I want to date or at least find a play partner. I do have emotional needs and I also happen to be kinky. I want to meet people outside of work for obvious reasons and build some kind of connection, please understand this isn't always sexual. I'm just a bit concerned about the ethics.
I used to be more involved in the kink world and surprise surprise, there are judgemental people in every nook and cranny of society.
Is the best thing to do work work work, pretend I don't have needs and burry myself in more work to climb out of the financial rat race?
If I worked at a Shoe shop, god forbid I buy a shoe from a competing shoe shop? No thayd be rediculous right??

Can I meet a partner in the vanilla civilian world? Is it enough to say I'm non monogamous and leave it at that?
Would appreciate advice from people who have lived experience.
Am I weak for getting lonely at times or wanting to connect with others? Having sexual desires?

Thank you for the reply, just going through a tough time, I know everyone is unique. Don't want to complete destroy my perspective on the opposite gender and also want to be with someone who I can be a fool with rather than stepping into 'SW counsellor mode'

Am I weak for getting lonely at times or wanting to connect with others? Having sexual desires?

You're not "weak", you're healthy and normal :-) have you tried opening a profile on fetlife and looking for play partners or kink communities? They're swingers, poly amorous and everyhting under the rainbow so not much judging going on...

Yeah I don't know. I think my plan is to be honest and upfront, but then of course you take that risk of a total stranger not only rejecting you but now having the information 

I have yet to meet one guy who can cope with the job bar a drug dealer who I didn't want to date anyway as he was on the run and extremely uncouth lol.  Nobody else was remotely interested.  Just as well as I don't want the bother of a bloke I really don't.

It’s something you can never take back. I’ve known of a girl dating a drug dealer and even he couldnt accept it  a man that happily sells  drugs to weak addicts that could kill them saw themself as not as bad as an escorts people seek out not an illegal (in this country) service. He never was faiththful to her as he believed her work meant she wasn’t. And he couldn’t make the differentiation.
Have heard stories of ex’s using it against their partners also when they’ve broken up. Just best not to however much you think sharing it would ease the burden.

I usually say I do web cam work and see how they react to that