Argh, horrible indeed. I am very glad you're safe now.
One of the ways AW is a mixed blessing is because while it enables anyone to start working, it also makes it very easy to find vulnerable people to exploit. Abusers can have lists of potential victims - newly registered users fitting a search - automatically emailed to them.
You can avoid many such people, but it means not being a victim in more ways than one.
Someone called Micheal made an appointment with me overnight.
Lots of people will not even accept overnight bookings from people they have not already met. It's a long time to be with someone you, for whatever reason, do not get on with.
First of all to even make this appointment I had to lie a lot to my parents. I even had to get an escort friend to pretend I was gonna be sleeping round her house
Lying to parents and partners can sometimes be necessary, but someone has to know exactly where you are, who you are with, and what time to expect calls from you. One call is better than none, and two is better, including a "Hi, I'm with them, speak to you later as agreed" - they know someone knows and is looking out for you.
anyway the man said it was appointment in London but it wasnt it ended up being in Hertfordshire.
If they mess you around, think very very carefully about seeing them. See Emily's screening method..
I took a train to stevanage and met him in mc donalds.
If you chose to meet someone outside wherever the booking is going to happen, that is fine. (For one thing, in this case, they doubtless appear on someone's CCTV with you.) But you have to know - and have told someone else - where you are going to end up.
He made me walk several yards behind him on the way to his place. I just had to walk and follow.
Argh!!
I thought oh god why did i agree to this.
Next time you think this, walk out. Always, always, always listen to your gut. It's only money you're losing by walking, and it could end up being much more than that.
If you ever see the film
Heat, the armed robber played by Robert De Niro talks about not having anything he could not walk away from if he had to. Same here: do not take anything on a booking you could not just abandon if, as here, you feel you need to get out.
I then said I wanted my payment first and again it was oh dont worry about. I then pushed him off me and said i want my payment and after about 20 mins of asking to be paid. He gave what I thought was 100 but it wasnt. It was 60 and i said this isnt what we agreed , he said he would would pay me 600 for the night. It went from that to 300 and then 100.
Hooray for sticking to the first rule: get the money first.
When they mess about or even dream of haggling, walk. Ideally with something to compensate for being messed about, but walk.
And the annoying thing is I couldnt got back home and he knew that.
This is a huge lesson: never ever get into that position, but if you do, never ever let them know.
It was you who mentioned going to see someone by bus and being met at the bus stop, wasn't it? If you cannot find someone to drive you and cannot pay for a minicab, you are not charging enough.
If you cannot get home without the co-operation of someone, you have to really trust that person and there is no client out there who can be trusted that much.
I am going to skip the next bit, but in your position, I'd feel I'd been raped and I would be looking for support about that.
Never again will i do overnights and Im not seeing africans ever again...
As your mother could no doubt tell you, shits come in all colours as well as all shapes and sizes.