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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Newbie81xx on 18 May 2018, 09:34:15 pm
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Hi All. I'm brand new to escorting and wanted to ask you folks what is the one thing you wish someone had told you at the beginning......so glad I found this place!
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Make sure you keep an appointments diary with a list of every booking, what your fee was, and which method of advertising the client found you through.
This means you can analyse the success of your different advertising, which days of the week and times are most popular (and which locations if you tour) PLUS you'll have your income all totted up come tax return time.
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Make sure you keep an appointments diary with a list of every booking, what your fee was, and which method of advertising the client found you through.
This means you can analyse the success of your different advertising, which days of the week and times are most popular (and which locations if you tour) PLUS you'll have your income all totted up come tax return time.
Thanks VC.....much appreciated. I do keep records for tax purposes but not with so much info. Really appreciate your advice xx
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How to identify obvious timewasters . :FF
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How to identify obvious timewasters . :FF
It's not quite the same but similar; I started working with bar hustling and then newspaper ads, so when I came back and everything had gone online I had no idea what I was doing - one of the first websites I ever saw was my own. I got all the predictable stupid emails and because I thought email must be more serious I answered every single one. God knows how many hours of my life I spent replying to massive long wankfests and the rest ;D
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That I could charge an outcall fee. Back in the day that is when lovely dinner dates and oucalls were prevalent. I had been known to travel 40 miles in cab before if I had missed a train somewhere. Also I thought I had to do OWO and put up with questionable hygiene and didn't pop some lube on my lady bits before the sex so was often uncomfortable. I used to carry a portable cd player with me everywhere too, God knows why ::)
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May have been an obvious one to some.. but save save save!!
When I started my first stint, I was bloody clueless about money in general and I was also so used to the money being so quick to come by that I never put any money aside that I wouldn't ever touch because in my head, I knew that if I ever needed money I'd soon have access.
There might come a time where you want to quit this line of work (or maybe even just take a temporary break) for whatever reason and there's no worse feeling than feeling trapped because you're not financially in a position to leave.
I think this work can give you a lot of freedom, so long as you manage it properly.
What VC said aswell!!!! Note down everything! X
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May have been an obvious one to some.. but save save save!!
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This a thousand times over.
Also that I didn't need to be self conscious or have self doubt over my physical imperfections.
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Ironically, the best advice is sometimes to not listen to what everyone else tells you ha! But I think it’s just about being aware of who and where you look for advice too. I think take on board the important information that seems to be a general consensus, especially within the walls of Saafe (as more likely than not it’s going to be pretty solid advice!) but I think it’s important to trust your own instincts too and make things work for you as we all do things in different ways.
Also, buy as much lube and condoms you can manage, in all sizes! ;D
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Wow ladies.....thank you sooooooo much. I almost teared up with the generosity you have shown me.
Will take all of it on board. It will be twelve months this June and boy has it been a learning curve. Wished I had found this place back then. I made some huge mistakes but getting wiser.
Really appreciate your help!!!!
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I wish somebody had told me to keep a straight job going, even if it was just a Saturday job in a small boutique or similar. Not being able to convincingly talk about 'work' is very isolating in social situations, unless you're out and proud.
The bigger the gap in your CV, the less likely you are to find your way back to a 'straight' life, unless you have the personality for self-employment or small entrepreneurism. Maybe start building an ebay channel. A girlfriend of mine picks up stuff in charity shops to re-sell for a small profit on ebay, and now has reached superseller status. It's not massively profitable, but nobody questions why she hasn't got a fixed work schedule or how she makes a living. Also, she really enjoys it.
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I wish somebody had told me to keep a straight job going, even if it was just a Saturday job in a small boutique or similar. Not being able to convincingly talk about 'work' is very isolating in social situations, unless you're out and proud.
The bigger the gap in your CV, the less likely you are to find your way back to a 'straight' life, unless you have the personality for self-employment or small entrepreneurism. Maybe start building an ebay channel. A girlfriend of mine picks up stuff in charity shops to re-sell for a small profit on ebay, and now has reached superseller status. It's not massively profitable, but nobody questions why she hasn't got a fixed work schedule or how she makes a living. Also, she really enjoys it.
I'm seriously thinking of doing something. On quiet days I'm starting to get so bored. I had a really stressful job in the rat race and the novelty of not having that stress was amazing at first but running out of things to decorate. Thanks for your advice xxx
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I learnt so much about time wasters......my god in the beginning I used to get into so many email threads. 10 emails now and I'm out. If they send me a pic of their willy or ask me to tell them what I'm going to do to them I instantly block them now......still get stung occasionally but won't have wasted half as much time as I used to.
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This identical thread is no less than 6 pages long! https://saafe.info/main/blather-and-babble/things-we'd-wished-we-had-known-when-starting-out-!-that-we-know-now!/ (https://saafe.info/main/blather-and-babble/things-we'd-wished-we-had-known-when-starting-out-!-that-we-know-now!/)
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This identical thread is no less than 6 pages long! https://saafe.info/main/blather-and-babble/things-we'd-wished-we-had-known-when-starting-out-!-that-we-know-now!/ (https://saafe.info/main/blather-and-babble/things-we'd-wished-we-had-known-when-starting-out-!-that-we-know-now!/)
Thanks Braziliana , I started it but couldn't find it this morning , I did have a hunt but couldn't find what I'd called it or find in amongst my posts :) well done x
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Thanks guys. I will search now before I post.....apologies xx
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This a thousand times over.
