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rinaxeee

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Loose pussy?
« on: 09 July 2015, 10:43:33 am »
I have a boyfriend and I am enjoying having sex with him. But recently he seemed disinterested about having sex with me.

He says 'you must cum a lot, it is so wet' (like, you're too wet). And then the other night while having sex, he suddenly stops and then started fingering me. I was like 'what are you doing??' Cause I could tell it was not just 1 finger he was using, I kept on saying 'what are you doing? I don't like it stop' but he says 'no just relax' and then started to put lubes on me. So I said, 'I am already very wet, so why are you adding lubes??' But he already applied it, and used fingers again and it hurts. Later he said 'I put my whole hand in it, you're so big'. Basically he tried fisting to me because he thought my pussy was big!

Well I guess he was not trying insult me, I really must be loose down there.

I am not sure how I should feel about this though. I am in late 20's and didn't have baby.
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« Reply #1 on: 09 July 2015, 11:07:29 am »
 Rina  how do you feel?  I would feel really low after someone did that, self conscious and uncomfortable  my ex used subtle actions and tactics with me, saying i was so fat and that my chest was so big I felt really uncomfortable. in the end I went off sex with him he didn't make me feel attractive at all we split .
are your clients complimentary towards you ?
every woman is different inside and if your enjoying sex and getting naturally wet without lube there is nothing wrong.
but this is uncomfortable and your not enjoying it with this boyfriend and putting his whole hand in without your consent is very disrespectful wrong he's being abusive by doing this against your wishes.


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« Reply #2 on: 09 July 2015, 12:00:32 pm »
Your bf sounds like a dick pure and simple.Most women can take a hand down there and its no indication you have a loose fanny.After all vaginas are designed to stretch to accommodate childbirth.Fisting though like any other sexual activity should only be done with consent and it is an activity that you do carefully and slowly and it should not hurt.Also you may want to point out to your bf that a woman being wet has nothing to do with how many orgasms she has.I can wet but not cum at all its a natural thing that a vagina does to prepare for sex.Your boyfriend is very ignorant and I think you need to think carefully about your future with him.
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« Reply #3 on: 09 July 2015, 12:35:15 pm »
As far as I am concerned the important thing here is that he didn't stop when you told him to. The correct response to "Stop" is NOT "just relax."

I am going to start another thread about toning exercises for those of us who want to work on our vaginal tightness, but I won't discuss it in this thread because this is about your boyfriend abusing you and you shouldn't be concerned about being "loose" or whatever.
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« Reply #4 on: 09 July 2015, 01:02:35 pm »
Yep what a dickhead, he has no respect for you and basically forced you to do something you did not want too, something not even a client would dare after you asked him to stop the first time.

Personally I would reconsider whether a bf like that is worth it.
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« Reply #5 on: 09 July 2015, 01:31:54 pm »
I'm sending you a big virtual hug, that's just horrible! To tell him to stop & he tried to fist you still is just abuse. I had a guy try this on my once when I was drunk in my 20s.

Maybe he got the idea from porn & is re-enacting a scene. Like the other ladies say, he doesn't sound like a very nice person & seems a bit abusive. Red flag behaviour there. Any genuine guy would stop when you say no the first time. I'm sure if you did something to him that he didn't like he'd be very angry.

Doesn't mean you have a big fanny, just means you are relaxed. If you are worried about that though you can get a kegel or do pelvic floor exercises. They are quite good. I have a kegel 8 that is battery operated & sends signals like a tens machine into the muscles to contract & tighten them.

I hope you are feeling OK & have told him that's not OK to treat you like that!
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« Reply #6 on: 09 July 2015, 04:05:48 pm »
Thanks ladies for kind comments. I know he sound horrible / I did got emotionally hurt. But the point is not about him being dickhead. He has this manner of blunt honesty. Also he admits being a playboy, has lots of experience with women.

As I know how he is sometimes too honest, and he does have lots of sex experience with lots of other girls, I can't help but think that my vagina really must be somewhat loose. And this is what makes me upset. Maybe being a prossie took its toll on my vagina being loose.

Do other girls also feel the same? 'maybe I am too loose for having lots of sex?'

