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EnglishAmy40

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #30 on: 28 September 2019, 06:04:28 pm »
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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #31 on: 28 September 2019, 08:10:00 pm »
Personally, I'd keep my head down and work as quietly as possible until the lease was up. I've found the best flats to rent are in areas with a lot of Eastern Europeans. They don't seem to take any notice of whats going on if you're discreet. I work from a nice flat in that type of area seeing four guys three times a week. Been there 18 months and no one knows. I'm like you - quite nervous about being outed. But when I left, that guy would get dog poop through his letterbox.

I would put dog poop in the pebbles 😂

Lady Frog

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #32 on: 28 September 2019, 08:36:40 pm »
I've found the best flats to rent are in areas with a lot of Eastern Europeans.

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I think it is partly due to cultural difference, especially with people from former communist countries. They naturally mind their own business, and will not stick their nose into yours unless you are causing them some kind of a problem. Not like us brits who love snitching, bitching, and curtain twitching...
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #33 on: 28 September 2019, 08:40:50 pm »
Folks, the OP isn't in the UK and even if she was this is not going to degenerate any further into silly generalisations about nationality. Move on, please.

EnglishAmy40

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #34 on: 28 September 2019, 08:48:45 pm »
Haha Paris.

Lady Frog, so true and I wish I'd known this ages ago. The flat I work from has been a working flat for eleven years and no one knows. There are always new people moving in and moving out which is another good thing. If there were Brits there, they would soon be curtain twitching (sweeping statement I know) or be sitting on my doorstep doing a crossword or something. Ground floor flats work best in my view. Short of having an underground tunnel, where I work couldn't be better for discretion. So OP I really do feel for you because I've been in a similar situation before and it's just not nice, especially if you are a nervous type as I am.

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #35 on: 28 September 2019, 08:53:57 pm »
I've lived in my flat for over eleven years and had my work flat for over five, I wouldn't recognise any of my neighbours in the street and I doubt they would me. We're all British, as far as I know.

Anyway, the OP has paid six months rent upfront, so as she's said she isn't going to be moving any time soon. The weird bloke hanging around on her doorstep is the problem and would be regardless of where her flat is and what it's like, not any mistake that she's made or anything she's done.

Lady Frog

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Re: Suspicious busy body neighbour
« Reply #36 on: 29 September 2019, 12:25:18 am »
Okay that was a poor choice of words, obviously you can't stereotype people by their nationality, but cultural influences do have in impact on people's interaction with each other, as I have noticed in the many many places I have rented, and various nationalities of people I have rented to/from, mostly outside of escorting. I definitely wasn't suggesting the OP is somehow to blame for this man's behaviour.

It seems very clear from the fact he spoke up in a defensive way "it's okay she just likes to play with the play with the pebbles" that he was well aware he was in the wrong; that is very defensive - not normal neighbourly conversation at all. He knows you know he's up to something.

Definitely move when your lease ends... even if nothing happens, staying put may cause you stress and paranoia. As far as what to do in the meantime, before the lease is up, that really depends on the potential consequences of this situation escalating: ie. depends on the legalities of escorting in your country.

One option would be to move and sublet the flat for the remainder of the contract term, again that depends on the legalities of subletting where you are. Seems like your neighbours would potentially grass you up to your letting agency or landlord if you sublet and tried to hide it.

More immediately, it might be worth putting up a dummy CCTV camera over the entrance way? They cost £5 i think, it might put him off hanging around.
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A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen