However, some find it degrading, wrong, filthy, you name it. They either hate us by default or pity us and try to save us. Sometimes when looking at scathing punter reviews, their behaviour towards us and that they have lots of control as they pay and call the shots, I’ve got doubts whether the job is as empowering as it seemed.
I can well relate to Ms Millie.
Candid post by Mirror.
Empowerment. I like this site because it has a strong campaigning aspect and it understands these problems we face, connects us to other support and help if needed.
I'm several decades older than you, besides the huge size difference. However. . . It is easy to see these problems, clearly.
You/WGs decline services as a result of the degrading/derogatory tone of his voice or the inconsiderate/indiscreet messages from men i.e. demanding hotel names without a booking; generally, no respect towards WGs and disregarding WG's "right" to privacy. XW5 is right but they are like parasites that "infest" in this industry.
It's essentially "self-care" that drives WGs to decline to meet these indiscreet men and stop contact. These sad men might go onto launch some hate campaign as a result. "you have regretted you hadn't seen me, you 'FAT ugly whore'!". "errrrmmm, NO."
The trouble is these can give rise to depression, anxiety, PTSD etc, at least a massive dose of stress, that ruines your health. When I was outed, this led to all kinds of major health problems, ended up with a triple bypass (took 9 months to recover from) and my Dad died of profound grief and shame when I was outed. Mother refused to speak since.
It may be useful if more adult sites start providing an "Etiquette" page for both new and seasoned decent service users. It might make things easier to navigate and show exactly basic etiquette/manners would be. We all need to have some basic rules to function, don't we? If they have no idea, that's not a good start.