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Emma_C

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Needy clients & hassling by text
« on: 09 July 2015, 01:59:21 pm »
Anyone else have this problem?

You know when some people just cant take a hint.. so frustrating. I'm feeling ill today & have cancelled an appointment with a guy who's in the area on business. Its gone from "hope you feel better" to "hope u r felling better. Do you feel up to a gentle tactile meeting" ..Argh. He was starting to annoy me anyway with texts last night "would you like me to send some saucy messages leading up to your visit" my response "no thanks, I'm not into providing free sex chat".

So I'm going to ignore. If I was him I'd book someone else, I don't get it. I had one guy send me 30 texts in the run up to his appointment. It causes me anxiety when they hassle like this. Do they think it's like dating I've got GFE in my spiel. Both only booked for an hour, they just want to take more & more time for free don't they. So annoying! I've got not text tennis plastered all over my profile.

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2015, 02:20:26 pm »
I think we all get that but I have a low tolerance for it and tell them straight.I just say if you have an enquiry ring if they keep texting I tell them I don't have the time or phone credit to text back and forth so ring and have a quick chat or we will leave it after that i block them if they continue.The guy texting when you are ill needs to be told firmly not to push when you have said no as you don't like it and you will refuse to see him again.I find guys like that can push more and more.

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« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2015, 02:56:42 pm »
Thanks love! just needing a rant. I've come back into this industry after a few years break & don't remember them being this needy!!

I did tell one of the guys off after his appointment & he said he didn't realise how many texts he'd sent me! It does make me wonder if they would push my boundaries during the appointment too. I thought maybe some are lonely or just need to extra titivation. Selfish creatures men are on the whole, very self involved aren't they. Got a bit of cash & think they own you it seems. It's like internet dating!! They must think it's a real date & they are in with a chance..

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2015, 03:11:42 pm »
Think i would be right in saying we ALL get this  :FF annoying and seems to be alot more of them recently !

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2015, 03:21:00 pm »
Yep, continuous texting annoys the shit out of me!
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Emma_C

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« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2015, 03:24:21 pm »
Think i would be right in saying we ALL get this  :FF annoying and seems to be alot more of them recently !

Do you think it's like the latest consumer trend? It used to be lapdancing in appointments a few years back..

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« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2015, 08:38:43 pm »
Think i would be right in saying we ALL get this  :FF annoying and seems to be alot more of them recently !

Do you think it's like the latest consumer trend? It used to be lapdancing in appointments a few years back..

I just think the art of conversation is dead! It's the only way a lot of people know how to communicate. I'm just starting out again after a break and the number of texts I've had for initial enquiries is ridiculous! Mind you if I get a text and not a call I just completely ignore it. I also think guys text for privacy reasons; not that that helps us much!

I used to respond to texts from regulars and that didn't bother me but if a guy who had booked me started texting I told him to call as I didn't have time to text and they all got the message.

But yes, the new way to hold a conversation and as annoying as hell!!

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2015, 09:15:36 pm »
I had a stomach bug at the weekend and had to cancel a booking and he said 'i would have seen you anyway'... on what planet is a vomitting girl sexy?!

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #8 on: 10 July 2015, 12:58:23 am »
Sometimes I find mentioning that I don't have the time for 10 messages from several enquirers at once makes them realise that it's not helpful.

I specify quite clearly and consistently how I wish to be contacted PLUS I also know that guys who do go on to book are those who email or call with specifics ie having read my profile/website details. So for this reason I know that not replying to texters is not particularly loosing me business.

I do however always send a polite text back which asks to phone if they wish to go further.

On topic of being ill, I remember being really ill and guys trying to persuade me to see them, they going on and on even when I said I was too ill. So I typed that if they insisted sure they could come and pay me BUT that I was too ill to be interested in giving them sex or any sort of service whatsoever.

That convinced the person who was offering me double my fee to leave me alone, although not without a 'if you change your mind..........' message.

