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Sass

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Help with massage and sex sessions
« on: 05 July 2018, 10:48:44 pm »
Hello everyone,

I'm Sass and I'm new here. I've been reading up on all the information on here and it has really helped. I'm so glad I found this place!

Basically I want to get into escorting and have done for years but only now do I feel like I really want to do it and make it a success.

I want to offer escorting and sensual made with HR preferably separately and I think my background with massage will help me but there are some things I'm unsure of..

1. When doing a sensual massage, do you touch and brush past their cock and balls throughout or just wait until the end to do the HR?

2. If they want to have sex in the middle of a massage, how do you do it with taking payment when they've already paid? How much do you charge.. would it be 30min massage fee and 30min escorting fee? Or do you charge for a 1hr escorting fee  ???

3. What do you ladies wear during a sensual massage and escorting session,  I was thinking a babydoll but in massage will that be annoying draping over their skin? Or do you massage in something like stockings and suspenders? Or be naked and even charge more for being naked?...If you want to slide against them surely you'd have to be naked?

4. As I'll be doing outcalls, do you use their shower after or leave as soon as and wait till you get home?

I will be taking enquiries through email first, then if they want to book then I'll give them my number, I'll screen though asking questions and asking for a recent bill or driving licence before booking them in..is that a good enough procedure?

Sorry for loads of questions,  I really appreciate any help and guidance.
Thanks  :)

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #1 on: 06 July 2018, 01:04:40 am »
Hi Sass,

I do massage and sex rather than GFE so I hope I can try to answer some of your questions. Other ladies may have a different perspective of course!

1: A sensual massage is usually quite erotic from the beginning, building up in intensity as you go along. You might tease their cock and balls from the start and do some body to body slides or you might concentrate on giving a 'proper' massage and leave the sexy stuff til the end. It depends on your style.

2: I always find out exactly what they want at the beginning and take the correct cash before the service starts. If they ask for extras during the service they have to pay first - even if that means a slight disruption - although I try to make it playful and teasing.

3: Nice bra and kickers with a silk dressing gown. The dressing gown comes off when they've paid and the rest after a short while, usually while doing their back so I can do some body to body.

4: Not sure as I only do incalls

Other ladies will be able to give you a better idea of outcall screening than I can. Good luck!

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #2 on: 06 July 2018, 07:26:15 am »
Thanks Grace, that's helpful. I know they seem really silly questions, I'm thinking about it so much to try and get started that I think I'm confusing myself in the process! It's a bit daunting but I want to do this.
I think I'm getting confused with trying to offer two different things, massage and HR and escorting. I want to see which one will be more popular.
What is an actual GFE?
Appreciate help from anyone

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #3 on: 06 July 2018, 10:54:35 am »
I do both services but charge the same for them. So if they want full sex during a massage that’s ok. If they want both services at the booking stage it’s an hour and a half booking,  hour for massage half for bedroom fun. I massage naked and they can touch throughout if they can reach me. I glide past and stroke the sctrotum during the massage but not the penis, I leave that till the end when I give a lingam massage.
GFE is a term used for sexual services usually of a vanilla nature including full sex. I also only do incalls so can’t help regarding the shower.
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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #4 on: 06 July 2018, 12:17:18 pm »
A GFE is generally kissing and cuddling and affectionate type sex like you would expect from well a girlfriend rather than a full on porn style session,although some people have different ideas about what each style of sex entails but that is the sort of GFE i offered.

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #5 on: 06 July 2018, 03:13:52 pm »
Thanks Vichyssoise and BibiofLeeds for your replies, I'm thinking I want to try and keep escorting and massage separate but maybe incorporate a little massage in a 1hr escort session. 

Has anyone got any advice for a first appointment, things to take, things to know,  be aware of.. anything really!

