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« Reply #300 on: 03 April 2016, 04:35:33 pm »
I have tried to get a SD when I used to live in London. I was working then already, but thought I could get some nice SD. I set up account 3 different times and eventually was fed up with it. So many guys were e-mailing me, but it was getting nowhere. The ones I wanted to give a chance I wanted to meet them right after a few e-mails, as I don't like exchanging e-mails too long. One meeting will be better than hundreds of e-mails. But they disagreed and kept writing very long e-mails, as they wanted to "connect with me and not rush things".  I got 1 SD, he seemed nice at first, but he was very demanding and barely gave any money. Very popular saying for them was that they don't want to give me money as they "respect me too much for that ". And that they don't want me to feel cheap as money was exchanging..... Well, when I work and get paid I don't feel cheap. But when I met up with maybe 10 SD who obviously were well off and just wanted sex for free -well that was cheap....  :( >:(  It didn't work for me.

But I know 1 girl who was doing great in London, the same nationality, same age, a bit different look, but she was very good at this and somehow could find very generous guys. It worked for her very nicely. But for me - will never try that again.


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« Reply #301 on: 01 May 2016, 12:36:03 pm »
Hi,
I'm a uni student and I've recently signed up to SA and would like your advice on posting pics. Should I post pics with my face blurred or not? Would being identified as a SB potentially affect my chances of employment in the future?

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« Reply #302 on: 01 May 2016, 12:50:08 pm »
I've merged this in here Laura, since there's a lot of information which might be helpful to you :).

If you do a search for things like 'face picture' or 'showing your face' then there are separate specific discussions about this too - for what it's worth I daresay somebody finding your picture on sites like these might make it easier to blag that it isn't prostitution, but if you're concerned then I'd say exercise caution. You don't have to rush to decide and once you've put any picture online you've basically lost control over it.

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« Reply #303 on: 01 May 2016, 10:49:04 pm »
In terms of success rate with SDs I've found it interesting reading this thread. Whilst I have read blogs about how to attract SDs get the right one i.e. someone who isnt after sex all the time, I am shocked to hear stories about about guys always pushing the limits after a few dates.
Has anyone had a long-term SD say over a year, or what is the average lifespan of a  SD/SB relationship?

As for pics, I will blur my facee in the public pics for my privacy.

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« Reply #304 on: 03 May 2016, 02:27:14 pm »
I tried the SD/SB thing before and it never works out. The guys will really only spend money on both of you and only when you're together. For example, trying to get a SD to buy new clothes or a new phone is like pulling teeth. But, they usually will pay well for expensive dinners or trips/vacations when you're together.

The only times I've had any success is when I had a regular escort client who I really liked, personally. Then, we'd meet for our regular appointment (and exchange) and occasionally go to fancy dinners or on holiday.

If you're looking for money, stick with escorting. If you're looking for companionship, then get a SD.

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« Reply #305 on: 03 May 2016, 04:42:17 pm »
I tried the SD/SB thing before and it never works out. The guys will really only spend money on both of you and only when you're together. For example, trying to get a SD to buy new clothes or a new phone is like pulling teeth. But, they usually will pay well for expensive dinners or trips/vacations when you're together.

The only times I've had any success is when I had a regular escort client who I really liked, personally. Then, we'd meet for our regular appointment (and exchange) and occasionally go to fancy dinners or on holiday.

If you're looking for money, stick with escorting. If you're looking for companionship, then get a SD.
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For example, trying to get a SD to buy new clothes or a new phone is like pulling teeth.

So true. I had an older guy who didn't even want to buy me a new phone and will find it hard to even let go ?100 in my hands. Most men are very tight fisted and cheap. They don't want to let go of their money. But want pussy. Surely if you are well off, buying your  partner a ?400 phone is nothing?  If you are not well off then why are you looking for an SB? To give her pizza hut money? Maybe they don't like feeling used? Or don't want to be reminded of the fact that you're only with them for the money? Oh, I remember, they are deluded right? Well I don't like feeling used for sex and as arm candy/ego booster for nothing in return. SO they can fuck off. For the people that want an SD,Good luck. To me an SD is just a TV thing, equivalent to millionaire escorts. Very Rare.

