I'm no expert on this, but presumably at certain times douching isn't going to be 100% effective - i.e. if you haven't evacuated your bowels in the previous few hours, there's going to be some stuff approaching!

Could diet help, boosting the amount of fibre you eat?

Also, I think you'd be aware if you did, but any chance you have some little haemarrhoids?

With douching, what goes up must come down. ie if you squirt a bunch of water up there (especially with those shower thingys where you can get water a long way up there not just the anus) and just use your pooping muscles to push it back out, often some water will be left up there and you'll get poopy splashes of water on your bed (or your fuck buddy's fingers). After douching once, I use my butt muscles to hold the water in there and use the douche nozzle to swirl the water around a but then remove the douche, use poop muscles to push the water out, douche again and this time if the nozzle comes out clean, I hold the water in again and poke around with my finger to make sure there's no poop still hiding up around the internal sphincter. Rinses and repeat if necessary but usually a few douches do the job. Then when I can tell by fingering there's nothing in the actual anus or sitting just above the internal sphincter, I alternate fingering and drying my fingers on loo paper a few times to get any excess water out. The more thoroughly you do this, the less likely you are to have the problem I mentioned at the beginning. Lastly I rinse the douche with detol and water and put it away and give the toilet, sink and surroundings a squirt of spray disinfectant, jump in the shower and good to go. Sounds involved but only takes about 5 minutes all up.

I agree with Aussie and Midstudent, that maybe you are retaining a little bit of water up there which is then being released once you're relaxed and turned on - along with a little bit of the brown stuff because the water has helped it soften slightly.

I know this is contrary to the fashion (or good practice, however you see it) of douching but I actually prefer not to douche, and have had no problems with messiness when receiving anal sex whatsoever. Nothing is kept in the rectum, it's just a passageway. Poop is kept in the bowel, which is way further up and can't be made contact with during anal sex. If you are a normal person with a healthy digestive system then there is no reason to have to douche, unless you want to. Like me you might find you have a nicer, completely clean experience without douching, and the associated residual water and runniness in your system.

You mentioned you douched a good half hour before the meet. I don't douche as I've said, but my understanding was that anal douching needed to be done 2 hours or so before bum fun? If you definitely want to douche maybe you need to do it more in advance to avoid the side effects?

I actually ask men not to douche (but instead to go for a number two first, then wash thoroughly) to avoid the risk of runny brown water coming out when I am using my strap on on them, which has happened before. I personally prefer a nice normal undouched bum, as do a fair number of others. Remember also the mainstream fashion for anal douching started up very recently... internal cleaning is a trend in which you don't have to participate if you don't want to. xx

Agreed with Hadley. Never douched and I have no messiness problem, either.

Excuse the mental imagery, but if you have muddy bowel movement problems and it leaves residue inside, your diet is the first thing I'd look into.

Thanks for all the advise, especially Aussie & Hadley. Think I know what the problem may be now! It's definately not diet or bowel related as I'm healthy in both these aspects so it's got to be that I've been over enthusiastic with the douching  TBH in the past before I knew about douching I just used to clean up with finger and baby wipe, and I never once had any mess. So I guess I've been using too much water, too deep and not allowing enough time for what I've obviously disturbed in the depths to clear.

I think I'll just try a light douche next time and save the jet wash for clients who like to pay to be pooped on 

 * eat fibre*

  *poop*

  *douche, twice or how many times you want*

 * wait for 15 to 30 mins to see if there is trapped water, this can cause an accident*