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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Ladyaraminta on 26 August 2014, 09:26:53 am
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I have just started working as an escort and love it. Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.
Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.
I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.
Any explanations ?
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you don't need friends, you need money only
don't talk to them they r wasting your time
anyways why you need to use so much ?
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What's in it for them? Somebody paying attention to them, free entertainment, boundary pushing with a newbie (always fun), and a free ego boost.
But, what about you? Why do you want to be "friends" with them? Once you learn to set firm professional boundaries, this job will feel much less confusing. Spending time and effort on guys who are not paying you for your time is going to exhaust and frustrate you very quickly. Once you stop chatting/sexting and whatnot, they're either going to leave you alone to get on with your job, or they book and pay. Unless they're very good regulars, your interaction with them ought to stop once they walk out of your door, or it'll drive you bonkers.
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I have just started working as an escort and love it. Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.
Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.
I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.
Any explanations ?
Them: "hey, how are you today?"
You: "I'm great, but busy. Do get in touch if you'd like to book again"
Simple. Reply once, keep it short, ignore further texts. My regular of about 6 years pays me over 26k a year and I speak to him once a week on the phone to confirm. It doesn't matter who they are...no pay, no play!
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I have just started working as an escort and love it. Although I do get very nervous before I actually meet them.
Some of my clients msg me all the time but don't want to book me again.
I don't mind being friends with them but would like to know the mentality of this.
Any explanations ?
They don't want to be friends, they want FREE sex, FREE sexy chat, FREE contact. You're not in this biz to make friends, you're in it to pay your bills, friendship doesn't pay the rent and constant messages are just taking up the time you should be working and earning.
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Absolutely!
I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.
There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.
Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol????!!! I am obviously not doing things right! ;D
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Absolutely!
I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.
There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.
Totally agree with what you have said .....
Anyone who texts me, if I have time, I text back 'phone please, no texts' .... 90% never do !
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Thank you all for your sensible and helpful remarks. I shall abide by them xxx
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I agree whit all the above.
I think they just get a kick out of it... Don't entertain them or you'll never get rid of em!
They'll actually start to think you're their 'friend', or they're someone special to them, tell them your busy and if they want to
book tell them to phone.
After all, we don't provide a free text service to bored guys looking for attention, we get paid for providing a service!
Good luck! :)
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I have this happen all the time... :FF
I don't mind exchanging a text with a good regular once in a while but some really do think you're going to constantly text and entertain them?! Do they really think they are the only ones trying?
I had a guy I have seen just once text me today that he was thinking of me naked and so on, obviously not wanting to book again since we live in different cities anyway. I sort of told him off. I am not his personal text mistress.
For me it gets mentally draining to have to deal with that. The expectation that I'm constantly and 24/7 sexed up and up for naughty chats and also for free is simply exhausting.
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If they want to text tell them to use the text service on AW where u get laid something like ?1 for every text you reply to. At least that way you are getting paid.
I think everyone would like a client like The Chemists who spends 500 GBP a week on them. I've never known anyone in RL like that though. :(
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Absolutely!
I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.
There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.
Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol????!!! I am obviously not doing things right! ;D
I dont agree, almost half of my bookings are made by text, and they show.
They are either shy or nervous or they find it easier to text when they are at work or in public and I dont mind.
Of course, I get a lot of texts from time wasters, but even if they say they want to book for xx hour, I ask them to confirm one hour before. No confirmation, no booking.
But I learned to sense a time waster even through texts.
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If I get a polite not too short or too long text I will answer it and then ask them to phone me to confirm. Only a few of these texters have been genuine. I feel it's time consuming answering texts back and forth all day and for short notice bookings but I don't enjoy texting much in general anyway so maybe that's part of it. I prefer quick calls and to hear their tone of voice.
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I much prefer texting, especially because a lot of the time the calls begin to lean towards sex chat, or are just too long! If it's before booking I entertain a number of texts, but if they start to get too "sexty" I ignore them, or just ask them to get in touch when they're close and I'm looking forward to it.
Between bookings, the texts used to be such a huge nightmare and I felt I could lose potential bookings if I didn't reply, but I got the advise from here to simply reply exactly like The Chemist says, and it works every time! Genuine ones apologise and then only contact to make a booking, and time wasters either try again at which point I ignore them, or stop texting! Definitely great way to deal with all the texting!