I've also turned down guys by phone who have said they didn't mind if I was dribbly with a heavy cold.

Really made me think that they didn't care what sort of service they received.

A male friend explained that they'll be hoping once they got there that I'd get into it and it would be ok.

Err no, if I know I'm not up to par, there is no way that I'm seeing anyone, it's not fair on them and not fair on me.

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #9 on: 10 July 2015, 01:17:26 am »
I had a stomach bug at the weekend and had to cancel a booking and he said 'i would have seen you anyway'... on what planet is a vomitting girl sexy?!

Well, it IS a fetish in the same way that watersports are. ;D

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #10 on: 10 July 2015, 04:11:04 am »
I made the mistake of being nice with the ping pong texting. And emailing, can't think which is worse.

One time fell very sick and had nausea all over. The client said he'll come to make me feel better with his willy. How insensitive and stupid is that? I replied back that I had a real partner looking after me, no thanks   

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« Reply #11 on: 10 July 2015, 07:26:15 am »
I would also like to say that this thread is really timely - the number of texts I've been receiving recently has been much higher than ever before, I wasn't sure if it was 'just me', or that it's something that is becoming 'expected'.

Do other types of service, non-sexual arrange things by text these days?

I did text a mobile hairdresser a few weeks ago, after not being able to get through on the phone, but I did put everything I wanted into the one message. She didn't get back to me for over 12 hours (she'd text immediately to acknowledge my missed call and did receive my message within minutes), by which time I'd booked what I needed at a salon in town.

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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #12 on: 10 July 2015, 07:37:34 am »
this texting is so off putting and wasting of time, most genuine clients just call and book.
my profile states calls please not texts yet they still text I just ignore them.
but they cant read and they push boundaries and still text  :FF
my regulars text which was agreed as I've met them numerous times
why on earth do they need to be sending so many messages to ladies have they nothing better to do with their time? or is it the build up to the wank off ? ::)

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« Reply #13 on: 10 July 2015, 11:08:54 am »
So it does seem to be a trend.  I see it as neediness or it could be power games too, control & messiah complex  :P "i have cashIam god to you, do as I say minion" a lot of them maybe just need their egos stroking too much. Insecurity.

To just blatantly disregard a retort of "I don't offer free sex chat" rings alarm bells. I think this guy finally got the hint yesterday but said he'd book me when next in the area.

 Like Miss student & Mirror say, some of them would still see us when ill. They must have super duper immune systems!  :o I wouldn't want to inflict my germs on someone. One of my text pest clients said he saw a WG who was sniffling on his appointment with a cold & it put him off kissing her. I said what about the putting you off the appointment altogether?? Nope!

I like the tip on saying I can't text lots of people at one time, thanks Mirror. May make them realise that they are not the only person in the World..

Problem is with some of them that you don't reply within a few minutes once the game in engaged they text "??" makes me want to tell them to grow up & naff off.

Maybe because I work in sales that I subconsciously feel the need to hold someones attention that's why I've been replying to some. Right, from now on I'm going to try "if you insist on me sending countless text,  I'll have to charge you extra to cover my phone bill & my time spent responding to you" {ones who've booked}
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Re: Needy clients & hassling by text
« Reply #14 on: 10 July 2015, 11:21:31 am »
The thing is with these arseholes they are banking on you texting back and forth because you think they will book you. They rarely do they are just wanting free chat.The text time wasters are holding the carrot on a stick of a booking which won't materialise.A simple are you wanting to arrange a meeting quite often stops them because they will say something like 'er well not today' so your answer is well 'sorry then but this phone is for gentlemen who want to get through and book me and I am busy with that,bye now'
If they say they want a booking ask time and day and get them back on track with that.
Don't feel you have to respond back to every text as it will drive you mad.These guys are boundary pushers and can't book won't book types and they will keep this tactic if ladies keep responding to the nonsense.