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kizzie

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Whose responsibility?
« on: 06 May 2011, 04:04:00 pm »
I've seen a guy a grand total of 3 times and he's a real joy!  Great looking, polite, respectful and to be honest, there is a huge amount of sexual chemistry between us!  Don't panic, not about to fall for another client (this is based on sex and lust. lol), but we had a chat today and it's clear that we are both playing with fire a little (there is a lot of flirting in emails between bookings, the sex is f***ing awesome (sorry) and it got a little 'too' hot today.  We had a chat and I said he would be wise to book someone else if there is any blurring of lines etc.  I'm not sure what he's going to do (I don't think he is!) but I do think it's possibly a little too hot to handle.  I'm probably being way to paranoid because of my split with a client who I ended up in a relationship with (NOT GOING THERE AGAIN - EVER) but if this guy does book me again - should I accept the booking? He's married etc. Whose responsibility to decide?
ta \kizz  :-\

Ellie_e

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Re: Whose responsibility?
« Reply #1 on: 06 May 2011, 06:03:09 pm »
I think it's your responsibility to look after you, and his to look after him.

If you are sure you can handle it and not get attached to the guy, keep seeing him and enjoy one of the perks of the job.

However, probably best not to interact outside of appointments with flirty emails etc.  Keep it business-like, rather than having it feel like a naughty affair.

ElleCouture

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Re: Whose responsibility?
« Reply #2 on: 06 May 2011, 06:33:07 pm »
I agree with Evie, keep flirty emails to a minimum if you're worried about blurring lines. I have a similar client and while he'll send me some flirty emails and text messages in between appointments there is no expectation for me to respond; sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. He makes me smile at the time, but I normally then just get on with whatever it is that I am doing. For me this job is all about compartmentalising - I have my real life head and my escort head. If you are struggling to compartmentalise with this guy and it is a genuine concern for you I would say stop seeing him, if however, you are able to shut him away and just enjoy your time with him on appointments then keep seeing him. It's really whether you feel the lines are being blurred for you rather than worry about if the lines are being blurred for him. Hope that makes sense!

kizzie

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Re: Whose responsibility?
« Reply #3 on: 06 May 2011, 08:17:29 pm »
it makes perfect sense, put like that, tghank -you.  i'm absolutely being affected by the guy i split with.  I'm a big girl and he's a big boy - and you are quite right, we should look out for ourselves.
The flirty emails were making it feel 'affair' like. yep, see it now.  thanks girls xx

Sweetshop_Girl

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Re: Whose responsibility?
« Reply #4 on: 06 May 2011, 08:35:56 pm »
I think you already know, only you would end up being hurt

So hard at times to stick to the rules

1, No emotional involvement, don't mean you can't like them or enjoy being with them

I had one 3 weeks ago, he was soooo blinking  hot, 3 hours of joy then he wanted to stay the night  but run out of money, as temped as I was and hard as it was , I called a cab and sent him home, he called me the next day saying what a great time he had and would like to take me out sometime

He left me a great write up on AW but not called since, I guess he has moved on to the next one, I was right to send him home

You just can not trust a punter to care for you outside  the rules of escorting
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