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #6 on: 06 July 2018, 06:23:11 pm »
Are you intending to bring a portable massage table with you on outcalls? Because trying to massage clients on a bed is the quickest way to develop excruciating back, neck and shoulder pain.
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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #7 on: 06 July 2018, 08:43:16 pm »
I do have a 'portable!' massage table but it's very heavy so not that portable! Plus without wanting to sound completely paranoid..I didn't want to have to drive my car right up to their house and have them see it. I live in a small village and have a conspicuously coloured car! I was actually going to try massaging on their own bed. I know it's not great for posture but I am willing to try and if it is a struggle I may start using my massage table instead. I have tried a massage on my partner on the bed and it seemed to be ok..but that's only one so multiple massages on a bed could prove problematic.  I don't know, I suppose I'll suck it and see...(no pun intended)  :)

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #8 on: 07 July 2018, 06:21:17 am »
Being able to do massage properly should be a feature - are you sure that taking a table and parking etc would be terrible? Only you and they know that it involved a hand job. Depending on the price and your marketing, some people may well book you and not expect any sexual contact.

If you want to keep the massage and escorting separate, do so! All escorting involves having boundaries (and preferably sticking to them!) so it's perfectly normal for people to offer different services for different sorts of bookings.

Here, it could be proper massage + hand job with no touching of you (optionally except for...) OR stroky (but not 'a massage') sexual GFE.
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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #9 on: 07 July 2018, 09:10:07 am »
Being able to do massage properly should be a feature

This definitely is a big selling point! I would make it the main focus in fact.
Marketing ideas - as a masseuse, you can advertise on directories focused on sensual massage (like Ace Massage etc).
As GFE sex/ masseuse, advertise on sex directories, like AW.

You learn and adjust as you do things, test, test, test and see what works for you.
Good idea, in my experience, is to make your service a clear and visual product.
So for example, service 1) professional sports massage + hand relief (explain the rules: what you do, what is the benefit, will you be naked? maybe not)
service 2) erotic massage: with body to body and more touching options...
etc...  ;)
(I think I just repeated what xw5 has said  :D )
The biggest problem would be the bed/ massage table. Don't know what to advice apart from taking a yoga mat + towels instead of the table and doing the massage on the floor (I used to do this for quite a long time but then it becomes a bit tough on your knees; however it's good for body to body slides and you don't have to worry that the table will break or you will fall down..).

3. What do you ladies wear during a sensual massage and escorting session,  I was thinking a babydoll but in massage will that be annoying draping over their skin? Or do you massage in something like stockings and suspenders? Or be naked and even charge more for being naked?...If you want to slide against them surely you'd have to be naked?
You can start the session with wearing all the gear - stockings and whatever, and then incorporate taking them off in the massage, so brush them with whatever clothes you're taking off; you can stay in your knickers and slide easily, if you don't want to get naked (I never take my knickers off).
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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #10 on: 08 July 2018, 12:38:34 am »
Thank you for all your replies, xw5 and 80s synthetic, I appreciate your help, thank you.

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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #11 on: 08 July 2018, 01:32:16 am »
I do have a 'portable!' massage table but it's very heavy so not that portable! Plus without wanting to sound completely paranoid..I didn't want to have to drive my car right up to their house and have them see it. I live in a small village and have a conspicuously coloured car! I was actually going to try massaging on their own bed. I know it's not great for posture but I am willing to try and if it is a struggle I may start using my massage table instead. I have tried a massage on my partner on the bed and it seemed to be ok..but that's only one so multiple massages on a bed could prove problematic.  I don't know, I suppose I'll suck it and see...(no pun intended)  :)
You can buy a lightweight massage table for less than a £100 that will make life easier
You can easily keep it in your car.
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Re: Help with massage and sex sessions
« Reply #12 on: 11 July 2018, 02:03:31 pm »
Hi!
This is what I offer :)

I charge a lower rate for Tantric Swedish with Hand Relief

And then I offer different price for Tantric Sex.

I tell my clients they have to decide prior to the booking starting (on arrival is ok) if they want HE or FS.

I don't want money being exchanged half way through the booking because it breaks up the flow and makes it robotic.

With erotic massage it's all about making the client feel at ease and constantly turned on (without trying lots of natural chit chat and jokes depending on the guy it can get quite deep during the massage part).
Body to Body is almost essential if you are offering HE massage as many will ask and it's a good think to know how to do.

I let them lie down on the table so they can watch me undress... bend over things like that!

Hope that helps!