I don't know how I should feel about this. I didn't even have baby yet!
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« Reply #7 on: 09 July 2015, 04:57:56 pm »
Rina If I had a penny for the amount of men that think they know more than us about the female body I would have a lot of money. So many proclaim to understand how down there works as they've slept with 100+ Women blah blah blah, he sounds pretty clueless to me.

he is using your job title to make you feel insecure about your vagina in order to get you to agree to a sex act that you don't want.

Check out "because we are prostitutes" thread, It's a different situation but similar mentality.

I love an honest blunt guy, but in my opinion this is abusive behaviour and if it was me in your position I would tell him to stick his hand elsewhere.

Btw, My vagina is in better working order as I know how to use it and it's tighter due to regular activity :)
« Last Edit: 09 July 2015, 05:02:39 pm by lailah terri »
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« Reply #8 on: 09 July 2015, 05:00:35 pm »
oopsie
« Last Edit: 09 July 2015, 05:02:20 pm by lailah terri »
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Re: Loose pussy?
« Reply #9 on: 09 July 2015, 05:02:59 pm »
No.And its bullshit that lots of sex makes you loose down there.Honey he is talking out of his arse and being manipulative.Blunt honesty is not an excuse to act like an idiot.It sounds to me that you have low self esteem and he is playing on it.
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« Reply #10 on: 09 July 2015, 05:06:13 pm »
Oh and by the way him shoving his hand up you when you don't want it will be the thing that will wind up potentially making you loose down there not having sex regularly.
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« Reply #11 on: 09 July 2015, 05:17:45 pm »
Quote from: lailah terri on 09 July 2015, 04:57:56 pm
Rina If I had a penny for the amount of men that think they know more than us about the female body I would have a lot of money. So many proclaim to understand how down there works as they've slept with 100+ Women blah blah blah, he sounds pretty clueless to me.

he is using your job title to make you feel insecure about your vagina in order to get you to agree to a sex act that you don't want.

He doesn't know that I am prossie. I don't think he even remotely suspects. But I do think he is pretty clueless about how women orgasm though.
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« Reply #12 on: 09 July 2015, 07:38:02 pm »
Unless you fuck a man with a nine-pound cock, it will not stretch you out. Even having a baby doesn't "stretch" the vagina - it just fucks up the pelvic floor muscles so that you can lose tone.

I really do think the issue here is that this guy treats you badly. He's not good for you.
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« Reply #13 on: 09 July 2015, 08:02:24 pm »
Quote from: rinaxeee on 09 July 2015, 04:05:48 pm
Thanks ladies for kind comments. I know he sound horrible / I did got emotionally hurt. But the point is not about him being dickhead. He has this manner of blunt honesty. Also he admits being a playboy, has lots of experience with women.

As I know how he is sometimes too honest, and he does have lots of sex experience with lots of other girls, I can't help but think that my vagina really must be somewhat loose. And this is what makes me upset. Maybe being a prossie took its toll on my vagina being loose.

Do other girls also feel the same? 'maybe I am too loose for having lots of sex?'

I don't know how I should feel about this. I didn't even have baby yet!

Sounds to me like he THINKS he knows it all but knows nothing.  He sounds controlling over you and I'm sorry if this hurts to hear this but he's playing on some insecurity of yours.  The guy is demoralising you and that's not good for you at all, neither mentally and Lords knows physically. 

I'd feel inclined to get some lube and fist his arse and when he says please stop (like you did) just tell him to relax...............

Sorry for the bluntness but he's talking absolute tripe.  He knows nothing about women's bodies and just ignore his so called knowledge as the man truly sounds like a controlling dickhead who is not good for you at all.  How dare he carry on doing that to you when you clearly said NO................

I don't know how long  you've been with this guy but I can't see his behaviour to you improving so if I was you I'd be dumping the arrogant so and so ASAP. 
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« Reply #14 on: 10 July 2015, 05:09:10 am »
This twit is getting off on making you feel insecure, whilst he witters on about 'how experienced' he is. If only he knew, that'd wipe the smug grim off his face  ;D. He rammed a hand up there.. We could all accommodate that, albeit painfully or uncomfortably. That doesn't prove any point whatsoever. Please get this loser out of your life. We need to feel good about ourselves to carry out our job well. You deserve to be showered with compliments, not allow yourself to endure petty insults from a little creep who clearly has insecurities of his own, along with a warped idea of consent.
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