So I'm about to blacklist a client. He was an OK'ish regular (calls me every couple of months). Very good looking rich kid who lives in the most posh area of the city. Always an outcall (basically I go to his mansion with a massage table when his parents are not there and give him  a tantric massage). I'm assuming he lives with his parents because I don't think rich kid can afford a mansion with 3 bedrooms in super posh area.

So after going there a few times he texts me one day out of the blue and we have the following text conversation:

Him- Hi ana, i would like to know if you offer x-tra services besides tantric massage.
Me- no i don't. Sorry.

two weeks later I receive more texts and we engage in the following conversation:

Him- hi ana, I would like to know if you offer x-tras services besides tantric massage.
Me- Haven't we had this conversation before?
Him- Yes, we have.
Me- What part of "I don't offer any x-tras" you don't understand?
Him- Well, it's a pitty you don't. Problem is that I'm loosing interest in you . If I don't get "more than a hand job  during our massage I'm going to have to stop calling you and find a replacement.
Me- I totally agree with you. I think you need to stop calling me and find someone else. It shouldn't be difficult for you.

(jerk)

End off.

So didn't heard from him in over a month. So I thought "Good riddance. He found a replacement". Problem is that he's started calling me again. And again. And again.

 I just have a problem with people who try to push my limits  (specially when emotional blackmail is involved). Then the little weasel -with-no-shame has the nerve to call me again acting like nothing happened. Ags. Problem is that this guy wants more stuff than "the menu offers" and I -sort -of- hurted his pride (listen looser: I wouldn't even fuck you for money). What if he tries to rape me next time? I can't go to the police stating I'm a sex worker who went on an outcall and got raped. I really don't know this guy. He might be some crazy rich kid.  I don't feel that safe now going on this outcall.

I mean...the business is REALLY slow right now for October and I hate to blacklist a regular  but I don't know what to do. Any thoughts would be appreciated

What an absolute wanker. Don't see him again - men who think women just need a bit of "gentle nudging" in order to get them to follow orders nicely only get worse, not better. Or if you do see him, because of needing the money, make sure you've got a tight security setup (make calls to your buddy in front of him, etc) and stay incredibly alert. If possible, get your buddy to actually drive you there and wait outside.

By the way, if he did assault you in ANY way (trying to force any sort of sexual interaction that you do not consent to, or physically hurting you in any way) you can go to the police. Your job is not illegal and you should not expect to take the blame for a criminal committing criminal acts just because you've agreed to give him a tantric massage, so it would be the police's job to arrest this idiot should he do something seriously bad like that.

If I were you, I'd ignore every single communication from this creepy little toad, though. Doing a booking where the whole time you feel like you might vomit from fear and anxiety about the client's behaviour and attitude is worse than anything; I remember having 'stress stomach' from bad bookings back when I was new and so I listen to my gut more than ever now so I don't have to feel that way again!

Are you financially prepared to weather a bad month? Our business does ebb and flow. If you need to, you could consider options like a short-term loan or some of the other brilliant financial advice that's floating around this forum (sorry, brain's a bit fried from studying at the mo, but I know it's out there!). There are, thankfully, always other options than forcing yourself to see a horrid client.

Blacklist him, that'll learn him

Oh, yeah, what everybody else said.
I too have a particularly vile ex client, (tried to 'nudge' me into doing things I did NOT want to do when I was a newby), and I too am having a quieter time than usual, he still rings/texts from time to time (last time yesterday)
but I would not grant this arsehole an appointment if I was about to starve!
He's pushed you, you've said no. He's carried on pushing, so it's doubtful he's gonna stop the pushing if you allow him to be your client again.
Making the decision not to see him may seem like a luxury you can't afford at the mo, but believe me, it's better than working whilst feeling angry and resentful.
In my experience, just one mean client can colour your entire view of work, and end up making you resent all your clients.

Yes please don't see him, no amount of money is worth being in potential danger

Yuk what a sleaze ball wanker from hell. I once had a client who tried to put himself in me without a condom, I reacted quickly and hit him with my stilletto on the head. It was just a natural reaction....he did apologise but should not have pushed my boundaries. I agree with all the ladies block him and don't see him....

It's amazing how common sense goes down the drain when work gets slow.

Thanks again.

Tell me about it!!! I've been a tad silly in these tough times...but NO more!

Glad you're not seeing him again:-)

What a wanker.... (no pun intended!)
I agree with all the others.....go with the gut feeling and sack this one off. You have your limits for a reason x Hope you find a far nicer replacement x