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FakePlasticTrees

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Boyfriend/Husband...
« on: 21 May 2013, 01:43:47 pm »
How many of you are in a relationship?
Does your OH know and if not how do you hide your job from your other half?
How long have you hidden your job and how do you explain the extra money?
If you're hiding escorting from your OH do you do incalls or outcalls and how does that work?

The reason I ask and please don't judge me or tell me I'm awful is because I've started escorting behind my boyfriends back. We're on and off and during one of our "off" sessions I started doing this. We don't live together but he comes to mine a lot and for that reason I've only been doing outcalls when he's at work. I NEED the money and I don't see a penny of his money so need to stand on my own two feet. I only do one to three bookings a week so thats only 3-4 hours which suits me fine and out of a week there's always an excuse to be away an hour or so but I really want to do incalls but is it too risky? I know all of this awful but I don't feel guilty, there's not an ounce of emotion put into the job and I do view it very business minded all though I'm not naive to think he or other people will see it like that.

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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #1 on: 21 May 2013, 02:16:53 pm »
I definitely wouldn't do in calls.Men stick up for other men and one of your male neighbours is bound to say something to your boyfriend,should he ever run into him when he is coming to visit you or as he is leaving.The neighbours might not know you're escorting but they're going to notice different men going in and out.I suppose you could come up with a cover story about being a therapist or something but that's not going to work in youre in a tiny flat or you're really young

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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #2 on: 21 May 2013, 02:21:50 pm »
There are several threads about working when in a relationship and also concealing it from them here - do have a search.
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« Reply #3 on: 21 May 2013, 02:31:35 pm »
Aww honey, sticky situation isnt it? Tell someone that you are doing something that you know they will hate or keep it from them?
I hate, hate, hate lying, and in my relationship I have always said it doesnt matter what, we need to be honest with eachother.

Ive been considering turning to escorting for some time now, and figured that I would tell my partner that I was going out to do a massage, and charge ?100 per hour and go home with ?60 odd quid and stash the other ?40 away and save it or just hope hes not counting the money I spend, but having been a bit of a loner since I moved here I havent really got any girlfriends that I can let know where I am, what time I arrive and what time I should be out of a clients home.

So I told him on sunday night that I wanted to sort out an AW profile and told him of my intentions, we got into an argument and hes been sleeping on the sofa since, he is "unhappy with the idea that his girlfriend will whore herself to pay the bills, and thats exactly what I will be, he doesnt see a way that his friends and family will ever like or respect me."

my advice is dont tell him, it doesnt matter what hes done but you will be the worst person for making money the way you can, he had a business that bled me dry for the past two years, all the times hes sat in tears not knowing how he could do his bit, never thought of getting a job until 2 weeks ago,  ive worked all sorts of jobs n im the bad one for supporting us anyway I can.


Sorry im babbling more about my situation than yours, but you mentioned that you are in an on off relationship, are you willing to share what will be one of the biggest secrets of your life with someone who isnt always a constant?...I know nothing more of your relationship than that, but I would not be telling someone who is either often angry/unsure of their feelings for me a secret that could potentially ruin my life (maybe im paranoid, but i see it as the easiest way to be out hun)

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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #4 on: 21 May 2013, 06:48:36 pm »
I broke up with my now ex and started working. we got back together. i couldnt give it up. he found out. still deny it to this day!
I would not have clients at my house if we got back together.

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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #5 on: 22 May 2013, 02:32:59 pm »
I broke up with my now ex and started working. we got back together. i couldnt give it up. he found out. still deny it to this day!
I would not have clients at my house if we got back together.
What coukdnt you give up Emily? The money, sex or added cinfidence I imagine it gives you?
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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #6 on: 22 May 2013, 05:15:21 pm »
Thanks for the replies girls.

Incalls would be a stupid idea I know :/. All I'm wanting is a few regulars so I make at least ?300 a week. The regulars I have all have girlfriends and wives so I'm more comfortable with that as there's less chance of them outing me if they have something to lose. Single guys scare me for that reason.

Once I start taking orders again for my other business I can make the same amount but it's more work and I'm enjoying a break from it ATM.

I'm terrified of him finding out though as he may, in a fit of rage, announce it on Facebook *shudder*.

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« Reply #7 on: 22 May 2013, 06:05:55 pm »
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I'm terrified of him finding out though as he may, in a fit of rage, announce it on Facebook *shudder*.

Sounds like a nice guy. Can i have his phone number if you dump him? (insert irony tone here).
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Re: Boyfriend/Husband...
« Reply #8 on: 24 May 2013, 12:05:14 pm »
unfortunately Ana some men react this way. an ex partner sent my mother a link to my escort profile, another guy put my real name on adultwork feedback. Such children.

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