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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: ParisB on 03 March 2017, 08:56:08 am
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Ok im on tour and my friend is with me ( by accident didn't plan to be in the same place ) were in different hotels though but only 5 mins away from each other
So what would you do in this situation ( at the beginning we didn't know that the client had contacted both of us only later when chatting about the day )
client calls my friend and books her at 7pm
7:10 Client then calls me literally straight after calling my friend & I give him details as he wasn't sure of what time i said to call back when 30 mins away when he had a more definite time & if I was free I would be happy to see him
Client 1 then cancels my friend
Client then calls me an hour later to see if I am still free (at this point I didn't know that he had booked & then cancelled my friend )'
Friend & I are chatting & she mentions that Bill her 9pm Has cancelled
Bill was the name he gave me so I checked with her and its the same guy
Would you ladies see Bill as he has messed about my friend so possibly a TW / no show
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I find that some former punters do this. I have seen an old thread somewhere.
They ask "I'm free between so and so today and are you free?" "I'd like to see you next Weds, can you see me?" Even though I reply, "yes, I will be free etc etc.." and they essentially disappear (likely they have flaked off or didn't REALLY want to meet up or there was someone else/other ladies whom they ALSO asked to see etc).
I sometimes think it's a lack of respect, just playing mind games (?) or just wanking whilst messaging. if it's one off, I'd think, "well, his job got busy" and it sounds plausible. But a lot of TWs do use this tactic also, to get another booking, only to cancel at the last minute as "he got busy".
I hadn't blocked them if I met these men before, but now I'm considering to block them after the repeated times (2-3 times) of asking for a booking and flaking off as it gets annoying. It does say something. It's not the positive vibes they are sending, that's for sure.
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Hrm. I think if I didn't have any other bookings for that time, I'd probably have gone ahead. But if someone else wanted 9pm, I'd have binned Bill off.
I'll be interested to find out which way you played it, and if Bill turned up/no showed/cancelled.
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If i had another booking I could take then I would as I have had this happen to me.
He booked my friend then cancelled around the time he phoned me and booked me only to cancel his booking with me a hour before he was due and i had turned down others wanting to book so if you go ahead it could cost you money. We only realised this man had done this when we met for coffee and wee moaning about him then realised the name was the same and we compared phone numbers.
Your man might be different though
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This happened to me last year in norwich, was touring with a friend and she came to my room and said she had been no showed and to avoid a number, on checking my phone it was the bloke who was on his way to me, he did arrive although I didnt expect him to
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I think this is a very common practise with guys. Many don't realise we talk to one another or indeed know one another. I think they like to have back up in case one girl lets them down so that they don't go without.
At least if they cancel you are being informed. Those that don't cancel are the ones to be marked in your phone IMO.
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I've been in this situation before both the cancelled party and the one they have then booked.Personally I've binned them if I am aware of them messing around like this and so have my friends.We have been sat in the same room being 'played' by dickheads like this and you just look at each other and think 'wtf?'.
The worst was when a regular booked my mate for 2 hours but at the same time had been arranging a 2 hour with me for the same time.Me and this lady had seen him for a duo before so he must have been aware that we know each other and may even mention to each other that we had a 2 hour the next day at the same time...anyway we shocked him as we both said 'Well that's funny I thought you had put a booking request for soandso?'
He did actually apologise for double booking there was no excuse as he knew we were both reliable so god knows why he did it!
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send bill on his merry way, if we all stick together, this kind of behaviour will stop, at the end of the day we work to make money, not to be someones plan B
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I'd be very hesitant to see him, I'm not interested in folk who let people down or faff around. I prefer to see those who know they want to see me, end of story.
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I'd be very hesitant to see him, I'm not interested in folk who let people down or faff around. I prefer to see those who know they want to see me, end of story.
Same, I have even had men who have told me they are booked with someone else but found my profile and would come and see me instead, absolutely no chance, its just not acceptable
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I think it just flags up that they are at some point going to mess you around if they do it to other people.
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I would take the booking. Guys change their minds, that's ok. Only way I would decline would be had he booked both for the same time, then shows clear sign of a tw.
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I'd bin him off personally, it would make me too uncomfortable and I'd spend the time leading up to the appointment too anxious. Plus I agree with the other comments about solidarity, especially if it's a friend.
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I would keep him in my diary but if you get anything else, I would book over him.
If he does show up, you can then explain the situation (perhaps have a saved text ready to send).
Unfortunately, I think this happens quite a lot, we just don't get to find out about it unless it's our friend who's involved. I would still see him if you get nothing else and he turns up; why should you both lose out?
Obviously, your friend is never going to accept a booking from Bill again (I know I wouldnt) plus you both know that he is a double booker who is unreliable.
