- I'm not as naive and trustful as I used to be
- I don't let people push my boundaries so easily I I used to
- I am not interested in sex at all and I know I won't trust a man to sleep with me without protection
- I don't fall in love so easily lol

I've become a human lie and bullshit detector. It's also put me off sex too, but I don't mind. Im more than happy snuggling with my dogs at home.

I used to be very romantic but now I am not at all, though that has taken time. Its also taught me cynicism, to not take things at face value, to recognise that people are often unpredictable and even insincere. I don't think it's people's fault, it's just how they are. On the flipside though, its taught me independence and self reliance, so I don't get too worked up when relationships don't turn out like I hoped or people turn out to be much different to how I initially saw them. I guess I don't invest emotionally in things too much anymore, I try and enjoy my comforts and my enthusiasms and my work and just accept that you can't get too hung up on things. Life's all too 'smoke and mirrors' and here today, gone tomorrow. So many people are living double lives or holding on to relationships just for status or because they are afraid of being alone, and being a prostitute helps me see that clearly in a funny way.

My husband pointed out the other day that my job has ‘turned me into a bitch’- meant and taken as a genuine compliment 😂
I’m now much more outspoken, don’t take bullshit from men and will stick up for myself in every day situations now. Learning to say no is the best benefit of this job 🔥

I can totally relate to this and have been this way for many years now.
I don't hate all men because of this but the rose tinted glasses have definitely come off and I see them as rather selfish creatures who will always have a reason for doing what they do, but then again if they didn't we would all be out of work :-)

That’s why so happy to have nothing to do with any of them in personal life.

*strokes cat*

Snap sister and to be honest, I have been treated far better by clients than any man in my personal life has ever treated me. The majority of clients I’ve met are appreciative and respectful!

If there ever comes a day when I am forced to string up my stockings I’ll just get another few Spaniels to walk and spend my days on the hills!

What amuses me is some vanillas saying how prostitution hardens us, cripples our ability to relate bond and commit, and give us trust issues when in reality we just get to see the hypocrisy, pretence and ugliness of society, especially men, without the veneer.

Absofuckinglutely, having seen enough of them in both in personal life as well as professionally, I’ve come to the conclusion they’re best kept at distance and any interaction with them be purely transactional, except some male friends and family members.

The pickmes haven’t had enough bitter experiences of what may look nice and fuzzy on paper. Part of me wish to have this innocence and naivety back sometimes. But, what’s seen can’t be unseen…

Same! Sometimes miss the more romantic version of me, but like you say, it's Pandora's box.

Christ FF, you must meet some real arseholes. If I felt that bitter about the world I don't think I could get out of bed (and you don't sound even slightly 'amused').

What on earth is a 'pickme' and a 'vanilla'? Are we actually slagging off other women because they're not prostitutes? Surely making up stupid names and childish insults for people whose views, experiences and choices differ from ours is precisely what's annoying when they do it to us?

A pickme is a fairly common colloquialism for women who pop off at other women for not trusting men and speaking for myself I'm saying I can't relate to to people like that because of the job. It's not 'slagging women off for not being prostitutes', thats a massive strawman.