Quote from: Ana30 on 27 August 2015, 09:14:23 pm

Quote from: cheesypeas on 27 August 2015, 08:56:22 pm

Where exactly did I say that Ana? 

Here:

"...My thoughts.
It's just a nice job.
Clients aren't for relationships.
Relationships are for people who don't pay you for sex..."

Yeah. Notice the "you" in there. We're talking about people that pay *you* for sex, not people that pay for sex generally. That's the distinction. IMO it's a different dynamic that can't be reversed, but I wouldn't mind as much if I met someone outside of work that paid for sex.

thanks for the explanation victoryrose. Cheesypeas I understand that you wouldn't get involved with someone who would pay YOU, but you would be opened to a guy who payed someone else (?). Ok, fair enough :-). I'm opened to getting involved with someone who payed ME, but I need to like him a lot and he needs to be "available". I'm definately not going to get involved with a married man who shows no availability. In that case he is staying in the "client cathegory", end off. I have to confess that falling for a married-unavailable client messes my head a bit hence the reason I'm thinking in getting rid of him. I have trouble mixing business with personal. You're either a) a client or b) a lover/boyfriend/husband but both cathegories don't mix well.

Oh lord, I developed feelings for a client. Silly cow me.

 

but you would be opened to a guy who payed someone else (?). Ok, fair enough :-).

Where did I say that Anna?

(By the way I hope you sort out whatever it is that
you're engaged in and it works out how you want.)

I would rather have a relationship with some one met outside of escorting.  If it is in clients blood to cheat they are more likely to carry on even with escorts in their Jean.  Some are born cheaters especially who see escorts. But hey... They are paying me so cannot complain.

Civy men can cheat still but... It is a different dynamic.

That also depends on each individual, there is no way of knowing what goes on in client's lives or relationships.

You're either a) a client or b) a lover/boyfriend/husband but both cathegories don't mix well.

That is what we've been trying to say 

I don't think we will know unless blatantly booking escorts re our clients. But our radars are very good. But the chances are alot higher going with a civy who wouldn't have paid for sex. There might be some good ones who pay.

But by not looking for amongst clients who just want sex is saving yourself from misfortune. A high percentage of them are not my bf material any how why they book escorts. Providing a service is all what many need.

Men lie like lady lust says. In one ear out the other type thing. Then forgotton about when they leave keeping it simple. To many we escorts are just sex on legs. So why give clients recognition  like they are a saint so. That's why my mind is made up.

I don't think we will know unless blatantly booking escorts re our clients. But our radars are very good. But the chances are alot higher going with a civy who wouldn't have paid for sex. There might be some good ones who pay.

But by not looking for amongst clients who just want sex is saving yourself from misfortune. A high percentage of them are not my bf material any how why they book escorts. Providing a service is all what many need.

Men lie like lady lust says. In one ear out the other type thing. Then forgotton about when they leave keeping it simple. To many we escorts are just sex on legs. So why give clients recognition  like they are a saint so. That's why my mind is made up.

'sex on legs' is a nice way to describe what clients think of us...I would say 'blow up dolls' is more realistic, as someone else has said previously. It is very apt.

I might be a little weird, but the only relationships I've ever been in, were based on friendship, I fell for the personality first, and the looks second..
So I see clients exactly for what they are, clients, work..
The only "client" I ever nearly fell for was a guy who made a booking, then made up an excuse (that I actually fell for  ), that he's broke his leg and couldn't make it.
We ended up texting non-stop for a few weeks, sent eachother pics (he was hot lol), eventually met him, but we both decided that it
wasn't gonna happen and it kinda fizzled out..
I couldn't fall for someone based solely on their looks or on the sex, and I'm pretty happy about that lol, I think it could get pretty
complicated if you kept falling in love with clients 

My personal experience:

I used to work for high paid international agency. my first relationship was with a client who was 21 years older than me. our relationship last for 6 months. he cheated on me and treated me like garbage,it ended so bad
my second relationship has been with another client. he is a year younger than me and we are in relationship for near 5 years. we got married last year and now i'm pergnant!
I ended escorting 2 years ago