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Absolutely!
I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.
There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.
Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol????!!! I am obviously not doing things right! ;D
I dont agree, almost half of my bookings are made by text, and they show.
They are either shy or nervous or they find it easier to text when they are at work or in public and I dont mind.
Of course, I get a lot of texts from time wasters, but even if they say they want to book for xx hour, I ask them to confirm one hour before. No confirmation, no booking.
But I learned to sense a time waster even through texts.
I agree with this, I've had more of a problem with guys calling me and wanting me to talk dirty to them clearly with no intention to book. Most of my actual bookings come through text or email.
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Yeah, I get a lot of bookings via text, too.
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Had someone today who toldme he wad driving and therefore had to txt. Told him it was dangerous and illegal and to call when he had stopped driving.
He hasn't called although he continued texting for a while. Clearly not that interested in booking.
Told me it was his bday, I was so tempted to tell him that if he kept texting and driving it could be his last bday. But that would break my rule of telling them to call and then ignoring their txts.
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I think it's fair to say we all have different experiences with clients' booking habits. What works for one will not work for another.
I think it all boils down to what works for us as individuals and how much time we have available to speak to/text clients. As I have a full time day job and only do this part time, I don't always have a lot of time for texting. I don't mind as an initial enquiry, of course! But I always take bookings only when I have spoken to potential clients first.
Weeding out time wasters is something I am getting better at!
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I think it's fair to say we all have different experiences with clients' booking habits. What works for one will not work for another.
I always take bookings only when I have spoken to potential clients first.
Yes indeed I have heard all the reasons why a guy cannot phone ....
Errrrm:
I am in a meeting
My wife/gf is at home
My mother is at home
I have no credit
I have trouble with speaking English
I am shy
I am at the Drs/Dentists
I am driving
I am deaf
I am a mute
I am a deaf mute
Seriously it goes on and on, I need to hear the persons voice I am going to meet to see whether this person is a nice respectful man .... full stop .... no exceptions.
If he cannot phone me, he will not be meeting me.
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I think it's fair to say we all have different experiences with clients' booking habits. What works for one will not work for another.
I always take bookings only when I have spoken to potential clients first.
Yes indeed I have heard all the reasons why a guy cannot phone ....
Errrrm:
I am in a meeting
My wife/gf is at home
My mother is at home
I have no credit
I have trouble with speaking English
I am shy
I am at the Drs/Dentists
I am driving
I am deaf
I am a mute
I am a deaf mute
Seriously it goes on and on, I need to hear the persons voice I am going to meet to see whether this person is a nice respectful man .... full stop .... no exceptions.
If he cannot phone me, he will not be meeting me.
they don't text the dentist yet they require oral treatment from one !
They don't text the doctor when they need their genitals inspected
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From reading OP's post, seems to me she meant guys who are just interested in "chit chat" texting with no plan at all to book.
I'm not sure she was asking what method of communication was best, but how to deal with the idol type who just love to text for no apparent reason ( just my thought)
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Hilarious, Erotic Flower! LMAO.
Oh, look at me lapsing into 'text speak.' ;D
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If I have met before I don't mind a quick text now and then. However apart from two or three I am not friends with most of my clients so there is no need for them to text me out of the blue just for a chat and I will answer one or two and then ask them if they want a booking to call. After that I ignore any more texts they send although some will send the 'aww I thought we were special friends' text or the I am bored and fancy some sexy chat which gets them put on the pushing boundary list and I would be unlikely to see them again. I am sure they would not be happy if I started texting them late at night when they were in bed with the wife saying I wanted sexy chat so why would I be happy with it. I wouldn't and I am not.
I don't even text my friends much as I hate texts they are far to impersonal and not easily understood due to losing the tonal changes of the voice so misunderstandings can and often do happen
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Absolutely!
I learned the hard way. I don't do anything client related by text now. I have a couple of regulars who contact me to arrange a booking but that's it.
There are so many bloody timewasters out there. I have found that guys who text don't book, although it's different if you've met them already.
Chemist - does your bloke have a mate in Norfolk lol????!!! I am obviously not doing things right! ;D
I dont agree, almost half of my bookings are made by text, and they show.
They are either shy or nervous or they find it easier to text when they are at work or in public and I dont mind.
Of course, I get a lot of texts from time wasters, but even if they say they want to book for xx hour, I ask them to confirm one hour before. No confirmation, no booking.
