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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: rosaley on 19 May 2014, 07:46:00 pm
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hi
i'm just wondering if anyone has had their neighbours notice the clients coming to the house. if they have did they say anything to you and if they did what did you say to them.
i have a young child who is in school when clients come but im probubally being silly but what do you say if people do notice
rose xxx
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Well I say hi and bye and make small talk with all my neighbours and as I respect them and I do what I like within reason.
With working in the same place as you bring up your child may cause neighbours to wonder more than they should. It shouldn't be an issue but where children are involved it can be and worst comes to worst, it will be. I would rather risk working from a hotel or in a room than get social services involved.
No offence to you or anyone else but I would not want social services to intrude in my life if I could avoid it.
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Well I say hi and bye and make small talk with all my neighbours and as I respect them and I do what I like within reason.
With working in the same place as you bring up your child may cause neighbours to wonder more than they should. It shouldn't be an issue but where children are involved it can be and worst comes to worst, it will be. I would rather risk working from a hotel or in a room than get social services involved.
No offence to you or anyone else but I would not want social services to intrude in my life if I could avoid it.
+1 , you probably know that you work safely, don't put your child at risk etc etc but people not in our line of work usually don't understand it at all, I know we aren't allowed to mention other forums and sorry if this is against the rules? I read on a well known women's forum about a suspected prostitute in a street, the lady that posted was in a panic that there was a child in the premises and she was worried that men that visit prostitutes were possibly all paedophiles!
That says a lot about how much civvies understand about us, unless you can work elsewhere just be discreet and polite is my advice x
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No the men certainly are not. They may not even know the child is there and also many have families of their own and they understand that just because you have a child in no way means that you have should have no sex life or you that you cannot work.
But society still is not as accepting of us SW and in life some circumstances, particularly any involving children are not worth giving anybody cause for concern when there are other options IMO
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There was another thread here a while back regarding working from home where children are, I know it's cheaper and more convenient but not worth the risk, my girl is 17 so nearly an adult but I still wouldn't work from anywhere she lived x
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Sorry but I deviated from the op! Fact is wherever we work from unless it's very remote we will get paranoid that neighbours know, I know I do, just be sensible, alternate your working days, don't set a pattern x
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my child is never here when i see clients. and i wont do anything in school holidays i only do work from 10 until 2, and only 2 clients a week,there no way i want ss invovled as then my family will know. look like i will have to think about out calls sometimes
thanks rose
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If neighbours do notice they won't notice that it's time child isn't there. Like said above they are all closed minded and don't have a scooby about the industry.
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Many parents are indiscreet regards what they talk about in front of children, even about themselves or own family. The last thing you would want is the neighbours children telling all at school that your child's mother is a prostitute.
Sarah x x x
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hi
thanks for your replies ive made up my mind im doing out calls. means ive lost the two clients i had this week but im not risking it .
there no way in getting anyone at my door checking if im a good parent or not so my family will know what i do my parent and my hubby family would not understand no way
thanks again ladies
rosexxx
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Rosaley, your child is more important than two clients, trust me. I had SS involved in my life 20+ years ago and it took me two years and a lot of hard work and "arguing with them" plus a lot of stress to get my children back.
My problem was not SW related but the outcome was the same. Don't mention SS within my earshot in real life or you will see my hackles rise immediately and drastically.
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hi
i've not had social services to my door but i have had dealing with them to do with a relative and there is no way im having them anywhere near my door. i thought they were useless they had no idea what they were doing so im keeping well away
yes i agree my child is more important
rose xxx
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Is there any hotels that do day rooms nearby that you could use once a week or something?
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hi
to be honest i haven't been doing it long and im not even sure how to go about finding out if there is
anyone doing this around here. there is a local premier inn not far.
rose
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I've had the unfortunate experience of neighbours cottoning on & getting a visit from the old bill :-( I don't have children, so can't comment on that. I personally think a neighbour tried booking me for an incall as the police turned up with a print out of my website :o so wasn't in a place to deny it really. They told me to stop as I'm breaking the law (no Mr police officer, your 'keeping an unruly home' law is outdated).
Sticking to outcalls probably is a safer option.
Good luck in whatever you decide :-*
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hi
to be honest i haven't been doing it long and im not even sure how to go about finding out if there is
anyone doing this around here. there is a local premier inn not far.
rose
Rosaley, premier Inn and Travelodge are way down at the bottom of the list of hotels to use, really they are unusable as they are keycarded even to get out of reception in most cases which is no use at all. Yeah safe for "normal" people to use but not for prossies. :FF
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Rosaley, premier Inn and Travelodge are way down at the bottom of the list of hotels to use, really they are unusable as they are keycarded even to get out of reception in most cases which is no use at all. Yeah safe for "normal" people to use but not for prossies. :FF
i will not even visit them for an outcall
Sarah x x x
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hi
the premier by me isn't a key card one it has room keys ive been there before are you saying you dont go to rooms that clients have booked at all. im getting more confused by the day
when ladies on here are doing outcalls do you go to houses or hotels to see clients
where i am in morriston swansea wales there are not many hotels
rose
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Rose, if you use the Search box for things like 'outcall hotel' or 'outcall home', you should find lots of info in addition to everything on the main SAAFE site :).
