Hello Everybody,

Well, here i am yet again, with yes another kind of problem. I have asked a couple of my friends but i thought i would ask on here.

Right i will start from the beginning. I am best friends with a girl a bit younger than me, she knows everything about me like i do about her, or so i thought. Well, she is in a relationship with a guy a bit older than her, they split up, get back together etc near enough every other day. We are both friends with this other guy, who i said i think is absolutely stunning, I'm in a 10 year relationship and will not stray but i do think he is attractive.

She took it upon herself to let this other guy (our friend), pick her up from her house and bring her into town on Friday. She never told her man that this had happened. He subsequently found out on the Saturday and went absolutely ballistic. Drove off and left her etc. She phones me up hysterical. I pick her up and comfort her.

To cut a very long story short, she ended up going off with the other guy to somewhere about 40 miles away from our town, there was him and 2 other lads in the car. I was a bit pissed off cause she never said anything she just left and started texting me while she was gone.

The point to this is coming, she text me, 'Ive come on my period heavy and bled through my knickers and jeans'. She had a tampon in and was just sitting in the car the whole way so i couldn't understand how this was possible. Then when they came back i saw the other guy and he had a stain on the back of his jogging bottoms, a big stain that to me looked like blood. But when someone said something about it he was baffled and said 'Oh my milkshake went over' If this had happend then it would of been funny and she would have definitely said something about it cause she is rather immature like that.

Now, we were talking about him today and she told me that he likes her something she hadn't ever said before. He will not now come to where we socialise because he is worried about her man. If he had nothing to hide he wouldn't worry?

We also got on the subject of trust today, and she asked if i trusted her, i said yes, she then, 'I'm sorry'. But couldn't explain what for? (maybe for sleeping with him knowing i said i think hes stunning).

Does anyone else think that she has slept with this guy and is hiding it from me?

Would be great to hear your opinions.

Love N' Hugz

Mak.
xxxxxx

Sorry I didn't follow the story properly
What was the relevance to the blood/her being on her period?
Did the blood stain on the back of the jogging bottoms lead you to think that they slept together?

Could she have done something with him? Yes.

But it doesn't really matter if she has or not - there's no way she can prove that she didn't and you don't trust her now.

If you're in a relationship that you never plan to stray from, is she not allowed to do stuff with guys that you've laid claim to (even though you'll never touch them yourself)? That seems like an unfair rule. Her relationship is clearly tumultuous, and yes, if she can't even be honest with you about a random shag that she had (when she knows it's important to you in some way), your friendship is probably not as solid as you'd hoped. But people are like that. And more importantly, men that you fancy but will never touch aren't not-allowed to get laid ever again! That would be rather unfair.

Your friend sounds immature, but the whole situation seems a bit odd, too. If I were in a relationship with Man A and also fancied Man B and Man C, I wouldn't try to ban any of my friends from going out with or getting it on with Man B & Man C! It would just be completely out of my jurisdiction, as it were. Cos if you follow that logic through, then that bloody cow* who's married to Robert Downey Jr certainly owes me an apology!

*I'm sure she's lovely really.

I understand what you mean now u've explained things a bit better. If something happens to her & she hasn't told you the truth then she's up the creek without a paddle & you can't do anything for her. If that does happen just b there for her.

xx