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mia 1000

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councillor for sex workers
« on: 23 October 2010, 10:34:26 am »
Hi ladies,

I have decided to quit the industry.

I feel I started this far too young and was very naive about the whole thing...the money was so good at the time and I didn't think of the bigger picture and how this line of work was affecting me.

I'm not condemning protitution at all, I actually admire the people on this board who have made good business from it -but it certainly wasn't right for me and I'm pretty traumatised by the whole thing :(

I really need to see a councillor as this is holding me back and plays on my mind everyday..

Can anyone advise me on a councillor for sex workers??

I feel a regular councillor will be too judgemental. Also I think I need ongoing treatment with someone who knows my story, so I thought Samaritans wasn't the best option.

Do you think I could see someone who specialises in 'abused women'? I know technically I wasn't abused, but that is truly how I feel.



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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #1 on: 23 October 2010, 10:55:53 am »
Is there a sex work project near you?
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #2 on: 23 October 2010, 11:33:55 am »
Hi Mia, what part of the country are you in?

I just wanted to send you some hugs. This business is not right for everyone and its good if you have recognised that its not for you and have made the decision to quit. I think many of us feel fine about the job but the pressures from wider society can make us feel like we should not feel fine about it and that turns into some of us not feeling fine. It can be a bit of a vicious circle and the sort of feminists who want to make us feel bad about our choice of career, are really no sort of feminists at all IMO. Sorry, gone off a bit there but I wish you well. xx

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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #3 on: 23 October 2010, 12:01:21 pm »
Is there a sex work project near you?

Also, is it worth making a regular GP appointment to ask about this? Or perhaps asking at your GUM clinic? I know a GP won't necessarily know but they may well at least have ideas, and my GUM clinic certainly do seem to know all about every available service in the vicinity to help anyone who's ever even thought about sex and/or sex work in any way. They are in Soho, though!

I want to send some hugs your way, too, mia - I hope you feel better soon. And I know this is a lot easier to say than to act upon, but really, people who work for the NHS are usually very far from judgemental. You should feel safe asking about specific services available; you needn't tell them any personal details if you don't wish to, and they shouldn't ask.

Perhaps even that NHS Direct phoneline could be of use? It's certainly anonymous and I assume they'd have information that they could pass on about different sorts of counselling services available in your area?

The main thing, I think, is to make someone aware of what you need, even your doctor if you would feel comfortable at least giving them an outline of your situation. Then they can start doing referrals for you and making sure you are seen by the right person. Remember, you're in no way obliged to take up any of their suggestions - it's not like they can have you locked up or stuck in intensive therapy or anything! :) You're the one who can choose whether or not to take any advice given, and you're completely entitled to ask about anything you need.

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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #4 on: 23 October 2010, 12:10:32 pm »
I think there is a lady in Ireland offers this -is it Keira McCormack?I think her name is. She is a TV/TS ex se-worker but she does offer counselling for straight ladies too.

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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #5 on: 24 October 2010, 06:20:00 pm »
I think i'll visit my GUM clinic as (like Emily said) they do seem to know quite a bit about this industry.

thanks for the advice and kind words girls :)

take care x

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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #6 on: 25 October 2010, 08:55:34 am »
I think i'll visit my GUM clinic as (like Emily said) they do seem to know quite a bit about this industry.

thanks for the advice and kind words girls :)

take care x

You take care, too, and I really hope all goes well. Do let us know if we can help with anything else.
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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #7 on: 20 January 2011, 06:03:37 pm »
This thread was brought to my attention, I am Keira who strawberry mentioned in a previous post although I no longer live in Ireland I am now back over in the North West.
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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #8 on: 31 January 2011, 11:21:09 pm »
Hi Mia 1000,
I hope you've managed to find some support.
If you're not familiar already, there are some sex work projects known as Safe Exit schemes. If you are in London area pm me and I will give you details. In other parts of the country, I'd expect that your local drug and alcohol service may be able to give you contact details - simply because they work with women's services.
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Re: councillor for sex workers
« Reply #9 on: 01 February 2011, 12:45:32 am »
Mia

Hope your'e ok. PM me and I can link you up wherever you are with some support x