If you want to discuss something that's completely different to the original subject, it's best to either add to a previous topic on that subject or start a new one, just so that things don't get completely derailed.
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the premier by me isn't a key card one it has room keys ive been there before are you saying you dont go to rooms that clients have booked at all. im getting more confused by the day
I generally will not visit budget hotels like Travelodge / Premier Inns due to most of them being key carded, so you can not go direct to the room. The other thing that I dislike is that many have small reception areas and your arrival is noticeable.
These are just individual preferences and not rules set in stone that all should apply
Sarah x x x
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Hi Rose,
I work from home and I have young children. I do sometimes get a bit paranoid about people noticing, however my house is quiet discreet and unless the people opposite kept a vigil beside their front window 24/7 I'm not sure how obvious it is as I don't see many clients.
Regarding SS, give them a call and ask them their opinion, I did just that and their response was as long as children aren't at risk, it's not illegal.
I think you would have to worry if your house was a state and children looked like ragamuffins, then SS would have more on you than escorting.
At the end of the day this is how I make a living, if anyone doesn't like it, i'd suggest they pay my mortgage etc. It's not possible to work from hotels, as a single parent I simply can't afford to pay for rooms and then risk no bookings.
Plus, this is my home, I'll do what I want in it!!!
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Well said sugarb!I have a child that is at school when I.have clients but I don't do it everyday due to having a normal job aswell..also my flat is discreet so therefore think it's just right for this kind of job
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It's a completely different ball game if you OWN your property. Girls who work from rental properties have a lot more things they have to take into consideration.
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hi
thanks for your opinion. i am so confused as to what is best. my child was never here when clients call. she is in school / i do prefer in call and if i do i only see a few clients maybe 2/3 a week tho its not my property it a council house am a breaking any rules if u have clients here
my hubby isnt sure about incall tho i prefer it. out calls a so much more bother getting to the place and safety issues etc
rose xxx
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Well the safety 'issue' is a bit of a non-starter - you're talking about inviting people into your home, where your and your family live and your belongings are kept (and don't forget that plenty of people believe we don't pay tax or bank our earnings, so have bundles of banknotes stashed everywhere). It's really swings and roundabouts.
With outcalls, nobody ever gets to find out where you live, and provided you do proper checks and follow a good security procedure they're no less safe; incalls mean constantly being aware of not leaving post/bills about which might have your legal name visible, photographs, birthday cards and so on as well as things like laundry (and punters do occasionally steal things) and the worries about neighbours already mentioned. The only place I've ever been robbed in over eleven years is my own front room.
I think your husband has every right to an opinion - presumably it's his home too and he may not be comfortable with complete strangers trampling through it. My advice would be to separate off completely the room you're going to use for work (and keep all your work stuff in it), and keep punters out of your 'family' areas like the living room, kitchen and so on - if you've only got one bathroom it's tougher, but make sure everything personal belonging to you, him or your children is put away where they can't get at it.
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yes sorry i agree with it all 'i'm not going to do incalls i have no choice in the matter as you say its not just my house.
the trouble with out calls is i don't have a car i can drive but hubby uses the car fir his work.im not intending to see loads of clients it just for extra cash . but i need to get client that are close or it means charging for taxis or bus fare.
howd did such a simple thing turn into such a complicated mess.feeling frustrated :FF and fed up not regretiing starting this just wish it wasnt so ahhh ??? why me is nothing ever simple anymoe
rose xxx
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Well the safety 'issue' is a bit of a non-starter - you're talking about inviting people into your home, where your and your family live and your belongings are kept (and don't forget that plenty of people believe we don't pay tax or bank our earnings, so have bundles of banknotes stashed everywhere). It's really swings and roundabouts.
Safety issues are always a concern and anybody working should always be thinking of safety, be it in-calls or out-calls and it really does not matter where, a punter will nick a pair of your knickers....
Sarah x x x
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I don't think anyone has mentioned the fact that even though you may work discretely from home and only when you're child is at school what if you get a stalker/nutter client?
I have had one client who began as a perfectly nice guy then stalked me for several months, luckily I don't work where I live.
If you have a child at home you are putting them at risk in my opinion however careful you are x
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yes i have thought of that. its the other reason im not keen on men coming here.
