Kylie, I can't tell which bit you were trying to quote in the above post, or I'd fix it?

Anyway, we do not get involved in cross-board squabbling here; what happens on other forums stays there and I will not have it dragged and smeared around on here like roadkill caught in the wheel arch. If you want to rant about a punter who has upset you (and if somebody has upset you, that's understandable, no matter how OTT we think your behaviour is) then that's fine, but in instances like this please don't expect people to agree with your course of action, even if they sympathise with your distress.

Any more histrionics about how the whole punting world is against you, or references to any supposed campaigns led by members of other boards and the thread will be locked. Has it occurred to you that if you didn't make such a drama out of it and had just ignored the text message in the first place you could have prevented all this? Yes, you have the right to speak to people however you want but you need to be prepared for the consequences if you're going to behave unprofessionally. Just as I have every right to jump off the roof of my hotel, but that doesn't alter the fact that it would be a fucking stupid thing to do - all the pillock did was call you a stupid name, for God's sake. Lord help you if you ever get a REALLY nasty one.

Kylie if you're getting what you think is "too much abuse" you should think about a change of name at this point. Get a new one,change your photos, delete your old profile and do a little "fresh start". Leave your old "working persona" behind and adopt a new one that doesn't engage in drama with clients and counts to ten before calling someone "ignorant twat". Remember that "drama attracts drama". And it's ultimately very bad for business cause not only it makes you look insecure and unprofessional but scares the good drama-free low 'key types' and attracts the trouble makers and the TW's. And you're in the sex industry to make money not war.

And next time some guy calls and you don't like the sound of him just politely tell him you're booked for the whole week. End off. No need for abuse from either sides. You mental peace will remain intact and your blood pressure low. The key to this job is how to make the most money with the less amount of hassle (not the other way round). And don't worry too much cause this job is a learning process.

You'll get there don't worry.

I would add, if forums involving punters are making you this unhappy, its simple, stay away from them.

IMO many of them are breeding grounds for unhealthy debate.  I just don't go on them period as you can get a really warped view of clients/escorts/men in general from them.

We are the only ones who can minimise the stress in our lives.  Theres a lot of good advice on this thread which I won't repeat but generally speaking if something is causing us stress its good to take a step back and think if there is anything we can change.  Its all about making life as emotionally healthy as possible.

This isn't just aimed at you btw - we all have to put up with a lot of crap in this job and of course it can get us all down at times. If you can find a way to deal with it that minimises the stress, it can only be a good thing for both escort and client.

Alright, guys. I know everyone wants to have their say - and they should - on the topic but this thread is turning into a bit of a "pile up". Kylie's had the same general points reiterated to her several times now, and it's clearly upsetting to her, so I recommend that we just leave this topic here.

Anyone who has anything to say which has not already been said (and is supportive, kind and helpful), then do add it. If anyone else adds a post about not swearing at clients and/or not paying any attention to punter forums (which are certainly both good ideas, they just doesn't need to be repeated by each of us in turn after just one incident of a member getting into a bit of a tangle) then I'll lock the thread.

The advice here is good but it's being repeated so many times that the person it's aimed at is starting to feel a bit berated. I know that's absolutely not anyone's intention here, but I also know that things don't need to be repeated anymore. Please PM me if you have questions or comments about this. Thank you.

Advice I would give to anyone - "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar..." 

I am still learning and I do make mistakes (made a huge one on Friday night, in fact!!), but I find the easiest way to get out of any situation is to be nice - at the end of the day, you reap what you sew...

Good luck xxx

Kylie, this is not and has never been a private forum, although I do agree completely with the second part of the first sentence.

SAAFE is publicly viewable and whatever is posted here can be read by all - our aim here is to provide information, help and support for those reading whether they are members or not.

As I have already said countless times, what happens on other boards STAYS on other boards. Nobody has 'supported' anyone or anything here on this forum and as your post clearly relates to something that has nothing to do with SAAFE and nothing I say about staying on topic, not dragging us into board wars and perpetuating scraps with people who cannot join here and participate themselves I am locking this thread. If you will continue to read the sites, posts and comments which are upsetting you, we can't help as the only way for them not to do so is to ignore them as the rest of us do.

The function of this site (and the forum, which is only a small part of it after all) is to offer advice, support and help to sex workers in any way we can - nothing more and nothing less. We are not self-appointed experts, we're ordinary workers and it is up to the individual what they post here just as it is up to the reader to decide how they interpret the views and advice given. Nobody here is paid for their time, everybody's contributions are valued and we have no interest in or role to play in whatever tedious bitching and backbiting goes on around the internet - people can post freely and to assume that because somebody is a woman or a sex worker they must be nice is naive, to say the least.

This is the last word on the subject, and it is certainly not just aimed at Kylie, although she clearly has good reason to be distressed just as any lone young woman being viciously bullied by a mob of grown adults would undoubtedly be. Shame on those responsible. The moderation and admin team here is small, we have lives and other work to do and whilst we all chose to agree to our roles on SAAFE, we do not need to be policing dramas which have nothing to do with us. This ends now.

Locked.