Quote from: cassie on 25 January 2009, 10:32:31 pm

Ok, what about a rapist or serial killer or just a mugger? There are so many weird people around.

Yes I know (lets not beat this poor, lame horse again    but like I said meeting guys offline is very popular here among men. There just isnt many other venues. Besides, you can meet a 'nice' guy in a pub on the 1st or 2nd date, but he could turn into an abusive nutcase on your wedding date!

If we all sat around and scare ourselves to death with this whole rapist, murdered, pyscho thing then we'll never get out there and meet new people. Like I said I've been doing this a long time and most of those guys I see on the internet I see them online all the time anyway. It comes down to basic stuff, I wont see anyone who calls private, I let people know where Im going, and I forward addresses as well. No big deal now quit it with this scary stuff!

THUMP! THUMP! THUMP! OUCH!  

I'm not trying to scare you, just saying you should be cautious and refuse to meet new dates anywhere but in public, what you are doing is good, but most of that will only be useful to help catch the guy after the horrible thing has happened and lets face it preventing it from happening is much better.

I have been on a number of 'dates' through the internet, some from dating site, some from adult dating sites and have met many lovely people that way, some of ehom I am still friends with - I still insisted to meet them first in public and when I did go to their homes after that first meet I would do all you said you do, even leaving a note at my house with all the details I knew about this guy on my table at home.

It will never happen to Joey, he will be fine.   

Will that be his epitaph?

Quote from: lexie on 25 January 2009, 11:29:08 pm

It will never happen to Joey, he will be fine.   

JINX BLOCKERS ACTIVATED 

No idea....... absoloutly no idea what your on about.

I think it might just be true that men and women have a big difference in their socialization as they grow up as far as personal safety is concerned. I mean, as a girl, I feel like I've been warned and frightened by stories of women getting attacked in myriad horrible situations and so that's why now I'm so careful no matter whether I'm alone, meeting a client, walking home in the dark, even walking past a shadowy doorway for gods sake!

On the other hand, does the average man feel that shivery sense of doom every time they step outside after dark, or walk into an area occupied by one or more other guys? They def aren't brought up to feel that way!

I think that might also be why guys sometimes don't seem to understand how creepy/intimidating it is when they shout at girls on the street or start following them around eyeing them up or whatever. Girls aren't complimented as much as think "argh rapist"! Even though the majority of guys are obviously fine

Dunno, could be totally missing the point but maybe that's why us girls aren't understanding joey's ideas here? 

Emily you couldnt of said it better, you're exactly right. Remember wouldnt you rather be around a secure guy or scaredy cat

I didn't mean that brave men = good and frightened men = bad. That's a silly thing to say.

I meant, women = brought up to fear strangers, men = brought up to show (fake?) bravado. Maybe that's why you, joey, think us girls are being silly when we sound shocked at the risks you take?

(Lol, my mum's new cat is called Joey and he's a right scamp!)

(Lol, my mum's new cat is called Joey and he's a right scamp!)

Now, now Em, your not suggesting our Joey is an alleycat, are you? 
 

Quote from: cassie on 26 January 2009, 08:05:37 pm

I want to be around a secure guy, who has the ablitiy to assess a potential dangerous situation and the sense to avoid one if possible, but will stand up for himself and/or me if unavoidable.

pmsl thats brilliant!  And true.

Hey, I'm pretty proud of that one myself, LOL 
No matter how hard I try, my brilliance just shines through again and again... (ok, I'm going to be sick myself now...)