Hey all
Sorry..little bit of a rant
Had a heck of a sucky day today!
I live in the centre of a small city. The street I live on is notoriously "dodgy" ( I like its proximatey to everything) and although I have never been attacked, I put up with sexual harrassment and verbal abuse on a daily basis. For example, taking my dog for a walk will mean several groups of grown men will either follow me, shout sexual abuse at me (fucky fucky with me baaabee), grab my arse or on a particularly bad occassion, throw a bottle of piss at me from a moving car when I ignored the charmers advances..oh yes. These men can range from 8 to around 60, and if it's late and dark at night or first thing in the morning. I can be wearing a bikini or a suit..it makes no difference. Sometimes it doesn't bother me and sometimes the frustration makes me cry.
Today was a particularly bad day. I was visiting a friend about a 20 min walk away and had to pass a taxi station. As my friend is ill and needed me to pop to the shops for them I needed to pass this rank at 4 times in total. Every time I passed, the 20 or so guys in the unit or cabs would start banging on the windows, "howling" and shouting the usual (suck my dick baybee etc) and various other pearls of wisdom from their silver tongues. People were staring and I was mortified, a little scared and felt about 2 inches tall. Worst of all, I realised these pricks were the cabbies I usually use..they get about 40 quid a week or more out of me!! Also, they were in the local paper recently being awarded a special gold status for "terrific customer service". The final time I walked past, to get home, It was only a couple of drivers shouting, next to a chap in a suit. I was furious, and got the nerve up to walk up to them and ask if thats the way they believe they should treat prospective customer...shouting abuse at a lone female. I mean, the guys are supposed to be trusted to get lone, drunked females home late at night..it beggars belief!!! Should have known better, they laughed in my face and just made jokes about how they would "relax" me. I ask who the manager was..guess what? I was talking to him.
I walked home hating myself. For being so impotent and for being so weak. And for having given the b@stards
's in fares over the years. I don't consider myself weak usually and like to feel I can take care of myself but how can a change the behaviour of the hundreds of men around me. The old proverb goes "accept the things you can't change and change the things you can't accept" (or someting like that) but where does that leave me? I can't accept it so I could either a) Move b) become a hermit. But why should I be driven out??
I posted this so I could get it off my chest, it's really bothering me. But also to find out how many other women suffer from this sort of thing, and how they deal with it? I'm sure i'm not alone in this..
xhugsx
Melody xx