Hi,

I am very new to escorting but have had a few clients (I am a Transgender escort), the thing is I find it easier to do incalls at my house because I do not get anyone interested in outcalls. I have an 18year old son who is home a lot and when I can do incalls to be honest I don't want him in the house when I have clients (neither do the clients lol).

At the moment I make all sorts of excuses for my son to go out so I can have a client around but its quite tricky and costing me clients, I am now thinking of telling my son what I do so he can understand why I want him to be out of the house when I have men around. He is pretty easy going and I think he will be ok with it although I will find it pretty tricky telling him telling him I am an Escort.

I would prefer my son to never know I am an escort.  I cannot imagine it would help them to know that in any shape or form.

I hear a few of us have found our children have no problem with it but in my experience those are rare.  Most would vehemently protest and it may damage the relationship.  Not worth risking losing the happy link with our sprogs if you ask me.

If my mother told me she was an escort, I would support her of course - but that is probably because this is my job and I probably have  a different view on it compared to someone not in this industry.
My mother is very liberal, but she would be so worried about the dangerous side to our job - this is the main reason I could never tell her.

If you think your son would be laid back and accepting of your choices, then maybe you could tell him. What about feeling it out and bringing up a conversation about sex work and see what his opinions are on it. Maybe that would give you more of an indication of how he would react if you told him.

I couldn’t ever  imagine judging someone on their life choices - never mind judging my mother. But not everyone may be so accepting.

Yes and I get a lot more interest for incalls at my place, rather than outcalls. I guess lots of clients are not single and do not want to pay hotel fee's plus my extra charge for outcalls.

I hardly get any outcall requests now because I won't do residential meets, only hotels. All the guys I've seen in the last 12 months for an outcall have been away on business. I did one residential to a guy I used to see regularly and is absolutely lovely.

My son knows, he found out when he was 21 or 22. I stupidly left my AW profile up on our shared PC.  It was horrible at the time but he has come to terms with it now. His main concern is what if one of his mates turns up? So we agreed I would not work closer than an hour to home.

His main concern apart from that was:
The risk of being attacked - what helped with that was going through my security process with him
Getting a punter addressing me in the street/shops - we resolved that through only working an hour away. If I've been greeted in the street by an ex colleague, I always say to him "Bob and I worked together at CoprShithole. Wow that must be 15 years ago now!"
He has met my hooker BFF and he really likes her
He had mass media crap in his mind thinking I was doing car meets and £10 BJs.
When he lived away from home he ran with some pretty dodgy guys who were always messaging very cheap ladies and expecting them to do £200 for an overnight, oh and she'll be servicing 3 guys

All those lovely sterotypes we have to face 

Anyway we're two years on now and he's supportive, but I have to be very careful about telling him any situation where I felt at risk, as it sends his anxiety into the stratosphere.

If you stopped offering incalls I think you would find yourself suddenly getting a lot more outcall requests because people have no choice really if they wanted to see you.
I used to only offer outcalls and I used to get a good amount of them. I never used to list my number and one day I put it up and had 3 outcalls in one night. As soon as I offered regular incalls, it would be a rarity to get outcall requests.

Would hotels not be an option for you? I do agree with a previous poster that it’s not worth potentially damaging your relationship with your son. Even with a friend for example, these things can go one way or another and even if they are ok with it, it can still take time for it to sink in which can be hard.

My best friend accepts what I do as if it’s a totally ‘normal’ job, but when I first told her, she was shocked and it took a few days for it to sink in and her get her head around around it which was hard but it’s all good now. You may have a similar situation with your son. She did tell me recently how much she used to worry when I was working though just generally for my overall safety

If theres the option to offer incalls at a hotel or even renting a room daily that might be the best option. Id be very wary of using an incall location thats a shared home. You leave their home open to being discussed on review sites,possiblity of punters just turning up and theives. 

What can be gained by telling our children even if they are of an adult age?  Surely it will only damage their minds.

Unless they are extra open minded by nature of course.

Although I have heard both good and bad outcomes on this one.

Some people don't like keeping secrets, some people want their nearest & dearest to know so that they can act appropriately in the event of a problem, some...

It's their choice.

Exactly! Everybody's situation is different and if children have been brought up by open minded parents then they are much more likely to be too.