Right, I have put up with this one for long enough- he is becoming obsessive and harassing me, despite me warning him very directly I will tell the police if he contacted me again, so onto the warnings board he finally goes. His primary number is 07932 1146** and the second number he has recently started using, trying to catch me out, is 07775 6365** (PM for last two digits). I believe he likes new naive girls, as he found me when I was very new, and had always commented about how natural and sweet I am, "unlike girls who have been in the business a long time" (so apparently I am a good actress, sigh).

Anyway- South African accent- can speak Portuguese, looks Mediterranean, very short dark hair with grey flecks round the temples, early 40s, slim build, with glasses. 5ft 6in, quite softly spoken, narrow face. Had been a regular for around a year.

Eventually it was clear he was taking the situation out of context and becoming possessive, needy and demanding. I terminated seeing him- After several texts from him over the following couple of months, saying he missed me and wanted me and was lost without me, and begging for an appointment. I have very plainly asked him to move on and stop contacting me as he's completely misunderstood the situation. I have said this to him twice now since April.

I recently made a few changes to my online adverts, and since then he has emailed, called every day, and sent text messages begging to see me. He has even taken to calling from a second number and trying to disguise his voice on my answer machine, acting like a new client looking for a first booking. I ignored everything, but it became so incessant, that the other day I sent him an email the other day, listing all of his contact with me, telling him he was harassing me, and that if he contacted me again, I would tell the police. He has called me three times since I sent this email. I am going to tell the police in a bit. (Any advice about what to say- i.e the truth- how are they likely to react?) would be gratefully received.

I am starting to feel genuinely threatened and worried by his behaviour. Once he eventually gets bored of me and moves on, I'd advise new girls in particular to watch out for this man, because he has spent a long time becoming increasingly creepy and desperate until apparently losing all sense of reality.

Why oh why do some regulars get obsessed? Its catch 22, we are good at our jobs and so a regular is ripe to see more into it than it is. Thank goodness only a very few go down that route but its a shame when we have to take a harsh line because they have not taken subtle, and in some cases not-so-subtle, hints.

Thanks for the warning and sorry to hear of your troubles.

The only remedy for such situation is to reverse it. Turn into a needy, desperate girl and watch how fast he evaporates. Call him all the time, email him every detail of your life, bring up meeting again (or dating if you have too)...and it will all go away. Thats just how many men work

Peachy - you posted precisely what I was going to say.  Joey this is by far the daftest and quite frankly dangerous advice.  The whole idea is that we don?t want to engage with clients beyond a safe and controlled encounter.  What you propose is ridiculous and can seriously backfire.   

What a total wanker of the highest order!!!!!

Tell the police, they are usually quite good at dealing with things like this. My friend had a client's wife phoning her up. Apparently she had followed him! If it was me I would've knocked on the door 5 mins after he'd entered the house!!

Good luck luvvie.

xx