Hi ML,

Welcome to SAAFE.

I have been sitting trying to think of a nice polite way to say it, but the easiest way I can put it is, you can buy all the domme tools in the world but that won't make you a domme.  Being a domme takes a lot more than that. A domme booking also takes a lot more out of you than a vanilla or GFE one does.  Both mentally and physically. Pardon my expression but most people know how to shag, not everyone knows how to domme.

I would suggest you start out with doing "normal" escorting and break yourself in for if you suffer from anxiety and social awkwardness you are going to find it extremely difficult to get started.  It takes 100% effort to get started as a normal prossie but being a domme takes a lot more.  It is not for the faint hearted.

I would suggest starting in straight prossie work and in your quieter spells and read up A LOT about domming before you even think about starting.  If you try and start out any other way it may have adverse effect on your business if you fail to come up to par.  Domming is not just about "ordering guys about", there are too many different aspects to go into on a forum but one suggestion would be to look at some other girls profiles on AW who do do domme and are quite established with it.  I don't mean pick a female with the word "mistress" or "madam" or similar name for anyone can do that, but it takes a lot more for someone to become a real domme.

When you are building your business up and reading up about domme work it will come to you how you will want to start a session, each person has their own way and domme is different from vanilla or GFE.

When it comes to location ie Incalls or outcalls, due to the nature of the beast and  the equipment that is required to the sessions, most dommes only do Incalls.  Can you imagine carrying half of the stuff you say you have purchased to a hotel outcall, not really viable.

Take your time getting started and blend yourself in gently, escorting is a big step to take without jumping in feet first with something you really know nothing about, especially if you have a nervous personality.

TC and all the best.

Being a dominatrix is not necessarily about thinking of them as some kind of dirt.

Clients pay for the skill & expertise of a professional power play session, not actually someone with not one fuck to give.

Whilst there is nothing stopping you from charging for such a session before you even have a clue, but it could harm your reputation by so doing.

Hi I'm a dominatrix and a lot of it is attitude and presence. It's the way you hold yourself, give off that air of authority, facial expressions, confidence, commanding respect.
I never shout or raise my voice as cool, calm authoritative whispering close to their ear when they are blindfolded and shackled sends more chills down their spine than any shouting.
It isn't a case of just blindly whipping and slapping, it's something you have to really have a feeling for, something that seems to come from within you. It isn't all about pain and fear which is where a lot of people get the wrong idea about domination.
There is no sex involved with me, in fact they are not even allowed to touch me. I don't take any item of clothing off.
You have to be very careful about leaving marks and very careful about health and safety issues. Bondage can be so dangerous when not done properly.
Every dominatrix is different, almost every one of my domination sessions is different, it's definetly not about treating them like dirt.

I am vanilla escort. But I enjoy domination as a fun role play. Clients are more understanding as they know I am not a pro-domme.

Anyway I watched lots of videos about it just to get some ideas about it. For the occasional awkward break, I studied few phrases, or stuff to do from videos. So when I run out of what to do I just go on to that manual.