large they should contact me before a booking, if they're fine with just receiving oral and a HJ then I'm fine seeing them, I just can't do penetration. I'm just wondering if there should be something in my profile since I'm not sure if all men read the FAQs?

Yes you are. You make sure they won't be disappointed and won't waste their time. Which is very professional of you.

I don't know. Honestly no idea. I know they don't necessarily read all profile. Any other lady could help?

Oh wait, how about writing about it in your blog? And make sure it is the very first FAQ, that would be good;)

tvhappiness

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #18 on: 19 August 2014, 06:43:51 pm »
Black, white, green, I don't care if you penis is too big, I will stop the booking. Brings back memories of a guy who had a fist for a penis. Oh God, never again, even sucking it was a chore! Then he tried to put it in me!!! :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( I think, he only got like 2 inches in, and I could tell this thing is NOT going to fit inside! So I told him, " I am sorry but this isn't going to work, it hurts really bad I can't do this!" Either  offer a blowie or hand job, or stop the booking and refund. I couldn't walk properly for 3 days!!! And he was in for like maybe 2 minutes or less lol

There is no point in injuring yourself, that it will cause you to take a day off. I don't have a va-jay-jay obviously do anal. I think good lube is important and relaxing. I think girth is the thing you have to worry about. So find out what girth you can take and can't, toy can help there. Just put "I won't have sexual intercourse with anyone with a girth size over 6.5 inches as it painful".

But the OP's original post is something I do worry about...

Bluetits

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #19 on: 19 August 2014, 07:33:55 pm »
If it were me I would think about putting it on my profile and I think if possible mention a size as suggested because I can imagine twats phoning you or emailing you saying I'm 7 inch can you handle that babe or something whereas if you put a size the genuine ones won't need to discuss it beforehand so you won't have to keep trying to suss out the good from the bad as I can imagine the weirdos having a field day with it.

Erotic flower

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #20 on: 19 August 2014, 07:39:33 pm »
I've had very painful sex with bigger clients and even though used a lot of lube and doggy style to start I ended up feeling like I was being tortured certainly not turned on.
Had  emails from guys stating how big they are and I've replied by saying im not going to be able to accommodate you. why waste each others time.
 

Bluetits

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Re: refusing to see clients who are too big?
« Reply #21 on: 19 August 2014, 07:43:24 pm »
Oh and I don't think it's discrimination at all. It maybe would be if your profile said guys under 5 inches 100 hour but any above it's 150 lol but I doubt there are any rules on it especially if it was on your profile rather than at the booking stage.