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laceygracie

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« Reply #240 on: 09 September 2014, 07:19:04 am »
I agree with XW5. Sex for money is sex for money. I 'sugared' while at uni and eventually found it tedious and a waste of time. I think it depends on your personality! I know a few veeeery happy 'spoiled girlfriends' but it's not my cup of tea!

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« Reply #241 on: 09 September 2014, 11:01:10 am »
Really? I never believed that there are men that pay for the companion only and it never ends with sex. Is that for real thou?
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« Reply #242 on: 09 September 2014, 11:10:44 am »
I think that these kind of relationships can work well but you have to genuinely get on with the guy. he doesn't want you to be an 'escort' they more like the idea of a naughty part time girlfriend that's not sleeping with anyone else, it can get tedious though because most things you do are on their terms as essentially they are paying you, and I've found a lot of these guys also expect you to not use protection. so I do think it depends on the type of person you are xx

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« Reply #243 on: 09 September 2014, 11:12:21 am »
There is also the saying "familiarity breeds contempt" and as you say all examples given are fairly new it could start getting more stressful at any time.

The amounts of money look good but when you break it down to regular bookings it really isnt.  Getting the money regularly is good however, but as soon as they start trying to move the goalposts it could cause problems.

These girls are just prostitutes (someone who takes money for sex) who do longer length bookings.  Most of these guys simply want a girl "on tap" so that when he has an itch he can get a booty call, simply cause he has paid for sex on tap when he pays the girl.

This is not a companion thing only.  And as other have said exaggeration and lies have to be taken into consideration.
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« Reply #244 on: 09 September 2014, 11:37:31 am »
I think it's for the clients to have a girl exclusive to him. They give enough money for them to have to pay their studies, house etc. But I wouldn't like to be in those relationship. It would be kind of slavery for me.
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« Reply #245 on: 12 September 2014, 07:16:12 pm »
I totally agree it's a whole different type of prostitution, but in the end it's still prostitution even if the sugarbabies like to think otherwise.

This is my take as I have been a sugarbaby for years,still am but have also been an escort before and currently doing both sugar and escorting.
The stupid sb's tend to give so much of themselves eg meeting often which I don't , I have always managed how much time I spent with my sd, this all depends on how much I was paid. What I like about being a sb is I find it safer in that you're dealing with one man not waiting at home and not knowing which punter is walking in next. I also like the fact you have just normal sex no kinks and demands, and they tend to be more respectful than punters who pound you and want to come twice or thrice for an hours pay.  I meet my sd very rarely and he pays me the same set amount of money wether or not we meet that month ( it's paid monthly before any engagement) The only thing I struggle with is being reliant on him, if a sd drops you, it's not easy to come by one who is generous and a total gentleman. So replacing a sd is harder than finding a punter IMO ( my experience) reason I've decided to do both escorting and sugar is, purely because I do not want to be dependant on my sd, it works for me and I think I will always have one on the side.( you have to set boundaries which I have hence what my sd currently gives me is costing him more than actually getting an escort by the hour) being a sugar baby is not for everyone just as escorting isn't for all. I think escorting full time is perfect for girls who have a certain type of work ethic, the type that are on the ball, I admire that type however I'm a lot more layed back I find I burn out quick on just escorting....I love being dined and wined but getting same money as the per hour. But yes they are all whores personally I find sugar babies too naive and could easily be taken advantage of by sd. Sugarbabies go wrong when these men start lieing to them about being in love, that's the minute the sugarbaby begins to overly be available, I've always said there no such thing as sugardaddy/boyfriend , his either a sugardaddy or a boyfriend can't be both,and if he claims to be boyfriend he better be buying the house in my name outright.

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« Reply #246 on: 13 September 2014, 01:08:52 pm »
Sugar daddies and clients sound so similar to me paying for time or services is all the same thing. Where as without the money no clients or sugar daddies. I can see how some can get more demanding then drop if not satisfied. 

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« Reply #247 on: 28 September 2014, 05:17:03 pm »
I totally agree it's a whole different type of prostitution, but in the end it's still prostitution even if the sugarbabies like to think otherwise.

