Sorry if this topic was before - I was looking for something smilier but I couldn't find.

Did it ever happen to you ? Did you was thinking about any your client in this way ? Did you had ever situation that you become close with him or had relationship?  What to do if you see him every week - he pay - but you become closer and closer How stop it ?

Give me number to good psychiatrist 
What  if I cannot stop thinking about him ?

Help ! Or I will need number to a good doctor.

I've tried it and failed, which is the usually story, then again isn't that how most relationships go.

I think it could work, but a relationship is not a few hours spent in the bedroom or at dinner it's doing things; cinema, going for walks, meeting up with friends. So money exchanging hands should only stop when these things start (and you've both talked about the possibility of having a relationship )

Most important thing; close your ears, open your eyes

I dated one client and it was complicated. Now when love is in the air. I ignore it refocusing or enjoy the moment not showing any signs. Clients are clients many use escorts for a reason. Over one night stands. Some clients have that energy. 

Once a clients knows he could play with it getting what he wants for free. Then get bored as the excitement  of a prozzy gets them going. But once they realise we are not on heat 24/7 things change. Approach with caution.

Now clients are just clients not bf material a dating site is more appealing to me. But can't be bothered with that.

Also loosing business focus isn't a good thing in the long run.

Try to be strong willed easier said than done. But once there things are easier.

I lost one client as he fell for me and wanted to date me that was politly declined.

Is he married or in a relationship? He could be seeing other escorts & doing the same thing with them. I'd say one of the main rules is never date a client as I don't think it will end well. Do you really want a relationship with a guy who sleeps with lots of escorts? I personally wouldn't! Keep seeing him if you like but keep it a business relationship, maybe you could progress to gifts instead of cash but be careful.

I don't think you need a shrink, it's natural to fall for someone if you are being intimate & really enjoying it etc.

 

I'm marrying a former client.

I just didn't spend so much time with anyone else(another client) as with him. This is a reason why I started have a mess in my head. I just wondered do dating with clients will always end up badly.

 Can you tell me Mirror something more about your relationship, please? How it started ? When you realized that you feel something to him ? Of course if you feel like you can share your story. Thank you. 

I dated a client once. We went out for 2 years .I do truly believed he loved me but unfortunately I didn't love him. I Was just with him cuz he would do anything for me and I loved being centre of attention and having someone wait on me hand and foot sorta like a slave boy. I had to end it though as I started to realise how much I wasn't really attracted to him. Sexually or physically. I just didn't fancy him. Plus with him being nearly twice my age made it awkward to go out and do couple stuff. We just stayed in all the time and if we did go out I would make a big fuss about him not looking at me, talking to me or touching me in public. He always did it though and I started to realise that it was just so he can show off that he's with a young girl. It still makes me cringe even till this day. I sat down and asked myself "what am I doing with someone like this? Lol" I wouldn't date a client again though and I couldn't fall in love with one either. Plus I'll be giving sex for free and that would make me angry 

Anyways, op, have you been seeing this client long? If you haven't then it could be infatuation. A short lived but strong feeling as though you are In love. It goes away quickly. But if you think it's love then I would probably stop seeing him, if it was me. Especially if he is not showing signs that he feels the same way. I wouldn't let him know how I felt either as he may just take advantage of that to get freebies.

Quote from: Mirror on 13 August 2015, 09:13:09 am

I'm marrying a former client.

Do you have an open relationship? Hope you don't mind me asking.

He decided he doesn't want to have sex with anyone else. I decided I would not see anyone apart from paying clients. Those are our agreed definitions of being faithful. If either of us wishes to change that we have agreed to talk about it. Not talking about it would also be considered unfaithful.

There's also a large age gap, which does not stop us from doing anything. I know he wants to be affectionate because he wants to be affectionate full stop. It took a long time for me to be public with him but that was nothing to do with the age gap, it was everything to do with me not wanting to be in any relationship - because I tended to wreck them, and was in a very much "I'm ok on my own". I have mellowed and softened have become equally as affectionate back. The rewards I've received from this as a person have been huge.