Bit of an odd one.
A client of mine - unbeknown to me at the time, was a school dad.
He booked me once and we didn’t realise at first and then he booked me again and told me his son is in my daughter’s class.
His wife has since found his online account and read the message between us that says he knows me from school etc, and she has realised it is me.
She has then addressed and posted a letter to my husband telling him that I solicit myself.
Also unbeknown to her that he actually knows.
He has shared the letter with me.
She is a TA at the school.
I have her number from past parties etc - even more difficulty in the situation?
Should I reach out to her to see if she plans on sharing her discovery?
I am extremely anxious. I do this alongside a regular job. I wouldn’t want anyone at school knowing, and she states in her letter to my husband she will not be telling anyone what her husband has been doing.
Does this mean I am safe or should I contact her?
I have not taken my account down, she has seen this and refers to it in her letter.
Advice needed!
I have researched outing people, and it seems if she outs me more than once for either her own gain or to cause harm to me, it falls under the harrassment act. She has already unofficially done this to my husband, so I didn’t know whether to reach out and advise her if she shared it with anyone else I am entitled to contact the police.
I also thought maybe woman to woman I could kindly speak to her as she is a nice lady.
I want to state after the realisation of who the person was, I no longer took bookings from him as I told him it was unprofessional of me. So it was only the two times over a year ago and his profile clearly shows he has seen at least ten other women.
However I am so anxious regarding school.
Please help!

This is very difficult situation .
I would suggest you remove your account so there is no proof .
I don't know if you used a separate work phone you could block them.
You say she's a nice lady but trust me that would have changed after what she knows I'd not go anywhere near her for a chat .
Can you get her husband to remove any proof of your communication?