Author Topic: Do you feel escorting has changed you as a person? (Read 48765 times)

loubyloo · « **Reply #180 on:** 10 February 2017, 10:28:20 am »

Yes it has definately changed me, mostly in a good way.
I am so much more confident with my body.
I was married for 15 yrs and never felt comfortable walking round naked as I have cellulite on my thighs.
Now I realise that men either don't notice or don't care about what most women perceive as 'flaws.'
I'm much more assertive now as well.

On a downside, I now realise that the majority of men are unfaithful at all ages.
I have a couple of regulars in their 70's.
Also it's affected my sex life with my partner. As myself, I'm not one for dressing up in sexy outfits, but my alter ego will as 'she' doesn't care how foolish she feels.
I find it difficult to put an outfit on if my partner requests it and rarely feel in the mood for sex with him.
Thankfully he's not got a big sex drive and is very understanding about my job.

So on the whole, I think I'm a better person now. Stronger, confident and feeling in control of my whole life.
I'm definately a happier person now than before I started escorting.

Miss Etoile · « **Reply #181 on:** 29 April 2017, 09:48:37 pm »

I discovered many aspects of my personality I didn't know in doing this job, and I feel definitely more confident with my body.

I started meeting occasionally, next to my work in Paris. It was a very interesting and exciting time for me as a "courtesan". Then, I came to London and worked with a cheap agency full time. I discovered another world... The busiest girls in this agency where "party girls". After few months refusing to take this "white powder", I finally surrendered and became one of the busiest party girl. There again, I discovered another part of myself, the fun and the dark side. Then I stopped, after feeling my body and mental health going down.

Now, I am independante on AW since the end of last year, in Heathrow hotels. Not the best clientele but busy. I had some bad experiences there which pushed my body stress level enough high to make me shake. With the time, I believe it affect the personality and the private life in a bad way if we are not careful.

I feel I am reaching my limits and I am thinking about getting out soon. If I would only meet regulars or gentlemen, it would be less stressful. :-)

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #182 on:** 01 May 2017, 07:56:00 pm »

I was becoming bitter but now deal with things differently they dont bother me as much now. I feel much happier.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #183 on:** 04 May 2017, 03:34:11 pm »

I think it is just the isolation that is a bit shite. The job makes us much stronger as a person and far less needy of a man for a relationship. That is my experience anyway. If it wasn't for the lonely aspect of it coming and going it would be a dream job.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #184 on:** 04 May 2017, 06:53:50 pm »

Why isolation? You are free to date if you wanted to do so? If you want to fall in love, why not? But I digress.

I doubt escorting changed me "as a person". I'm the same before and after. I do it for my own survival, food and heating bills etc. I wouldn't consider myself "amazing" unlike others on the other thread (no offence whatsoever intended). Having said that, I do accolade women who had to survive from their crisis situations and horrific trauma etc through escorting, which saved them from becoming homeless, losing her home, independence etc. Women are tough. Escorting probably makes us tougher (mentally, emotionally) if not physically as it is demanding.

Adele7 · « **Reply #185 on:** 05 May 2017, 09:49:29 am »

Quote from: Lushblossom on 04 May 2017, 03:34:11 pm

I think it is just the isolation that is a bit shite. The job makes us much stronger as a person and far less needy of a man for a relationship. That is my experience anyway. If it wasn't for the lonely aspect of it coming and going it would be a dream job.

+1 Plus the double life. My biggest value is honesty so having to make up pathetic excuses to family and friends isnt good for my head. As a result I also find it very hard to trust anyone.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #186 on:** 05 May 2017, 10:50:34 am »

sweetmilf many of us suffer isolation in escorting I am more surprised that you cannot understand why.

We do not all want all and sundry knowing nor would many of us feel comfortable lying to any potential boyfriends. On the rare occasions I have found a man nice enough to bother with as a potential boyfriend he has never accepted me as an escort so I have given up on that front.

If I find someone just naturally without hunting them out on dating sites then maybe but I have not found guys accept the situation and do not wish to invite their judgement and lack of understanding into my world. I can do without the negativity. Also they don't understand what being an escort is like so the current fantasy is to find somebody through the job however it never ever happens as they are either bitter about their ex or drowning in issues, even on the rare occasions they do want to go out with me.

Since the job I am very quickly intolerant of a man's limitations and ways anyway so half the time I just can't be bother to take one on. If anything the job puts me off the dating scene even more. I am sure I speak for many.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #187 on:** 05 May 2017, 11:36:21 am »

There are loads of escorts on this site who are with someone or even some escorts are married! You have a choice. Being an escort doesn't necessarily mean we are all lonely and are deprived of love and affections. I'm hardly lonely, got other interests in life other than men in my life stage if it makes sense. But if you feel that way, I'm sure your feelings are just as valid. I just don't want punters to think we are all lonely because we're selling sex or escorting.

SimplySinful · « **Reply #188 on:** 05 May 2017, 11:55:31 am »

Quote from: Lushblossom on 05 May 2017, 10:50:34 am

sweetmilf many of us suffer isolation in escorting I am more surprised that you cannot understand why.

We do not all want all and sundry knowing nor would many of us feel comfortable lying to any potential boyfriends. On the rare occasions I have found a man nice enough to bother with as a potential boyfriend he has never accepted me as an escort so I have given up on that front.

