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MissElvira

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When a regular short changes you.
« on: 03 July 2020, 07:10:35 pm »
I have a regular that books 3 to 4 hours once a month and I agreed to see him when I started back and was happy to do an hour free as he is a good regular. But also hard work and likes to go at it most of the time so I'm often left drained but happy to get the cash. Now we did 4 hours and 1 hour free, But when I checked the envelope after he left he only paid me for 3 hours. I was not happy but not said anything. He is very needy with texting a few times a week leading up to booking. I could tell him I'm not happy he only paid for 3 hours but see no point. Part of me just wants to drop him. I'm actually fed up with long bookings, Find the guys are more needy and often regulars over stay because they must think it's a right.  I seem to get these guys so what am I doing wrong lol ?

I think I'll just stick to the hour bookings and kick them out and move on, Last year I felt drained with the longer bookings.

Does anybody else find this to be true with regulars and longer bookings. Is it better to stick to 90 min max bookings? I certainly don't want to be at it for hours with a client. I love sex with someone I want it with and I have a high sex drive but 2 hours of it is boring tbh.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #1 on: 04 July 2020, 12:07:41 am »
I’d see him again but short change him by 2 hours. For him taking the piss by short changing you so you can get what you’re owed and then get rid of him. He’ll soon learn.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #2 on: 04 July 2020, 03:45:27 am »
First, I always check the cash in front of the client as they hand it over, always.

Second, I don't see new clients for more than 2h, and if I don't click with someone I find the last 30 minutes reeeeaally drags. If I like someone I'd do up to 3h, but more than that (bar an overnight with some me time) I'd get twitchy. But it depends a lot on what you actually do and how well you get on just as people.

I'd be pissed off with too much texting, as well. I think it's important to set boundaries.
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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #3 on: 04 July 2020, 07:18:34 am »
I never agree to a booking longer than two hours.

Some clients I can easily cope with for the two hours but I have to say quite a few I can't.

Got two at the moment nice and keen though with repeat two hours just a shame no venue over the summer!

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #4 on: 04 July 2020, 12:42:53 pm »
If he is a regular, and values you, he will understand when you mention to him - tbf, I think there has been some miscommunication if it wasnt specified that he would get an extra hour ON TOP of the 4 hour fee. He has assumed a discount on the 4 hour booking. It can happen if things aren't clearly detailed.

HOWEVER, since he mentioned absolutely nothing at the time when he realised he had been there for 5 hours, and only paid for 3, then he's a cunt.

Here's what I would do - highlight the discrepancy when he contacts you for another booking and tell him you want the extra hour payment from before. If he pays, then keep seeing him but set the boundaries in terms of constant comms and other things that have managed to become flexible to him. Or, see him that last time to get your extra hour payment then don't see him again. Just say you are limiting all bookings to 1 or 2 hours.

If he doesnt want to pay for the extra, then cut your losses and leave it at that.

Either way is a win win in my opinion.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #5 on: 04 July 2020, 12:48:57 pm »
I am fine with bookings of all lengths, I like the mix of different lengths.

However if someone had paid me less than expected I would raise it, also if he's draining I would broach this with him - make it joking or constructive depending on how you like to be. Same with the contact between bookings, leading up to bookings. Something like 'I can't sustain this, really enjoy our bookings but this is too much'. Other ideas are to tell him you need to stick to the booked, paid time.

MissElvira

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #6 on: 04 July 2020, 01:10:52 pm »
Thanks for advice. I've seen him for over 6 months so i didn't check cash because he knows my price, I think he knew exactly what the terms are for our booking but took the pee. I like him as a client but not that much. I'll mention it because if I don't get it off my chest it will bug me. Doubt I'll see him again, Live and learn and actually I'm only going to do max 2 hours.

I think when guys become regulars they expect perks and to get free time or that we don't rush them out. I'd prefer to have 3 x 1 hour bookings and not all the extra effort to pamper to a regular. This lockdown breaks made me see how I need to change things. I don't want clients who want to take up extra time so they can feel special or value for money.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #7 on: 04 July 2020, 08:18:45 pm »
I always check the money every single time. I don't trust any of them.

If you don't like longer bookings then don't offer them. You should do what you want, it's your own business.

I'd definitely get it off my chest and be telling him you will not see him again because he short changed you. I'm annoyed for you. I don't know who these men think they are!?

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #8 on: 04 July 2020, 08:47:57 pm »
I would be tempted to let him book again without saying anything, and if he pays for two hours, get up and put your clothes on after one hour! Then when he protests just smile sweetly and explain that he has had all the time he's paid for, he can pay extra if he wishes to extend...

This may not be the wisest idea in practice though. Maybe asking for trouble.
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

MissElvira

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #9 on: 05 July 2020, 03:28:06 pm »
These guys wouldn't expect anything free or on the house in any other paying situation in life except maybe at a car boot sale. I've had to get rid of so many guys that start to actually think I'm a mate that will meet them for drinks after work or go for a coffee. I don't mind giving advice or or listen to the problems they have during paid time but my time outside of work is for me, My family and friends. Have a regular now trying to get me to meet him because he wants advice on his relationship. Don't think they realise we have our own lives and problems.  Had a new punter recently said he wished he met me on online dating lol Which means he wish he could of met me and got free sex. Then the guys that begrudge paying for sex or try and get an extra 30 minutes, Had a AW booking do this to me.

Will now make sure I count money before hand and if I see that guy again who short changed me I want money upfront and confirm price.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #10 on: 05 July 2020, 08:43:52 pm »
My opinion is that veggie gal gave the best advice.
Passive aggressive game playing is silly and rarely works well. Being polite and professional and stating your case is the best way.

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Re: When a regular short changes you.
« Reply #11 on: 08 July 2020, 11:42:52 pm »
My opinion is that veggie gal gave the best advice.
Passive aggressive game playing is silly and rarely works well. Being polite and professional and stating your case is the best way.

This very good advice