Hey ladies,

I did a search for some info on this but nothing came up... if you have a thread that would be helpful, please post the link.

I am just beginning escorting, I've only had two clients, today was my first day. I have a friend from work (stripping) who I talked to about escorting, she wasn't very supportive (she doesn't think it's a good idea for me to be an escort, she's not judgmental she's just worried) but she said she would be my safe-call for today since I didn't have anyone else. The first appointment was fine but I texted her the wrong time for the second one and I couldn't hear my phone going off when she was calling because it was stuffed in my jeans/bag, and I was busy servicing my client... by the time I realized it was ringing she had been calling me for 45 minutes and was very upset and scared and thought that something bad had happened to me.

I feel like after this I can't really ask her to be my safe-call again and it wasn't really fair to ask her in the first place, it's not her responsibility to look out for my safety, she has a life and I can't be asking her to worry about me everyday which I know she was. I felt terrible for getting her so upset so I really don't want to ask her again. She told me she was happy to keep doing it because she would rather I have someone, but I just don't feel like it's fair to her.

Things have been slow at work lately and I've been making just enough to pay the bills, I don't have anything saved up-- that's partly why I'm beginning to escort, as stripping just isn't worth it during the week days.  I would love to hire some kind of security or a driver or something like that and hopefully that's something I can do after a month of making consistent money, and the new club I'm dancing at seems like it's going to be better as well, but right now I can't afford something like that.

What would you ladies recommend as far as being able to protect myself? I have my pepper spray, I screen the fuck out of all my clients, and I know I can tell the client I'm making a safe-call and hopefully that would put him off from doing anything funky, but it would still make me feel better for someone to know where I am, so I'm not totally fucked if something does go wrong. I just moved to the UK I don't really know anybody else to ask.

Yes, I definitely learned my lesson as far as double-checking the text I sent to the person who is my safe-call... when she finally got me on the phone she was almost in tears as she was so worried and didn't know what to do, obviously she didn't want to call the police but she said if I hadn't called her back within 5 minutes she would as she didn't know what else to do.

I would be happy be someone's safe-call in exchange for them being mine, so thanks for the advice! I will definitely post something in the buddy up section.

I didn't know that pepper spray was illegal in the UK (it's not in the USA) so thanks for that as well. What would you recommend if I am at a clients flat as far as what to ask my safe-call to do if I don't respond?