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Re: Sugar Daddies & related arrangements
« Reply #210 on: 08 August 2013, 08:34:06 am »
well I thought I would try this as a bit lonely and thought maybe I can get the best of both worlds. Joined seeking arrangement and sugar daddy.com both seem more like dating sites with the fellas saying on their profiles genuine seeking soul mate bla bla. I will give it a few weeks tho. Has anyone had success with this as I want a sugar daddy (I think) someone to spoil me and wine and dine.

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« Reply #211 on: 08 August 2013, 08:36:00 am »
Hi that is a coincidence I have just been searching the thread for this topic I think the mods will merge this thread for you. I have just joined them last night.

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« Reply #212 on: 08 August 2013, 08:41:50 am »
You will probably find out that Sugar Daddy sites are full of guys wanting cheap sex whenever THEY WANT IT so you are just sex on tap for them and usually at a much reduced rate to your normal rate.

Good luck though for I think you will need I t ..... Oh and a lot of patience too.

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« Reply #213 on: 08 August 2013, 10:35:52 pm »
I'm on sa, have just been getting requests for body pics. I was on established men as well, waste of my time.
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« Reply #214 on: 10 August 2013, 01:14:43 am »
erm.......... bit embarrassing and I know this makes me sound completely stupid but I've only just realised after a year that I'm in a SD/SB situation (I thought it was a real life love affair). I've been sad, needy and confused for a year. I tried to give it up as it is a complete mind fuck but can't because of financial and home circumstances. When I think about it he has been fair and played by the rules. Although I did on several occasions try to clarify if we had an arrangement or what? He has said that he loved me, wasn't an emotional l type, was surprised his feelings which confused things for me. He pays bills, legal fees, school fees and is renovating my house. It's been going on for a year. He used to also pay 1000k per month to get me back on my feet...and stopped after 6 months as agreed. Do you think that he realises what the situation is? Oh and please don't laugh but I do feel faintly ridiculous to be in this situation because of my age. He treats me like I'm a young woman even though I have now told him my true age which is 54.

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« Reply #215 on: 26 September 2013, 04:06:35 pm »
Hello everyone I hope youre having a nice afternoon :-*

I recently started out as a cam girl I think its been a full week now. I'm doing okay for a newbie ( I make about ?100 a night ;))
I considered escorting but I dont think I can stomach it. I was advised here in a previous post that it will affect me emotionally because of my age. Tbh I'm more concerned for my safety. I dont have security or work in a parlour so I'll essentially be travelling around as i cant accomodate incalls

So i signed up to sugar daddies.
In the first day I got so much response I ended up paying for the membership
(money i was advised not to spend on non sexual agencies!)

As of now I'm talking to a guy, he seems legit, profile and name on the sight.
He's offering me ?600 a month.
Now I know many of you can make that in 2-3 incalls or an overnight stay but for me its a case of assuring my personal safety, getting to know someone who I can trust and not having so many notches on the bedpost.
(I mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone on here as so many have been so helpful and youre all lovely)

The money will cover basically my rent for 2 months (im in a student houseshare) and I'm able to go on trips with him.
Ive always been told I have an old soul cos theatres galleries, cinema trip, cultural visitation sites are things I enjoy as opp to clubbing etc.
If I'm truly honest I just wont feel like a prostitute. The way the men speak to me and inievtably treat me will be better than random clients who can be very rude and demanding even on cam. I wouldnt want to be left feeling hollow

However I'm worried about not being able to stomach if and when its time to do the deed with a much older man.
Or if I get shy for the whole money thing....I dont know guys i just need help

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« Reply #216 on: 26 September 2013, 04:17:12 pm »
I mean this in the nicest way possible - I think you're being naive about the whole set up. The arrangement is still one of sex in exchange for money. No bloke alive is going to give you 600.00 per month for your lovely company alone. He's going to expect you to put out at some stage. That makes you, like the rest of us here, a prostitute, plain and simple.

You may think a sugar daddy is going to be less work / hassle compared to a regular client but from the stories I've heard that's just not the case. Personally, I'd rather stick to honest-whoring any day of the week - at least you get to stipulate the terms and set a fee you're happy with instead of having to pander to one man's demands.

