Hi, I need some advice; I have nowhere else to turn to.

I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

I worked very successfully a few years ago but quit when I got into a serious relationship. I started my own non-escorting business, we moved in together and we had a baby, who is now 9 months old. Our relationship was always very rocky, the business didn't generate enough income and we got into some debt. I always craved to get back to escorting because I hated working 100+ hours a week, barely covering bills, never seeing my kids and always being exhausted.

I finally told my partner about my previous escorting job and told him I wanted to get as it would really help solve some of the problems we were facing. After a few months of me just working a couple of days a week it became apparent that he didn't like me doing it. So I stopped again. Fast forward another few months. By this point, our relationship was so terrible that it was clear we had to split, for everyone's sake. He blames my job but in truth, our relationship was beyond repair by that point.

I was left with a house I couldn't afford, debt which he created and a family to look after on the very little net profit my business was turning over. So I went back to work a few days a week, which he discovered due to a fake Backpage ad that got made off my AW account. Through all of our arguments, both prior and post our breakup, he swore he wouldn't tell anyone about my job. He knew it would have drastic affects on my non-escorting business and, of course, my family. Stupid, naive, little me believed him.

Not only did he tell his parents, he showed them the Backpage ad and told this that was the reason we broke up. His mum now believes it is her duty to inform my mum of the "dangerous job" I have.

I don't know what to do. I had managed to keep this secret for a very long time and chose to disclose this very personal information to the man I once loved at a time that I loved him. Firstly, I feel betrayed, because he swore blind that he wouldn't tell anyone. Secondly, I feel hurt because the blame of the relationship failing is lying at my feet, even though deep down we both know that isn't the truth at all. And the major one; how the hell do I keep this reaching the ears of the only person who I actually care about knowing?? How do I stop this affecting my other business? If it gets found out then my business will be destroyed because clients will stop trading with me, customers won't use my business and it might we'll get bloody broadcasted on some shitty newspaper for my whole city to see.

I feel sick to my actual stomach. I need some help.


PS. I really enjoy my escort job and have done even since I entered into the industry. I chose to out it aside because my relationship at the time seemed more important.

Firstly I'm sorry to hear of your situation!

Couple of options... deny it and turn it on him and say he's made the profiles of you to be nasty etc etc. After all I'm sure he would have had some pictures of you at some time.. Dodgey card to play and I wouldn't personally but I'm sure you know what could be made believable and what couldn't

Secondly, just own it!! Explain to your mum and his mum if needed that you started doing to support your family INCLUDING him and he was happy for you to do so.
I'm sure all mothers can relate that they would do anything for their children and if you were working a million hours and still could t afford what was needed, then I'm sure it can be understood that escorting was a solution (politically correct or not).

I would recommend speaking to your mum and explain everything. I would hope that she may be disappointed for a short while but after the initial blow I'd hope she'd see your side.

As for the business, I'd say don't worry too much. I know it feels like the whole world might find out sometimes but honestly you'd be surprised what they don't find out. And if shit does hit the fan... go full time whore, make a stack of money and be better off in the long run! (I'm saying that very lightly)

Personally I found that being confident with my decide to be a whore has helped a lot. Anyone I've told had been accepting of it

Xxxx

Thanks Ruby. When I worked before, I loved it and knew it was what I wanted to do. I came so close to telling my mum multiple times because I was almost ready to out myself and state "I AM A WG AND PROUD!!". It was more hassle to keep it secret than it was to just say it  Now, I don't know, I feel that I have so much more to lose. Or maybe with the very difficult  and nasty breakup, the weeks of rebuilding my home and life, I just need a stretch of calm. I need a rest. My mum is the last person I have and I couldn't bare if she turned her back on me either.

I think you guys are right though. Either I deny it until I am blue in the face, or put my hands up and confidently admit what I do.

I am sorry to hear what you are going through,

why would he show his parents and why would they get involved.. its not there place.

as you have hidden your face etc, please dont worry, i know it easier said then done.

Explain to your mum that hes become a nightmare and is making stories up and how become very difficult and strange

+ 100000, sorry this has happened to you xx

My ex outed my to his parents too and his mum told him he should grow a pair and get a better job so I wouldn't have to do escorting 
Wtf some men would share something like this? They are just dicks.