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« Reply #306 on: 03 May 2016, 08:09:39 pm »
Sorry to add to this but I tried the sugar daddy/sugar baby thing.

There has been a huge influx in the media about these sites and "successful sugar babies" e.g. dailyfail  ::)
a) I think these articles are paid for by sugar daddy websites in order to get more exposure, so more people sign up tot heir site and they can get more money from the guys.
b) Those articles paint a rosy picture of what is actually not that great/lucrative of a "career" option. Don;t let those bloody articles fool you.

sugar daddy/sugar baby is a cute word for escort. but it comes without the benefits of being an actual escort.
i) you will have to sift through numerous and I mean numerous time wasters! Guys who are poor but want to pretend that they are rich so that they convince you to sleep with them. Or some guys who just want to play text tennis/email tennis and get you to send numerous pictures of yourself etc.

ii) Sugar babies are often used as opposed to escorts because men are able to get wildly discounted prices compared to using actual escorts. Have a look around on other forums,(without naming names) they talk about being able to get an over night for 300 pounds compared to the 800 etc you could charge as an escort. if your fine with that okay, or you could set up a profile and market yourself as a sugarbaby style escort with set rates. Someone who isn't available to everyone and only for discerning gentleman who you will enjoy spending time with. you can even call yourself a sugar baby. 


iii) Sugar babies have to deal with a lot of boundary pushing! and they are easily shortchanged/robbed whatever you want to call it.
e.g. One of the guys i talked to was offering me "?4000" a month to see him every weekend. He wanted to have bareback sex with me and only pay me the 4000 after he had fucked me 4 times" 
He could have been a time waster but if he wasn't i'm sure he would have fucked me without paying me a dime and i would have hung onto the hope that he would pay me. There are so many guys out there who do this.
 
One guy would offer a girl 250 on prepaid credit card and only load the card up with 50. It is ridiculous!! They see you as fresh easy meat. Read all the stories above! They're lovely genuine sounding men who are trying to get a free fuck/try to make you bareback/ do ridiculous things that you don't do.
If you ask for the money upfront they can brand you as a gold digging whore and convince you that it's not the done thing if you don't take money after you've had sex etc  (where it then never materialises) ::) :FF

I think so many girls are going on these sites etc unprepared and not knowing the actual realities. I am not saying there aren't success stories but please don't go in with rose tinted glasses. If you are going to do it make sure you do it with the escort mindset (absorb everything you read here) and know what you will be dealing with and what your boundaries are. 

Some escorts have SD/SB relationships with their clients. Which I think is best. Good/real sugar daddies rarely ever say "let me be your sugar daddy" They more ask to come to an arrangement of some kind/ they're besotted with you and want to help you out etc. These are the better type of arrangements because you can just drop them when they become problematic.

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« Reply #307 on: 03 May 2016, 10:16:05 pm »
Fantastic post, Lulu!

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« Reply #308 on: 04 May 2016, 01:20:24 am »
Thank you fabulassie.  :)

I went on a little bit and didn't answer your questions. I'm so sorry! I just wanted you to be aware of the realities. You might think it won't happen to you and it can't be that bad but honestly I compare how I work now to back then and it's crazy because i actually did okay for a SB, but I wouldn't go back to it ever.
a) You don't have to show your face.
b) Those blogs that tell you to find a sugar daddy who doesn't want a lot of sex are selling you dreams.
(Sorry i sound so cynical!!.) They might enjoy your company, your intelligence etc but don't lose sight of the fact that they are on these sites trying to find girls to have sex with. (no matter how romantically those sites put it)

c) The length of time these relationships last vary! No one can give you a answer. They might meet you once, they might meet you for a year but also bear in mind there are new girls constantly signing up to that site. (being sold dreams of a better life and louis vuitton shopping trips in newspapers)

