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Newbie81xx

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #15 on: 20 May 2018, 07:33:59 pm »
Thanks guys. I will search now before I post.....apologies xx
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Newbie81xx

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #16 on: 21 May 2018, 09:53:04 am »
Quote from: Treetop on 19 May 2018, 08:37:05 pm
This a thousand times over.
 Also that I didn't need to be self conscious or have self doubt over my physical imperfections.

Thanks for the treetops because it does make you think that a bit......I never looked at my crow's feet so much!
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tinag11

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #17 on: 21 May 2018, 09:58:12 am »
Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 19 May 2018, 08:31:47 am
Make sure you keep an appointments diary with a list of every booking, what your fee was, and which method of advertising the client found you through.

This means you can analyse the success of your different advertising, which days of the week and times are most popular (and which locations if you tour) PLUS you'll have your income all totted up come tax return time.

This is fine fine advice.
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Kanzaki

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #18 on: 24 May 2018, 11:08:10 pm »
I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.
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HotGalll

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #19 on: 25 May 2018, 09:09:45 am »
Quote from: Kanzaki on 24 May 2018, 11:08:10 pm
I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.

100% with you on this. Dont confide and dont trust x
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Mirror

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #20 on: 25 May 2018, 09:28:50 am »
Quote from: Kanzaki on 24 May 2018, 11:08:10 pm
I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.

I wish I'd boxed my stuff off, not because clients necessarily take advantage - but because it's not fair on them, they are customers paying for a good time not to listen to problems. Plus it's also not fair on me. I really didn't/don't like sitting in my problems, work is something I enjoy that helps boost me when low so to sit talking about it whilst working only keeps me in that trench.

These days I share appropriately, only if the client is interested in my outside life and within certain boundaries. Also the person has to be someone who isn't trying to push or pry, always interesting when someone tries to jump in asking personal stuff within 5 minutes of a first booking. 

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #21 on: 25 May 2018, 09:42:54 am »
Quote from: Mirror on 25 May 2018, 09:28:50 am
I wish I'd boxed my stuff off, not because clients necessarily take advantage - but because it's not fair on them, they are customers paying for a good time not to listen to problems. Plus it's also not fair on me. I really didn't/don't like sitting in my problems, work is something I enjoy that helps boost me when low so to sit talking about it whilst working only keeps me in that trench.

These days I share appropriately, only if the client is interested in my outside life and within certain boundaries. Also the person has to be someone who isn't trying to push or pry, always interesting when someone tries to jump in asking personal stuff within 5 minutes of a first booking.
Great post that's exactly me , when they bounce in , how long you been here ? What's your real name? How long you been doing this ?

I know they're asking for another reason?

Me "where do you live "?
What's your real name ?
Where do you work?

Or just "mmmm a lot of personal questions in two secs " and the stare from me like a schoolteacher starts lol
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Kanzaki

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #22 on: 25 May 2018, 10:21:44 am »
Clients want to be “the special one” in your eye, so they ask for real name, or personal stuff just to be “closer” to you. Those guys are the one who don’t see wg as wg but believe in the GFE scenarios fully and trully hence why asking so many personal details.
If you let them “enter your world” you let a potential client fall in love for you and potentially becoming a stalker if you reject “this love” because YOU let these fragiles guys be closer to you. As said in previous posts there is only a fine line between love and hate, so never show yourself being fragile or insecure. These clients will think they are special, get attached to you, and this is the beginning of all the stalking issues that you don’t want!
I have an army of men who felt in love with me...yes I know...they forgot that they pay for having sex with me, today I struggle to deal with these unstable men who once “fucked me”, “loved me” and now want to “hurt me” “destroy me” see the evolution...
Do not underestimate the power you have on these men, this power is very strong, sex and love but also your personality means the world to some of them..
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Grace D

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #23 on: 25 May 2018, 10:54:10 am »
This is so basic and embarrassing but I wish someone had told me about the existence of lube! I was clueless when I started and used to get very sore. A trip to the clinic with severe cystitis soon put me right. I'm now extremely liberal with the lube. After I've put the condom on, I slather it on him and myself
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HotGalll

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #24 on: 25 May 2018, 02:04:18 pm »
Yessssss. Me too. I had the condom split on me one time as i was pretty dry and the friction.

Thank god for lube.
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VoluptuousCurves

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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #25 on: 25 May 2018, 04:48:05 pm »
Lube is life!

Another thing I wish someone had told me: you have the right to refuse service. I really struggle with large cocks (girth more than length) and I used to just grin and bear it, but would be left unable to work for the rest of the day (and sometimes even the next) due to pain. I now tell clients upfront "Sorry but full sex won't be possible due to your size. Are you happy to continue with oral only or would you prefer a [partial] refund?" (Partial if they've already been there a while and had some oral, etc. I find most of my clients are already hard by the time we undress so I can usually tell if I can't handle them within the first 5 mins.)
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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #26 on: 25 May 2018, 07:02:26 pm »
Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 25 May 2018, 04:48:05 pm
Lube is life!

Another thing I wish someone had told me: you have the right to refuse service. I really struggle with large cocks (girth more than length) and I used to just grin and bear it, but would be left unable to work for the rest of the day (and sometimes even the next) due to pain. I now tell clients upfront "Sorry but full sex won't be possible due to your size. Are you happy to continue with oral only or would you prefer a [partial] refund?" (Partial if they've already been there a while and had some oral, etc. I find most of my clients are already hard by the time we undress so I can usually tell if I can't handle them within the first 5 mins.)
Yep same I go on top and say I'll give it a go but can't guarantee I'll be ok , all the guys so far have understood and been really nice about it .
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Re: What do you wish someone had told you?
« Reply #27 on: 26 May 2018, 10:40:59 am »
Quote from: HotGalll on 25 May 2018, 09:09:45 am
100% with you on this. Dont confide and dont trust x

This. I had regular client for several years who I became too relaxed around. I got lax with the money and stopped either A, hiding it, or B, putting it somewhere really obvious where we both could see it at all times. I slid it into a hotel drawer and after he left I noticed it had gone. He had been a *coughcough* 'trusted regular'. When I text him to say "thanks for doing that, I hope you feel good about yourself' or something to that effect, he had the temerity to respond with "we've been lovers for years now and you still want me to pay you?"???

Aside from always playing your cards close to your chest, and remaining vigilant even with old regs...I wish I'd saved better or invested my money in something. It can be tempting in the early days just to through money down the drain because you think "I can always make more tomorrow" but this industry is very malleable and unpredictable, and you also don't know how long you'll feel like working and having no money to take some time off with when you've hit a few walls can lead to burn out. 
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