My 2 cents worth is give it a couple of weeks for him to mess up again.
See, this is exactly what I expect to happen. He says he's going to pay off the dealer the almost ?500 he owes him, but unless he robs a bank I don't see how he can. It's just not practical and I'm just trying to be practical. We're in the middle of the worst recession in the UK in I can't remember how long, there are predicted to be 3 million unemployed by Xmas. How's he going to buy the kids the presents he's already promised - ?300 cash to the eldest, a laptop to the middle one and a flatscreen TV for the littlest?
The economics don't add up. He gets ?230 three weeks of the month. Here's where it goes:
?160 - dope dealer (?100 for 1oz dope, ?60 arrears)
?30 - ?10 to each kid
?40 - ?40 taxi fares to see his brother and buy drink so he can have a hangover for 2 days
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?230
So how is he going to pay off the dealer AND give me ?100 a week AND take me out at least once a week? And even if he does pay off the debt to the dealer he'll just start getting it on tick again and end up in debt all over again. My Mum's bailed him out soooo many times I just don't believe a word of it anymore.
He wants me to stop and take off all my details. I haven't - I said once I see that he's changed and stopped squandering money and started keeping his promises to me then I'll stop.
He'd have a fit if he knew I was posting this - paranoia again, talking about him behind his back etc, but I can't talk to anyone else, you guys actually understand cos you've been in similar situations and are non-judgemental.