But I learned to sense a time waster even through texts.
I think it is extremely risky taking bookings via text from someone you have never met, I heard through the grapevine that a wife of a client booked and confirmed a booking with an escort via text only and turned up on the doorstep kicking up a huge fuss.
Now I know I wouldn't want that drama at my door! Would you? I never ever would take bookings this way it's not difficult to ask a guy to ring at some point just to hear his voice x
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Also a text could be from a TW you've blocked using a different nmbr and I have a few I don't want to see again who still call me so it could be one of them trying to catch me out, one of the reasons I won't answer withhelds either.
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Also a text could be from a TW you've blocked using a different nmbr and I have a few I don't want to see again who still call me so it could be one of them trying to catch me out, one of the reasons I won't answer withhelds either.
Good point, I had a weird guy trying to book me ages ago that I was avoiding, he tried to book via different numbers and texts would have let him slip through the net x
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New client arranged a booking with a few days ago. Says he's never had "full sex" before, only blowjobs (he's 28!)
Keeps texting me nonstop. I think he's nervous/excited, but it's doing my head in.
*Calls me 3 times*
Me: Sorry, did you call me? (being all vague as I don't know his situation)
Him: Yes, it's me the person who talked to you via aw, I was just gonna ask if you do phone chat? As it will make me feel better when I meet you. "the person who talked to you via aw." Because there's only one of those. :FF
Him: one minute later So do you do phone chat ?x (Not mentioned anywhere in my list of services etc on AW, the only place I advertise)
Me: Sorry, what's your name and username? I don't do phone chat as in X rated, but I'm happy to have professional conversations to arrange bookings and always ask people to call on the day to confirm.
Him: Yeah my username is [username] and yes you told me to call you to confirm the booking on the day.
Me: Ah, [name]! Hi there :)
Him: Hey lol
Me: I just messaged you on AW :) (a message saying he doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want to do, we will take things at his own pace, but equally there is nothing to be afraid of)
Him: Yeah, I guess you right :)
Him: Its the feeling of me wanna try it really bad but at the same time it feels weird lol
Him: Is there a limit to how many times I can cum lol
Him: Sorry, tell me if you not ok with me talking to you at the moment (all these texts within a minute)
Me: (about 45mins later) No there isn't. Sorry, I was busy.
Him: Its alright no worries x
Him: So how many times can I cum !? (I just answered this in my last text?!?!)
Me: As many times as you like in the time you've booked?
I know it shouldn't be, and it is business related, but it's frustrating. The calling over and over again annoyed me - I could have been in a booking, or with civvie friends. The texts coming through one after another and then adding "let me know if you not ok with me talking to you at the moment" got to me. The asking about services I don't offer annoyed me. And why the fuck would someone say "the person who talked to you via aw"????? Does he not understand how this works???? :FF
Got another one this morning from someone else.
03:04am Him: hey jess it's [username], ;) how are ya hun x
08:40am Me: What's up? You're already confirmed for Monday?
I don't understand why someone would think it is okay to contact a service provider with a bland text at 3am that isn't even business related??? The mind boggles. ???
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I got 70% business from smsm as where work they have free sms and it's all sms country. I was suprised when I was aswering even texts like "can I met you now" and they actually showed up. Lots of them, almost none tw. I always stay clearly where I receive, they ask the price, what I do and when I can met. The sms is free, so when I have nothing to do I answer them. I also prefer sms as I state on my voicemail that if they can reach me then just sent me sms when they want to book and I sent them the address. I would go crazy if I had to call or let know anyone who was calling in the time I was buys, I would just miss some business.
Almost all men are asking the services, as I think they want hear if it's real (I do lots of things for good price), and where I am located.
If you answer texts then you have to be very professional and do not get into the conversetion. I already aswer the whole info, services plus prices and that I am free tonight, and tell them to let you know when they wanna met. If they have extra question, etc. then answer them in short and if it's too much then just leave it. I have a good samsung phone so if somebody smsed e once I can see it.
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Agree with everyone else about nipping texts in the bud unless they're directly related to a booking. I point out to punters that it costs me to send every text (I have a PAYG phone for work at the moment), and that I'm quite happy to answer any questions etc. via email. It's amazing how many say they're computer illiterate - how did you find me then?!
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