You can always meet up for dinner afterwards and use Bill's money. That's what my friend and I would do ;D
OR.
And this would be fun. Get your friend to come over and both be there when he turns up for an impromtu duo. I'd love to see the look on his face. That's the kind of thing my friend and I do. 8)
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Personally I would be cancelling the booking and letting him know that it's my friend he cancelled on and that I don't agree with "double booking", so he can look elsewhere! X
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Unfortunately, I think this happens quite a lot, we just don't get to find out about it unless it's our friend who's involved.
Agree totally with this. For every NS we get we could be the one they don't cancel on.
At least in this case the guy did cancel allowing the other girl to take another booking, they don't all do that.
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Like VC, I'd take his booking unless I felt I had a more definite one to replace him. Some SPs do mess punters about, so while it's not great he doesn't sound a complete nightmare, and at least didn't blow your friend out with no warning.
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The chances for him to cancel on me would be too high for my taste.
Plus him cancelling on my friend doesn`t make me fell in the mood seeing such a guy.
I wouldn`t see him and I would block him from future bookings and also tell him why.
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You were a higher priority on his 'to see list', and probably saw you were in the area after he's booked with your friend. I would see him if he turns up. At least he had the courtesy to cancel your friend instead of being a no show.
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So, did he turn up, Paris? Or is the appointment tonight?
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Lol. 😃 sorry for not replying earlier
Yes he did turn up & was a perfectly nice guy
I didn't lose any other bookings seeing him
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I would have seen him. Some of you ladies say he is messing about but I disagree he cancelled her friend. I suspect he has booked Paris' friend then more than likely seen Paris' profile and wanted to see her instead.
I'm glad he turned up Paris 😀😀
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I don't mind guys who cancel as long (as they don't do so repeatedly. I have a guy in one tour location who has booked and cancelled twice. So he was already on my shit list. He texted for a third booking and I replied "Sure. What time would you like to come, and when will you be cancelling?")
No shows are another matter and make me want to bang them on the head with a frying pan.
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"Sure. What time would you like to come, and when will you be cancelling?"
Ya ha ha!
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Had this happen to me too. Find it totally disrespectful. A bit like thanks but had a better offer. It's a bin from me.
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Good that he showed up. I would have taken the booking but if another more solid offer came about would have reconsidered, knowing he cancelled on my friend.
I think it's a little unwise to be rah rah about the sisterhood and reject him on the basis that he cancelled on a friend. Me, I'm running a business and he's a paying punter. People change their mind and he did give notice to said friend. I think if I booked at Restaurant A and then saw a more appealing option at Restaurant B and cancelled my reservation at A, I would be perplexed if restaurant B said that they wouldn't take my booking as I had cancelled at A owned by their friend.
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Good that he showed up. I would have taken the booking but if another more solid offer came about would have reconsidered, knowing he cancelled on my friend.
I think it's a little unwise to be rah rah about the sisterhood and reject him on the basis that he cancelled on a friend. Me, I'm running a business and he's a paying punter. People change their mind and he did give notice to said friend. I think if I booked at Restaurant A and then saw a more appealing option at Restaurant B and cancelled my reservation at A, I would be perplexed if restaurant B said that they wouldn't take my booking as I had cancelled at A owned by their friend.
I second this a million times! We are totally unaware of the amount of times we have been cancelled because the client took a bit more of a fancy to some one else or the times when they cancelled some one else to see us. If i was the friend who got cancelled on i would be slightly annoyed but not to the point where i think you should turn him down. So long as they cancel within a decent amount of time.
Being plan B doesnt bother me at all lol i had a guy book last minute the other day and when he turned up he admitted the lady he originally booked with let him down was win win for both of us i filled a half hour slot that was empty and he still managed to get his end away lol
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Did he tell your friend that he got called into work? :D
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Guys are inclined to change their minds just like we are but essentially he booked 2 escorts at the same time
Maybe Im a bit old school but thats just bad manners in my eyes. Im fully aware that guys have prolly contacted several escorts before contacting but if hes made a plan with one, he should of cancelled before making plans with another.
Im glad it worked out for you in the end though Paris
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This has happened to me a few times both ways (to me and a friend) Each time we have discussed it and if either of us minded we wouldn't accept his booking, if either of us didn't mind then we would/did. After all someone has to take his money, better a friend than someone else :)
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Take him but cancel if you get a better offer.
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I would have taken the booking and 'pencilled him in' but not expected him to turn up. So glad he did for you Paris. No point feeling guilt because we never know how often we are plan B or F for that matter. I'm just thankful when they do book I couldn't care less when they don't.