This is my take as I have been a sugarbaby for years,still am but have also been an escort before and currently doing both sugar and escorting.
The stupid sb's tend to give so much of themselves eg meeting often which I don't , I have always managed how much time I spent with my sd, this all depends on how much I was paid. What I like about being a sb is I find it safer in that you're dealing with one man not waiting at home and not knowing which punter is walking in next. I also like the fact you have just normal sex no kinks and demands, and they tend to be more respectful than punters who pound you and want to come twice or thrice for an hours pay.  I meet my sd very rarely and he pays me the same set amount of money wether or not we meet that month ( it's paid monthly before any engagement) The only thing I struggle with is being reliant on him, if a sd drops you, it's not easy to come by one who is generous and a total gentleman. So replacing a sd is harder than finding a punter IMO ( my experience) reason I've decided to do both escorting and sugar is, purely because I do not want to be dependant on my sd, it works for me and I think I will always have one on the side.( you have to set boundaries which I have hence what my sd currently gives me is costing him more than actually getting an escort by the hour) being a sugar baby is not for everyone just as escorting isn't for all. I think escorting full time is perfect for girls who have a certain type of work ethic, the type that are on the ball, I admire that type however I'm a lot more layed back I find I burn out quick on just escorting....I love being dined and wined but getting same money as the per hour. But yes they are all whores personally I find sugar babies too naive and could easily be taken advantage of by sd. Sugarbabies go wrong when these men start lieing to them about being in love, that's the minute the sugarbaby begins to overly be available, I've always said there no such thing as sugardaddy/boyfriend , his either a sugardaddy or a boyfriend can't be both,and if he claims to be boyfriend he better be buying the house in my name outright.

So do you recommend it then?  It does sound appealing but I'm not sure how simple it would really be....back at the begining of the arrangement did you get the initial payment before you met up with him for the first time?  I see these guys on AW advertising as Sugar Daddies but then they say things like they'll give you ?1,000 a month (just an example) but they want the arrangement to begin today and they'll make the first payment on 15th.  I don't trust anyone enough for that.  Also, does he know you escort too?
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« Reply #248 on: 29 September 2014, 01:00:47 am »
One last night gave that proposal and after thought it wasn't my thing. It would be like walking on egg shells. I cannot give this up for an allowance that can be stoped if he got in a strop. That would leave me in a terrible situation starting escorting from scratch. Well building the escort popularity again.

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« Reply #249 on: 29 September 2014, 02:31:13 am »
I had a guy messaging me saying he wanted to be my rich sugar daddy. I exchanged a few emails with him asking about what sort of arrangement he'd like and when we could arrange a meeting to have a chat and see if we got on well and he was really vague and annoying, not making any definite plans and asking lots of invasive questions. He didn't have any feedback and I didn't want to be at someone's beck and call either - which is what it seemed like he wanted with his boundary pushing questions  ::)

I stopped replying and blocked him and received a nasty message from a different account, something along the lines of 'I'm glad I found out what you were really like before meeting.. when I want a slag to piss on we will meet' and more abuse along those lines. I couldn't resist replying to tell him that I really enjoy watersports but he'd still need to pay me, after which I blocked him. I don't know why people looking for a sugar daddy arrangement message escorts and not people on other websites who are specifically looking for a sugar daddy. The whole thing seems less professional and organised to me, and harder to guarantee your safety if they want to know personal details etc. - but then that's just me, I like to be the one in control :)


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« Reply #250 on: 29 September 2014, 12:16:49 pm »
I just spend good couple of hours reading posts on tumblr of girls who are doing sugardadding stuff. All I can say - they are completely deluded. They all say you have to value yourself and of course its true, but come on, let's be realistic. No one will pay thousands to girl for just dining and staring in her eyes. All of them proudly say "we are not prostitutes", as they are not payed per hour, but honestly what's the difference? If I'd have to spend x amount of hours in company of guy in my grandpa's age and even thinking about money wouldn't make it any better, as there is no money stated... seems so tedious. Isn't it really better to get down to business for stated before x amount for x time?
Another thing I want to say is that most of those girls seem very unorganized and even sometimes deluded. Honestly 95% of posts I saw was just listing of gifts they got and what they ate ate fancy restaurants. I mean I don't mind, its not my life and it sounds quite nice, but it seems likd ... I don't know, like there is nothing else? I've seen quite few posts of girls who claim its best style ever, and they are paid to look pretty and just be there. Alright, but come on, how long its gonna last?

