Disabled clients

By emailing us at SAAFE, Dr. Tuppy Owens has kindly reminded me of the needs of disabled clients. It is something we tend to forget about, that there are those with disabilities who would like to have their sexual requirements catered for.

Dr. Owens founded a site called Outsiders.org.uk nearly 30 years ago to help disabled people find partners. She also helps run tlc-trust.org.uk an organisation that helps find responsible sex workers for disabled clients.

Dr Owens informs me that it is very difficult finding established and responsible sex workers to sign up to the TLC Trust website. Ladies that don't take the piss (my words) by taking advantage of their disabled clients by charging more, or just not seeing them once they learn of a prospective client's disability. There are a few ladies listed there at the moment, but obviously it would be nice to add some more. Her goal in this case is to have as many sex workers listed to cover as much of the UK as possible.

If you don't have any problems seeing disabled clients either at your incall base or on an outcall to their home or hotel and would like to have your details added to the TLC Trust website, please do drop them a line.

N.B. A big thank you to Nine formerly of scot-pep.org.uk for pointing Dr. Owens in our direction.

On the subject of disabled clients, this is one escort's experience with her blind customers.

"I have seen four different blind clients, three of which have become regulars.

The first time I received an email from a blind client, I wondered how he had read my site so I asked him, and he explained that he had software which reads out the words to him from the web pages. He said my writing was very welcoming and so he plucked up the courage to write to me (I was his first experience). I was quite nervous myself before my first booking with him but he called to say he had been dropped off (by taxi) outside the hotel I was working from and I went down to reception to greet him and bring him up to my room. He had a white stick and so I just held out my arm and he put his hand on it and I led the way up to the room, pointing out any steps etc as we went – most blind, or partially sighted people, are used to finding their way around so you will just have to lead and point out the unusual/unexpected. Once in the room, you can give verbal directions for the loo etc but again, most are used to finding their way around so you shouldn't worry too much.

As for the appointment itself, there is not much difference to your average appointments although your client may need help looking for clothes if they've been thrown around the room in the midst of passion. As for your client getting dressed, don't forget, they do that every day and so are unlikely to need your help getting their socks on.

This same clients comes to see me (and don't worry about using expressions such as "it's good to see you") in London. He makes his way on the train and gets on the tube and I go and meet him at the station usually after a station assistant has guided him up to the relevant exit. At the end of the appointment, I take him back to the station and ask one of the staff to help him down on to this train. Realistically speaking, you'll need to allow and extra 5 or 10 minutes on to the appointment time to allow for this. He will often text me with details of which train he is on etc. and, like his home computer, his phone reads out my texts to him – so, a) do use proper English and not text speak when using this method of communication otherwise the recognition software may not be able to read it out properly, and b) bear in mind that fellow passengers may be able to hear the content of the text.

One of my blind clients lives and works in London and so is used to using cabs to get around as well as the underground. He usually makes his way to my apartment door and I go down and meet him and lead him up the stairs. He is happy to make his own way down though so, at the end of the appointment, he goes off and hails a cab.

Another blind client has a guide dog. I make sure there is some water out for the dog and he sits quietly throughout the booking.

Overall, there isn't really much difference in bookings with blind/partially sighted and non-blind clients. You may need to allow a little extra time to collect someone if they are outside of their own locational comfort zone or remember to wear normal clothes if you are going down or out to collect them but that aside, it's all pretty normal, whatever that may be!"