Tonight I went to visit someone, and I totally felt like an escort even though it wasnt arranged that way. Everything from setting the time to going up the elevator just gave me flashbacks of bookings. In addition, the guy wanted to have sex right away, I was conmpletely turned off because although he was attractive he was older and well-off. I just felt used if I woulda had sex with him. So as we got intimate I had to pull back and leave because it just didnt feel right.

I've dated older men before and they always seem super nice at 1st but in the end they turn out to be about sex, which is ok if Im drunk but this was not. Does anyone else feel this way when on a date? I like to date men who have their lives together, but this just didnt seem right. Anyone agree?

I think you are not making enough of a separation between work and private life, so it all blends into one. You need to draw a thick line between the two and set out rules for each side and stick to them.

Absolutely. I don't do dinner dates as an escort, so that bit's not too bad when I'm in the 'real' world. But sometimes I have to remember not to go into 'Sasha' mode when getting down and dirty with someone who isn't paying! It helps that I wear different scents for my working life and 'real' life, and I never use my whore-esque lingerie or clothes when I'm not Sasha, which comes in handy to stop the line between my two roles from blurring. But it needs to be done mentally first. Good luck!

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I also always meet in public.

yea I think thats the issue right there, I met him at his house. Had it been at a pub or something I wouldnt of felt that way I think. Also like I said he was older than I expected I dont think he gave me a proper age, even when I asked. Had it been someone closer to mine I wouldnt of felt that way.

And Sash I never thought of that idea of wearing different colognes for work, Im going to try doing that to see if it makes a difference...

Does he know your an escort?  Do you normally meet for first dates in flats? 

No he doesnt, although I had a feeling he does. At this point I think the whole city knows about what I do  Truthfully, sometimes I do meet people at their homes other times I dont. Its just lately its been a hassle to get these guys around here to meet at a public place, which is also why I havent been on the dating website all month, I just havent been interested in doing that because I know it mostly leads to the bed and Im just not interested in that.

I really feel you need to think more about your safety and not got meet guys in private places for the first time. God Joey, what if it's a trap by a gang of gay bashers. You gotta look after yourself!

That noise you can all hear is me banging my head off a wall!!

I think you're more likely to catch an STD than to get beat up by gay bashers.

http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=754.0

And your point is?  . Behaving irresponsibly was responsible for this episode and it could have been much worse. I wouldn't be taking chances.

Quote from: amy on 25 January 2009, 01:20:19 am

And your point is?  . Behaving irresponsibly was responsible for this episode

My point exactly! notice how I didnt get 'beat up' 

You didn't expect that anything bad would happen to you, but it did.

What makes you think it won't again, particularly if you continue to take what most of us would consider unacceptable risks?