Honestly I had completely different opinion about sugardadding before I did my reading. I belive it can be really lucrative and good business if its your cup of tea, but I think one has to stay very focused on long distance goals and build some future, not roll in handbags and shoes. I think its very easy to get off track and get into believing that there will be always some older rich guy to save the girl.

I think escorting is much easier (despite it seems like completely opposite) and its much easier to stay in right set of mind.

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« Reply #251 on: 25 October 2014, 02:13:36 am »
Hi I'm new to saafe although I have been escorting for a while. I'm thinking of looking for a sugar daddy, although I do have my reservations and I'm sure I'll encounter a lot of timewasters and men who basically want sex for free or pittance. I noticed a number of people mentioned that it's best not to let Sugar Daddies know you are an escort, but is it really that easy to hide when they might come across your profile on aw? I don't show my face on my profile but someone who knows me might recognise me if they looked hard enough. Ultimately I don't think there's much a difference between sugar babies and escorts except in the name, but men like to think they're not paying for sex.

Another query is that I'm thinking of putting a picture up on my sugarbabe profile and it looks like most of the girls show their faces. If  I don't show my face will men assume I'm an escort? Do you think it's better to put up a normal picture or a professional pic on my sugar babe profile? Ideally I'd like to carry on escorting while being a sugar babe but I'm not sure how easy that will be, what are your thoughts on this from other girls who've done this. I'd be keen to chat with other escorts who've dallied in this area.. :)

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« Reply #252 on: 25 October 2014, 10:46:49 am »
Welcome to SAAFE.

No one could ever know what a man is thinking.  Though I'm sure they must have more intelligence than I would ever give them credit for especially when it comes to their wallets.

IMO sugar daddies are simply older guys who want to get as much sex as they can for as little as they can from young naive females.  And like you say I am under the impression they are very territorial about the female they are fucking.

As I'm an older worker I can't claim to have ever tried the SD thingy out but then I would never be at any mans beck and call.  This situation may arise frequently and if you have bookings for the same time you may have to cancel them thus getting yourself a bad name.

I've got to be honest I've never heard of an SD situ that worked, sorry.  Good luck.

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« Reply #253 on: 27 October 2014, 12:58:14 am »
Well, so far you're right. The one's that have contacted me are worse than my stingiest clients! One offered me ?800 a month to meet twice a week (including overnight) every week  :-\. That would work out less than ?100 for each meeting of who knows how many hours. I am planning to give it a bit longer to see if there are some more realistic SDs.

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« Reply #254 on: 27 October 2014, 01:31:22 am »
Well, so far you're right. The one's that have contacted me are worse than my stingiest clients! One offered me ?800 a month to meet twice a week (including overnight) every week  :-\. That would work out less than ?100 for each meeting of who knows how many hours. I am planning to give it a bit longer to see if there are some more realistic SDs.

Most girls I know who have sugar daddies met them through escorting - they were just regular clients who became quite good friends and then ended up paying for extra things for them, like some money towards a new car or bills, and over time they ended up becoming basically a paid girlfriend. I think in order to be successful, those relationships need to build up over time, after all there's a high level of trust involved, it seems very risky to jump into that kind of commitment with a stranger, especially if you want to keep escorting as well.

Also as others here have said, having a sugar daddy presents all sorts of problems like them pushing boundaries, expecting services like bb, expecting you to drop everything to see them, not seeing other men except them, knowing your real name, where you live, personal things about you etc. also issues of payment like if they don't pay by the hour when DO they pay you? At each meeting or in monthly instalments? and what happens if one month he doesn't pay and you were relying on the money? I know regular income seems nice in theory but be careful you have all the details ironed out and know exactly what you're getting for your time/services :)