Either way, good luck! And I'm happy to be proved wrong if you have indeed landed a Richard Gere here.  ;D

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« Reply #217 on: 26 September 2013, 05:14:26 pm »
I've merged this in with the rest of the 'sugar daddy' stuff and there's a reason this thread is in the Off Topic section. Have a read through the rest of it and then think about whether this sounds like less work and less hassle than a plain, simple 'this is what is on offer, this is how much it costs to have it for these amounts of time, and this is what you need to do to get it'.

And as Alisha says, you'll still be a prostitute so you may as well get the good stuff (money) without the bad (being at some total stranger's beck and call for a ridiculously small amount of it, especially when without the clear boundaries that we set in our advertising he's likely to be needy, demanding and pushy because he can be). Actually I'm interested to know why you think 'feeling like a prostitute' is a bad thing? I've felt like one for years, and it's done me no end of good :D. Age has nothing to do with it - if you were going to be affected mentally by having sex with strangers for money it'll happen anyway, and putting a different label on it so everybody can kid themselves about what's happening won't alter that either.

From what I can see on the Webcamming board, men who do camming are nothing like the genuine punters which most of us see or they'd never get through the door, so it's really not a useful benchmark to assume that there's any similarity between the two. Either way, some of the same basic tenets will apply; don't give anybody your legal name or your home address, buy a second phone that you can dump easily and try not to fall for any more horseshit :).

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« Reply #218 on: 26 September 2013, 06:00:55 pm »
I was actually thinking about joining these sites just to see what happens, I aint expecting much and I aint gonna be at on demand for ANYONE unless the money is right - would have to be what I earn per month or more  ;D

Anyway should I NOT use my real name and get another phone as Amy just mentioned in the above post?

So with sugar daddy's, we just treat them like clients and don't give out our real details?

Yep sugar daddy's are defo just another form of punter in my eyes!

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« Reply #219 on: 26 September 2013, 09:20:23 pm »
I think the guys who use these sites do it to save money, and they know that if they booked an escort for what they wanted it would cost them way more.  This guy is just out to use you and get what he wants at a discount rate, he will know what the local escorts charge, does not want to pay it so joins a Sugar Daddy site to try and talk someone into seeing him at ?600 a month and save himself a ton of money.  He is taking advantage, don't let him do it!

I would leave it and continue webcamming, which you are comfortable doing.

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« Reply #220 on: 28 September 2013, 11:41:43 pm »
I believe this question belongs to this thread so I'm posting it here. I have this good friend (let's call her "Jenny")  who started in the business at the same time as me and we've had a very close relationship for many years. I don't mind posting about it here because she doesn't read this forum and lives in another country. One month ago she decided to quit the business because she found a sugar daddy who pays her bills and financially supports her. He's married. On top of it she's looking at me over the shoulder because she's a "kept woman" and I'm a sex worker. So I had this conversation with her were she told me:"I'm done with this business and my life is going in another direction" (the "other awesome direction" is none than being supported financially by a sugar daddy). I tried to reason with her as to how she's going to pay her uber expensive apartment or what's going to happened when sugar daddy dumps her but she answered me with an angry: "My guy has told me that even if we break up he will continue supporting me. And besides, he's going to be there for me ALWAYS because he loves me".

I really don't understand why some women have this childish believe that they need not to worry about the future (financially speaking) because "a man will come and save them". She's in her mid 30's and no spring chicken Any reasoning with her stating the contrary ends up with her getting mad at me.

I don't want to loose a friend so I decided not to touch the touchy subject matter.

What would you guys do?
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« Reply #221 on: 29 September 2013, 01:21:25 am »
Its difficult for me to answer this as most of my friends are in normal jobs and a few keep getting marride because they don't have enough income on their own to secure their future or pay their mortgage, but the few ladies that do this are all hell bent on finding a SD  :-*

I am also a mature lady and worry that I will be still working in my 50's but would not give up my work unless there was a large lump sum upfront with someone who was very special and I thought could be a long term situation, or alternatively just a sugar daddie that payed a reasonable monthly sum for however long it lasts.

She sounds like she is not happy and maybe getting depressed about her situation which is understandable as this for some people can be a very limiting existence long term :-\

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« Reply #222 on: 29 September 2013, 10:06:14 am »
I was actually thinking about joining these sites just to see what happens, I aint expecting much and I aint gonna be at on demand for ANYONE unless the money is right - would have to be what I earn per month or more  ;D

Anyway should I NOT use my real name and get another phone as Amy just mentioned in the above post?