What are your financial plans? Is it for extra spending money/gifts or do you need it as a separate income?
It always makes sense to have a couple of SD's on the go. Just be extremely careful and cautious and if it sounds to good to be true it probably is. And safety is number 1. Also pick guys who have pictures of themselves on their profiles and who are verified (if i remember correctly, men and to pay to verify or something like that? )

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« Reply #309 on: 04 May 2016, 09:15:24 am »
Really appreciate these latest posts. I was hoping to learn more about the world and business from these men too.
I will think seriously about options.
Ultimately, I want the extra income to pay fees as I don't want to work stupid parttime hours in shop which will cover some of my rent only, plus I need to study and not work all the time.  Escorting isn't something I've considered.
Really thank you guys : )

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« Reply #310 on: 04 May 2016, 02:29:09 pm »
Mornings were made for sleeping, wild sex and bacon.

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« Reply #311 on: 04 May 2016, 08:15:36 pm »
I was hoping to learn more about the world and business from these men too.
I will think seriously about options.
Ultimately, I want the extra income to pay fees as I don't want to work stupid parttime hours in shop which will cover some of my rent only, plus I need to study and not work all the time.  Escorting isn't something I've considered.



Probably all you would learn from these 'sugar daddies' is about the world and business from THEIR point of view, they will always have a hidden agenda.  The thought of having to hang around with someone who you might not even like, for long periods of time just for a bit of extra cash when and if they choose sounds horrific. The feel good factor of earning your own money is much nicer :-)

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« Reply #312 on: 04 May 2016, 09:28:35 pm »
+1 to what katrina said.

The best way to learn about business and the world is by doing and experiencing it yourself.  I have clients who are telling me to "invest in silver" "do an MBA" etc but whilst I might listen to this i take it with a pinch of salt and always research things for myself. In terms of learning about business there are great books/websites out there and university is the perfect time to explore this as you have a lot more free time than when you are a working adult! If i could go back to the start of my degree, I would have done so much so differently! Funnily enough being an escort has taught me so much about business and given me tons of experiences already! (though i'm not sure i can recommend it to you being a student who escorts myself)

If you want to pay fees and are still thinking of going down the sugar baby route set a financial goal! Do you get student finance? My mother always told me to save every penny of student finance I got (which I didn't because i was a silly kid). How much do you need for rent food/ travel/phone bills etc?  The problem with relying on being a sugar baby to tide you over is that you will spend a lot of time weeding through guys and sending emails to them before you finally meet and it might not be that great if you need the money immediately, it works best as something you have on the side to supplement your income/ if you only want pretty things. It takes a lot of effort to make it lucrative enough to pay your bills.
There wont magically be guys who want to give you ?1000-2000 a month to pay your bills. There will be a lot of guys who say this but the reality is that a lot of men are poor and have families to support and don't have this money to burn.

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« Reply #313 on: 05 May 2016, 11:30:13 am »
Really appreciate these latest posts. I was hoping to learn more about the world and business from these men too.
I will think seriously about options.
Ultimately, I want the extra income to pay fees as I don't want to work stupid parttime hours in shop which will cover some of my rent only, plus I need to study and not work all the time.  Escorting isn't something I've considered.
Really thank you guys : )

It's unlikely you will find someone who can teach you anything worth knowing about business. Most wannabe SDs are just ordinary Joes hoping for cheap sex with a nice lady. Why would they know anything about business?
Perhaps you could consider escorting?

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« Reply #314 on: 05 May 2016, 11:36:33 am »
Most men wanting to give me business advice simply only want to spend more time off the clock.

A very successful millionaire keeps asking why I don't do some photography modelling? Why would I spend time I have for sex work doing something which would expand my exposure, without leading to a career I'd enjoy for a lot less income? It doesn't make sense.
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