Author Topic: should i do it? (Read 1560 times)

lunaxx · « **on:** 03 August 2011, 10:43:06 pm »

Hey! I'm 14, and yeah I know it's kind of weird to be thinking about at my delicate age
but I'm thinking about being an escort when I get older, I mean, it pays a lot fast and I plan to travel
when I get about mid twenties around the world. so do people think it's a good idea for me
to start escorting when I grow up?

xx

Anika Mae · « **Reply #1 on:** 03 August 2011, 11:18:51 pm »

It's not all that weird to be thinking about it now, some people do when they're young, but deciding to be a prostitute isn't like deciding to be a vet or a builder. You don't plan your life around it or pick your GCSEs to lead into it. We'd never tell anyone that we think they should be a prostitute, it's a decision that you make yourself, but in your case it doesn't even make sense at this stage for you to be thinking about whether it will be right for you when you're old enough.

If you only want to do it to make money for things you actually want, well that might work, but it's a minority of people who are able to have sex for money and stay happy in themselves. Even if you have the idea now that you'll be ok with that, you're going to change a lot in the next few years *and* the reality of sex work isn't something you can fully get your head around before you try it, even if you have a good imagination. Assume that prostitution won't be a good idea for you and think of other ways that you can make and save the money you need to follow your dreams.

xw5 · « **Reply #2 on:** 04 August 2011, 12:44:05 am »

While you can enjoy the fantasy, what Anika Mae says is right. This is a decision for the adult you and four-plus years is a long time away.

Fantasies about many jobs can be rather selective. People who want to be doctors can think more about the saving people's lives part than the feelings after killing someone because of what they did or did not do. Or about the money (a GP gets more than the vast majority of escorts) rather than the reasons so many drop out on the way to becoming a doctor. Throw sex into the mix and it is not surprising that fantasies of escorting can be wildly inaccurate. They're not helped by some appallingly inaccurate portrayals in the media.

So you can use the intervening years to look at the reality. A look here will show that while the pay per hour can be wonderful, there can be months without many such hours, for example.

Another truth is that few people last a long time - most careers in sex work are measured in weeks, not years - so you need to have a good alternative even if you do decide to try it. That will be a lot easier with qualifications.

EmilyJones · « **Reply #3 on:** 04 August 2011, 08:38:31 am »

Indeed. I spend a good deal of my earnings now on education/qualifications because I managed to muddle through a good bit of my life having no real plan or idea of what I wanted to do. And there's nothing wrong with that, of course, I hear it's very normal! But if I could go back and tell my 14-year-old self one thing, it would be: "Muddle and ponder, yes, but while you're doing that, you might as well learn some really useful stuff that will allow you to almost always find decent employment."

Anyway, as you can imagine, this is a site for sex workers to discuss their work and so is not suitable for minors. If you have further questions about sex work, or even just sex and relationships in general, check out a site like Scarleteen - even I learned something new on there today!

Anika Mae · « **Reply #4 on:** 04 August 2011, 10:28:34 am »

Quote from: EmilyJones on 04 August 2011, 08:38:31 am

Anyway, as you can imagine, this is a site for sex workers to discuss their work and so is not suitable for minors.

Technically yes, but teenagers aren't known for staying away from things because they're too young. Reading things that are aimed at sex workers rather than the general public will give a much better idea of what it's really like than just taking what you're given by the media, and someone who's spent years dipping into this sort of knowledge will be better prepared than most people going into sex work, if that happens in the end.

EmilyJones · « **Reply #5 on:** 04 August 2011, 11:25:05 am »

Quote from: Anika Mae on 04 August 2011, 10:28:34 am

Technically yes, but teenagers aren't known for staying away from things because they're too young. Reading things that are aimed at sex workers rather than the genuine public will give a much better idea of what it's really like than just taking what you're given by the media, and someone who's spent years dipping into this sort of knowledge will be better prepared than most people going into sex work, if that happens in the end.

Sure - reading is fine! I'm under no illusion that SAAFE has/will never be(en) read by absolutely anyone and everyone, and in fact I think it's really important that the information here be freely available to anyone because it is much more helpful that way. I don't think there's such a thing as learning "too much", whether you're fourteen or four hundred years old, and I don't think that knowing about something leads to doing it - if it did, I'd be doing all sorts of dreadful things right now.

I just meant that discussing entry into sex work with a teenager is really not something that's appropriate or necessary, which I think is why the thread is locked? All the information is still on this forum (and the main site) for any curious person to read, though, and I whole-heartedly hope that much reading and learning occurs!

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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