So with sugar daddy's, we just treat them like clients and don't give out our real details?

Yep sugar daddy's are defo just another form of punter in my eyes!

Use a different phone. And Name and photos because guys may google your number and up pop pink princess adultwork profile  ad tey can tin eye yourbpictures which will show where they have come from / wherever else they are on the net , however I ave been told that there are a fair amount of punters on there as well so bear that in mind 
The holy crail for many men. Is free sex with a pretty woman a lot of te en on the site have the power as there are n awful lot of desperate woman on there probably more than the men


However expect to give them you real name address and most will want  bare back sex after all its a real girlfriend experience that they are after  and you run thevriskthatbif try find out what you do tey could out you as they ave your real name address ect

It's just another form. Of prostitution in my eyes just dressed  up for those ladies who don't want to be classed as a prossie and those men  that don't want to be seen as a punter

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« Reply #223 on: 29 September 2013, 10:17:52 am »
I believe this question belongs to this thread so I'm posting it here. I have this good friend (let's call her "Jenny")  who started in the business at the same time as me and we've had a very close relationship for many years. I don't mind posting about it here because she doesn't read this forum and lives in another country. One month ago she decided to quit the business because she found a sugar daddy who pays her bills and financially supports her. He's married. On top of it she's looking at me over the shoulder because she's a "kept woman" and I'm a sex worker. So I had this conversation with her were she told me:"I'm done with this business and my life is going in another direction" (the "other awesome direction" is none than being supported financially by a sugar daddy). I tried to reason with her as to how she's going to pay her uber expensive apartment or what's going to happened when sugar daddy dumps her but she answered me with an angry: "My guy has told me that even if we break up he will continue supporting me. And besides, he's going to be there for me ALWAYS because he loves me".

I really don't understand why some women have this childish believe that they need not to worry about the future (financially speaking) because "a man will come and save them". She's in her mid 30's and no spring chicken Any reasoning with her stating the contrary ends up with her getting mad at me.

I don't want to loose a friend so I decided not to touch the touchy subject matter.

What would you guys do?


She is getting mad cos she knows your right.  When he leaves her for a newer model she will have bugger all . apart from a few nice handbags and shoes .   Woman should be able to support themselves and not look to a man.  But many still do unfortunately

 50 years of feminism has done fuck all apart from the fact that we now think ourselves equal to men so work as hard as them but still have to do the brunt of childcare and give up work to bring up kids
Sacrifice careers and pensions ad savings  while men just carry on in the same way as beforehand

Until men have babies men and sacrifice there careers and pensions and savings  and women will never be equal  and yes there are a few men that do this but they are very small compared to woman that do it all the time


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« Reply #224 on: 29 September 2013, 11:36:44 am »
Its difficult for me to answer this as most of my friends are in normal jobs and a few keep getting marride because they don't have enough income on their own to secure their future or pay their mortgage, but the few ladies that do this are all hell bent on finding a SD  :-*

She sounds like she is not happy and maybe getting depressed about her situation which is understandable as this for some people can be a very limiting existence long term :-\

I think my friend was "burned out" and is now very happy to give herself a much needed break from the biz.  She believes this guy is going to support her forever and she's going to be his mistress for the rest of her life. IMO she is trying a fix a problem in the "short term" (finding a SG so she can quit the biz), but SG's (like most men) come and go, so she's NOT thinking "long term" because once he leaves her she'll have to go back to sex work as she doesn't have any other skill. Obviously she's deluding herself by not accepting this cold & hard fact  hence the reason "Jennny" gets so angry with me every time I bring it up. But hey, maybe this guy is going to support her forever and I'm just being a jealous cow lol! But truth is  she's turned into a slave for him and part of him wanting her to "not work" is so that he can control her. On the other hand she doesn't seem to have a problem with it. in her mind it's better to be a slave for one man than a slave for 50 guys. The "free bird" in me would NEVER sign up for this situation (being 100% financially dependent on a man and let him have so much power over me) so I guess I'm not sugar babe material. Which is probably why I 've never had a SG in my whole life. It's not looking like it's going to happen either. Not that I care to be honest.
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