Author Topic: Am I at fault here or is it the client? (Read 5170 times)

Kendra · « **Reply #15 on:** 26 May 2016, 03:49:59 pm »

Quote from: newbieNW on 26 May 2016, 02:20:52 pm

Agree with Amy.

Stop worrying and forget about it. Not all bookings are meant to work out. If they do, great but if some don't, no biggie. Move on, there are worst things in life, like today's bad weather "I'm 30 yrs old virgin" would have been a red flag. A telltale sign of TWs (including those who ALMOST come so near you). Too much time on his hands, clearly. You were his today's entertainment.

But I don't have any problems with virgins, even if he was 50 and with me being vanilla service wise....I get loads of virgins.

I just wanted reassurance that I wasn't a fault for not agreeing to baby him all the way through his journey to me and that he had a bit of a cheek to cancel me reason being that I REALLY put him off, that was his actual words.

But yep....moving on.....

Hadley · « **Reply #16 on:** 26 May 2016, 03:54:21 pm »

Glad to hear you haven't heard anything more back from him- good news!

Yes as Amy and others have said, best not to engage past the point where someone has cancelled - for whatever reason. If someone either cancels, or states they want to cancel, then it is either a non booking or an unreliable booking.. so you wouldn't want to see them anyway... End of.

Once he has stated he wanted to cancel I would have replied something along the lines of "that's a shame, as I was looking forward to meeting you. Given that you had the street name, postcode and landmark I felt sure you were capable of finding me. As that's not the case I wish you a lovely evening and hope you can find someone better suited to your needs." AAAaaand block. Best not to engage with these sillies, they're just looking for attention! He would never have come anyway, best not to feed his ego with a response xx

It's nice to have you back Kendra xxxx

Kendra · « **Reply #17 on:** 26 May 2016, 04:10:05 pm »

Quote from: Hadley on 26 May 2016, 03:54:21 pm

Glad to hear you haven't heard anything more back from him- good news!

Yes as Amy and others have said, best not to engage past the point where someone has cancelled - for whatever reason. If someone either cancels, or states they want to cancel, then it is either a non booking or an unreliable booking.. so you wouldn't want to see them anyway... End of.

Once he has stated he wanted to cancel I would have replied something along the lines of "that's a shame, as I was looking forward to meeting you. Given that you had the street name, postcode and landmark I felt sure you were capable of finding me. As that's not the case I wish you a lovely evening and hope you can find someone better suited to your needs." AAAaaand block. Best not to engage with these sillies, they're just looking for attention! He would never have come anyway, best not to feed his ego with a response xx

It's nice to have you back Kendra xxxx

Thanks hunni, nice to speak to you again

Lushblossom · « **Reply #18 on:** 26 May 2016, 05:39:49 pm »

I do get occasionally asked how far is it from X location to mine as I am a map guidance counsellor or adviser or something!

I just refer them to google search and leave them to work things out.

Some people genuinely expect to have their hands held throughout the whole journey down and I don't bother with those ....

BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #19 on:** 26 May 2016, 06:41:50 pm »

Yeah how far is the city centre from blah blah.I can tell them roughly usually but you would think they would check for themselves before ringing!

Mirror · « **Reply #20 on:** 26 May 2016, 07:21:12 pm »

I had problems with some newbies not correctly estimating travel times. There are a I'm based in is notorious for even locals underestimating travel times and Google/route finders also not telling a true story. . For that reason, if the client told me rough location I'd advise him so he could plan.

Problem of course with those who didn't want to tell me.

Shewolf · « **Reply #21 on:** 26 May 2016, 09:51:07 pm »

I think you had a lucky escape there. All that hassle and he hadn't even got to yours haha! He would have been a nightmare x

Kendra · « **Reply #22 on:** 26 May 2016, 10:19:55 pm »

Quote from: Shewolf on 26 May 2016, 09:51:07 pm

I think you had a lucky escape there. All that hassle and he hadn't even got to yours haha! He would have been a nightmare x

I think at the very least he might have been overly needy and a bit of a pest afterwards if he did make the effort to find out where he was suppose to be going to loose his virginity x

Dani · « **Reply #23 on:** 27 May 2016, 12:51:06 pm »

To me it sounds as if either his nerves got the better of him or he has mental health issues. If the latter he should have informed you beforehand so you were aware he may need a guiding hand. I see a few men with these type issues and they need a lot of hand holding and guiding due to anxiety and fear of open spaces. One has a fear of driving and public transport so I do have to stay on the phone with him from the moment he leaves his property until he arrives at mine then after his mum has to do the same for his return journey. He is getting better though.
They are all lovely clients and although I have had to learn to shower, dress and do my face with one hand it has been worth it. However they informed me before hand of their issues so I was fully aware and could have the choice to see them or not. This guy didn't give you that option so you were right to not see him but I don't think you should have replied the way you did as you don't know if he was just being a coward or if he does have issues with anxiety or worse.

I would have probably replied along the lines of "I'm sorry you feel that way. It wasn't my intention to put you off. I hope you find someone suitable for you X". That way you have acknowledge his response without being on the defensive or attacking him and you have wished him well which ends any further contact.
Especially as we know that some people with issues can perceive almost anything as a personal attack and turn nasty over it. It's never worth the risk

Kendra · « **Reply #24 on:** 27 May 2016, 01:52:19 pm »

Quote from: Dani on 27 May 2016, 12:51:06 pm

To me it sounds as if either his nerves got the better of him or he has mental health issues. If the latter he should have informed you beforehand so you were aware he may need a guiding hand. I see a few men with these type issues and they need a lot of hand holding and guiding due to anxiety and fear of open spaces. One has a fear of driving and public transport so I do have to stay on the phone with him from the moment he leaves his property until he arrives at mine then after his mum has to do the same for his return journey. He is getting better though.
They are all lovely clients and although I have had to learn to shower, dress and do my face with one hand it has been worth it. However they informed me before hand of their issues so I was fully aware and could have the choice to see them or not. This guy didn't give you that option so you were right to not see him but I don't think you should have replied the way you did as you don't know if he was just being a coward or if he does have issues with anxiety or worse.

I would have probably replied along the lines of "I'm sorry you feel that way. It wasn't my intention to put you off. I hope you find someone suitable for you X". That way you have acknowledge his response without being on the defensive or attacking him and you have wished him well which ends any further contact.
Especially as we know that some people with issues can perceive almost anything as a personal attack and turn nasty over it. It's never worth the risk

I think it's a bit of both, nerves and some sort of mental health issues which is why I asked him if he's sure it's not loosing his virginity that's scared him off and trying to blame me instead.

And then to start going on about how I don't realise what's gone on in his life suggests "issues" of some sort.

Agreed, I could have handled it better. I'm not the best at dealing with people that either completely offend me or waste my time, he did both.

xx

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