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I don't think anyone has mentioned the fact that even though you may work discretely from home and only when you're child is at school what if you get a stalker/nutter client?
I have had one client who began as a perfectly nice guy then stalked me for several months, luckily I don't work where I live.
If you have a child at home you are putting them at risk in my opinion however careful you are x
No more so than anyone who works from their own home, you could get a stalker from anywhere, I don't think once you screen clients they are likely to he any more stalker material than the average in general population.
Plus I'm really open with my clients, mist would be seriously scared if confronted with children/partners etc!
It's what works for you at the end if the day, I personally feel more secure at home than on outcalls, I don't drive so if they are far away I usually stress about losing the taxi fare if it's a time waster.
Perhaps if you start with outcalls, see if you get any repeat bookings that you would be happy to see at home.
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its not my property it a council house am a breaking any rules if u have clients here
YES. Yes you are. Your tenancy agreement will say you're not allowed to use the property for "immoral" purposes, and may even go as far as to state "no prostitution".
There's a reason you're in a council property (usually due to "need") and if you lose that, the council will NOT rehouse you, even though you have children. You won't be entitled to temp accommodation or B&B/hostels, and will have to rent privately.
It's not worth the risk, unless of course you're earning enough to rent privately if you get evicted.
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yes i thought that may be the case it did occur to me so im not doing incalls any more if i play here it just with my hubby so that doesn't count
rose
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Same position as me, so Im going to flat share with another girl in a different area. Not good if anyone you know finds out what you do because people talk. x
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hi
i will say that i think premier inns i know people call them buget i think the 70 is quite allot of money
or is it just me who thinks that
rose xxx
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?70 is a lot, is that the cheapest room? I thought they would be more like ?20! I was working in a parlour but just left as the boss is mad and crackheads work there, so am now trying to find premises...I can understand why ppl work from home tho, its free. I darent risk it tho and in school holidays it would be a nightmare.
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PI are no use as keycarded everywhere in most hotels - just to get OUT of reception!
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i cant remember why i looked but the rooms are only cheaper if you book more than one night at same hotel it defo not a key card hotel the one near me.
yes im sticking to out calls tho i wish i didn't have to i had load of calls this week and most wanted in calls so i lost loads of clients but thats the way it is
rose xxx
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iv had the same worries iv just moved to my new house and have had plasterers in twice and various other work men all legit....so it may have looked dodgy but i think the neighbors know im ripping the house apart, so a few incalls wont go noticed. But as of next week im using hotels as my kids safety comes paramount and i dont want neighbors noticing once work is finished
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I work from home and I chat a lot to my direct neighbours but everyone pretty much keeps themselves to themselves where I am. There are a few short term tenancy rental flats near me with people moving in and out every few months.
My neighbours think that I teach adult literacy in private tuition lessons at home because I did honestly used to be a teacher, so they know there will be people coming and going.
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I'm slightly worried about neighbours seeing me, but I only take incalls during the day anyway (when my daughter isn't there) so I assumed that most of my neighbours would be at work anyway, so not too much risk
I feel slightly worried about clients knowing where my house is with my daughter there as well, but I think that is just paranoia, I've never had any reason to be worried about a client doing anything dangerous
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I am also quite paranoid of neighbours finding out, I also try to be discreet as I can, two years ago I worked in a small village (silly me) and all the neighbours found out it was very unpleasant in which when I left there was a print out in the local newspaper about a call girl working in the area.
Since then I have been very on my guard making sure I'm discreet as possible, my pet hate is clients pressing the wrong buzzer "" hello Lucy it's Kevin your 3'oclock booking" such a give a away.
I've been in my flat 8 months now and had no problems being ground floor I think helps too. :-*
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I don't have kids living with me, but just the other week a client came up, and once they're upstairs there's no numbers on the doors.
I was still faffin about getting ready so he walked up to the door across from me, it's a young couple who stay there. but her dad
was in doing some painting and decorating!
He was not happy.. He said; I know what you do and I don't give a f**k, but I've got guys coming up to my daughters door!
She's about 20 odds, and I know her boyfriend, who's not exactly squeaky clean, but that's neither here nor there, the point is,
it was really really embarrassing, I felt bad and guilty and apologised profusely lol.
I then put my flat number on my door and haven't had any problems since.. ;)
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The problem is that although we keep clients details private and we're discreet, they dont always return the favour. They'll tell their mates at work that 'a hooker lives in that flat' etc etc and the word gets round. So people can find out. Ive gone to work in a parlour now, I do about 4 or 5 a day but only work 2 days a week. Not a nice job (in my own humble opinion) but I do need the money :-\
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They sometimes tell other prossies too. ::)