If I find someone just naturally without hunting them out on dating sites then maybe but I have not found guys accept the situation and do not wish to invite their judgement and lack of understanding into my world. I can do without the negativity. Also they don't understand what being an escort is like so the current fantasy is to find somebody through the job however it never ever happens as they are either bitter about their ex or drowning in issues, even on the rare occasions they do want to go out with me.

Since the job I am very quickly intolerant of a man's limitations and ways anyway so half the time I just can't be bother to take one on. If anything the job puts me off the dating scene even more. I am sure I speak for many.

I'm with you on that Lushblossom. Doesn't mean we are lonely, far from it. I have great friends in and out of sexwork and choose to keep it separate. I have also chosen not to have a relationship whilst escorting and that works for me

mature helen · « **Reply #189 on:** 05 May 2017, 12:08:23 pm »

Single by choice and even if I wanted a BF finding a man off the street who would accept of my job would be few and far between, he would have to be broad minded maybe an open relationship or swinger type but awkwardly that's not the type of man (or lifestyle) I'd be interested in.

I don't want to tell a man I'm an escort as its private and MY business, I don't want to feel judged, or feel I have to justify myself, my work or worse have the fear it could be used as blackmail against me further down the line.

The practicalities or having a man in my life (aware/unaware of my job) isn't something that fills me with joy either, they eventually end up getting on my nerves, under my feet, annoy the hell out of me and make me yearn for freedom.

Younger escorts who are looking for a long term partner will have the most difficulty IMO.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #190 on:** 05 May 2017, 01:45:27 pm »

Mature Helen you put it so well 'getting under my feet' you do make me laugh yes they have that effect on me these days. A few hours chatting to one and I can't wait to get back to my own space.

I don't always find the work isolating like I said it comes and goes. I don't believe in the belief that in order to be happy you have to be hooked up which is what society tends to promote. It is often a lot easier on our own than coping with any of the men left on the market. I am in my fifties and they all have far too much baggage, health and money problems and other offputting issues going on in their life. I think you have to be very tolerant to be in a relationship and I have just lost the skill it would seem!

mature helen · « **Reply #191 on:** 05 May 2017, 05:09:42 pm »

Quote from: Lushblossom on 05 May 2017, 01:45:27 pm

Mature Helen you put it so well 'getting under my feet' you do make me laugh yes they have that effect on me these days. A few hours chatting to one and I can't wait to get back to my own space.

I don't always find the work isolating like I said it comes and goes. I don't believe in the belief that in order to be happy you have to be hooked up which is what society tends to promote. It is often a lot easier on our own than coping with any of the men left on the market. I am in my fifties and they all have far too much baggage, health and money problems and other offputting issues going on in their life. I think you have to be very tolerant to be in a relationship and I have just lost the skill it would seem!

I'm the same as you LB I'm late 50's and TBH he would have to be minted, drama free, happy to be at my beck and call, not hang around me, not bother me for sex, not contact me by phone or text, basically just come and go at my behest without question whilst adoring me. I don't hold out much hope so I'm extremely happy with my own company interjected with family and friends (but not too often or for too long because if they overstay I'm looking at the clock) lol

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #192 on:** 05 May 2017, 05:15:00 pm »

Quote from: mature helen on 05 May 2017, 12:08:23 pm

Single by choice and even if I wanted a BF finding a man off the street who would accept of my job would be few and far between, he would have to be broad minded maybe an open relationship or swinger type but awkwardly that's not the type of man (or lifestyle) I'd be interested in.

I don't want to tell a man I'm an escort as its private and MY business, I don't want to feel judged, or feel I have to justify myself, my work or worse have the fear it could be used as blackmail against me further down the line.

The practicalities or having a man in my life (aware/unaware of my job) isn't something that fills me with joy either, they eventually end up getting on my nerves, under my feet, annoy the hell out of me and make me yearn for freedom.

Younger escorts who are looking for a long term partner will have the most difficulty IMO.

This is why I have giving up on dating can't be asked any more with the agro. I prefer my own space and not a big fan of having others around me except family and friends.

I never used to be like this but am doing my own thing now.

mature helen · « **Reply #193 on:** 05 May 2017, 05:40:53 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 05 May 2017, 05:15:00 pm

This is why I have giving up on dating can't be asked any more with the agro. I prefer my own space and not a big fan of having others around me except family and friends.

I never used to be like this but am doing my own thing now.

Singledom/freedom/independence is amazing I wouldn't want to give it up now.
I find people especially large groups exhausting I prefer an occasional one to one or small groups more enjoyable.
With men for me they fall into 3 categories family, friend or punter.
Living life like this makes everything relaxing, calm and drama free..

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #194 on:** 05 May 2017, 05:56:36 pm »

Quote from: mature helen on 05 May 2017, 05:40:53 pm

Singledom/freedom/independence is amazing I wouldn't want to give it up now.
I find people especially large groups exhausting I prefer an occasional one to one or small groups more enjoyable.
With men for me they fall into 3 categories family, friend or punter.
Living life like this makes everything relaxing, calm and drama free..

Definitely having freedom means a lot to try new things on my own is more of an achievement to me. Also escorting has lost me interest in having sex outside so helps me live like this. I do still have horny moments in bookings. I know we have got our different reasons. Xx.

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