Also that I didn't need to be self conscious or have self doubt over my physical imperfections.
Thanks for the treetops because it does make you think that a bit......I never looked at my crow's feet so much!
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Make sure you keep an appointments diary with a list of every booking, what your fee was, and which method of advertising the client found you through.
This means you can analyse the success of your different advertising, which days of the week and times are most popular (and which locations if you tour) PLUS you'll have your income all totted up come tax return time.
This is fine fine advice.
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I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.
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I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.
100% with you on this. Dont confide and dont trust x
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I wish that someone told me that clients are by definition NOT your friends, neither confidents, neither nothing except clients! Sometime you need someone to talk to, some help because this work is lonely, well clients will Only take advantage of you being insecure, even how nice they could be.
I wish I'd boxed my stuff off, not because clients necessarily take advantage - but because it's not fair on them, they are customers paying for a good time not to listen to problems. Plus it's also not fair on me. I really didn't/don't like sitting in my problems, work is something I enjoy that helps boost me when low so to sit talking about it whilst working only keeps me in that trench.
These days I share appropriately, only if the client is interested in my outside life and within certain boundaries. Also the person has to be someone who isn't trying to push or pry, always interesting when someone tries to jump in asking personal stuff within 5 minutes of a first booking.
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I wish I'd boxed my stuff off, not because clients necessarily take advantage - but because it's not fair on them, they are customers paying for a good time not to listen to problems. Plus it's also not fair on me. I really didn't/don't like sitting in my problems, work is something I enjoy that helps boost me when low so to sit talking about it whilst working only keeps me in that trench.
These days I share appropriately, only if the client is interested in my outside life and within certain boundaries. Also the person has to be someone who isn't trying to push or pry, always interesting when someone tries to jump in asking personal stuff within 5 minutes of a first booking.
Great post that's exactly me , when they bounce in , how long you been here ? What's your real name? How long you been doing this ?
I know they're asking for another reason?
Me "where do you live "?
What's your real name ?
Where do you work?
Or just "mmmm a lot of personal questions in two secs " and the stare from me like a schoolteacher starts lol
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Clients want to be “the special one” in your eye, so they ask for real name, or personal stuff just to be “closer” to you. Those guys are the one who don’t see wg as wg but believe in the GFE scenarios fully and trully hence why asking so many personal details.
If you let them “enter your world” you let a potential client fall in love for you and potentially becoming a stalker if you reject “this love” because YOU let these fragiles guys be closer to you. As said in previous posts there is only a fine line between love and hate, so never show yourself being fragile or insecure. These clients will think they are special, get attached to you, and this is the beginning of all the stalking issues that you don’t want!
I have an army of men who felt in love with me...yes I know...they forgot that they pay for having sex with me, today I struggle to deal with these unstable men who once “fucked me”, “loved me” and now want to “hurt me” “destroy me” see the evolution...
Do not underestimate the power you have on these men, this power is very strong, sex and love but also your personality means the world to some of them..
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This is so basic and embarrassing but I wish someone had told me about the existence of lube! I was clueless when I started and used to get very sore. A trip to the clinic with severe cystitis soon put me right. I'm now extremely liberal with the lube. After I've put the condom on, I slather it on him and myself
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Yessssss. Me too. I had the condom split on me one time as i was pretty dry and the friction.
Thank god for lube.
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Lube is life!
Another thing I wish someone had told me: you have the right to refuse service. I really struggle with large cocks (girth more than length) and I used to just grin and bear it, but would be left unable to work for the rest of the day (and sometimes even the next) due to pain. I now tell clients upfront "Sorry but full sex won't be possible due to your size. Are you happy to continue with oral only or would you prefer a [partial] refund?" (Partial if they've already been there a while and had some oral, etc. I find most of my clients are already hard by the time we undress so I can usually tell if I can't handle them within the first 5 mins.)
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Lube is life!
Another thing I wish someone had told me: you have the right to refuse service. I really struggle with large cocks (girth more than length) and I used to just grin and bear it, but would be left unable to work for the rest of the day (and sometimes even the next) due to pain. I now tell clients upfront "Sorry but full sex won't be possible due to your size. Are you happy to continue with oral only or would you prefer a [partial] refund?" (Partial if they've already been there a while and had some oral, etc. I find most of my clients are already hard by the time we undress so I can usually tell if I can't handle them within the first 5 mins.)
Yep same I go on top and say I'll give it a go but can't guarantee I'll be ok , all the guys so far have understood and been really nice about it .
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100% with you on this. Dont confide and dont trust x
This. I had regular client for several years who I became too relaxed around. I got lax with the money and stopped either A, hiding it, or B, putting it somewhere really obvious where we both could see it at all times. I slid it into a hotel drawer and after he left I noticed it had gone. He had been a *coughcough* 'trusted regular'. When I text him to say "thanks for doing that, I hope you feel good about yourself' or something to that effect, he had the temerity to respond with "we've been lovers for years now and you still want me to pay you?"???
Aside from always playing your cards close to your chest, and remaining vigilant even with old regs...I wish I'd saved better or invested my money in something. It can be tempting in the early days just to through money down the drain because you think "I can always make more tomorrow" but this industry is very malleable and unpredictable, and you also don't know how long you'll feel like working and having no money to take some time off with when you've hit a few walls can lead to burn out.