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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #15 on: 23 November 2015, 04:06:36 pm »
The worst thing that's happened to me is a had a long term stalker, constant texts, calls and emails from different accounts until I eventually did my own detective work found out who he was and went to the police. The other was an assault I was punched in the face by a guy who didn't like the fact I only saw a certain race of men.

Those are the worst for me but they didn't stop me from working and it never will, when all that happened I was newer to escorting and more naive and didn't do much screening, now I'm very different. Very cautious of who I book due to previous experiences and do as much screening as possible. Also over the three years I've worked I've managed to build up this kind of sixth sense where from a call or email I can usually tell if said person is going to mess me about or not. It's amazing lol!

You have to be very wary and cautious, do all types of screening you can and if your gut doesn't feel right about a certain booking, don't do it, no matter how much you need the money or how charming the person may sound if it doesn't feel right don't go ahead.

Assaults/rapes/kidnaps can be rare but they do still happen to girls, be very selective of who you see. It doesn't matter if clients think you're picky, it's your body and your business so you can choose xx

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #16 on: 23 November 2015, 05:50:15 pm »
A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

If it's the same one I'm thinking of, the woman concerned was sent there by an agency.

Correct, I mentioned it to show that attacks can happen in fairly 'public' places, the importance of a security buddy, and of course that Agency work doesn't mean that suddenly you are protected from such things.

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #17 on: 23 November 2015, 07:16:51 pm »
I was victim of an armed robbery at my incall place, and yes I could have avoided it if I'd not become so complacent. I also had a burglary at another property partly related to the work.

Both these incidents made me wish I'd taken advice on alarm systems, both events cost me far more than the installation of such items.

Yes I screamed, so loud that my noise was raspy for the next few days, but solid walls prevented the sound from carrying.

A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

Can I ask...these robberies? Were they a result of punters telling other people where you were working from? Do you know which punters, if this is the case?

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #18 on: 23 November 2015, 07:29:30 pm »
I was victim of an armed robbery at my incall place, and yes I could have avoided it if I'd not become so complacent. I also had a burglary at another property partly related to the work.

Both these incidents made me wish I'd taken advice on alarm systems, both events cost me far more than the installation of such items.

Yes I screamed, so loud that my noise was raspy for the next few days, but solid walls prevented the sound from carrying.

A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

Can I ask...these robberies? Were they a result of punters telling other people where you were working from? Do you know which punters, if this is the case?

The burglary was the result of someone local working out what I did, so thought/knew I'd have cash in the house and deciding I'd be an easy target.

The armed robbery was a set up by a client, who rebooked under a new name and unregistered number. I didn't look when opened the door to let him in, so didn't see the mask.

Police and I worked out who he was from his phone even though it was a throwaway topped up with cash.

Both had been in my property on a previous occasion.
« Last Edit: 23 November 2015, 07:31:45 pm by Mirror »

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #19 on: 23 November 2015, 07:34:20 pm »
I was victim of an armed robbery at my incall place, and yes I could have avoided it if I'd not become so complacent. I also had a burglary at another property partly related to the work.

Both these incidents made me wish I'd taken advice on alarm systems, both events cost me far more than the installation of such items.

Yes I screamed, so loud that my noise was raspy for the next few days, but solid walls prevented the sound from carrying.

A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

Can I ask...these robberies? Were they a result of punters telling other people where you were working from? Do you know which punters, if this is the case?

The burglary was the result of someone local working out what I did, so thought/knew I'd have cash in the house and deciding I'd be an easy target.

The armed robbery was a set up by a client, who rebooked under a new name and unregistered number. I didn't look when opened the door to let him in, so didn't see the mask.

Police and I worked out who he was from his phone even though it was a throwaway topped up with cash.

Both had been in my property on a previous occasion.

Thanks for the explanation. Looking back, was there anything about the client you felt was iffy (when he first visited you)? x

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #20 on: 23 November 2015, 07:39:49 pm »
In the UK if you are worried about staying as safe as possible then offering only hotel incalls and hotel outcalls (subject to vetting) is about as safe as you can get. The chances of anyone attempting a robbery or rape in a hotel full of people and cctv cameras are very low, and even if they did, their chances of making it out of the building without getting caught are low (obviously careful hotel choices are relevant) HOWEVER it doesn't protect you from attempted blackmail (although a blackmailer won't get very far so long as you are not scared of them) and stalkers/obsessives but none of us are immune to them, as for attacks in hotels they do happen but in my experience are generally unplanned (eg you refuse them a service and they fly off the handle, however being in a hotel gives you the option to hit an alarm in the room or remove yourself from the situation and gave security handle them)

IMO hotels are about as safe as you can get, just don't be scared of getting caught, yes they MAY kick you out and it might be embarrassing but you're not doing anything wrong and all you stand to lose is a nights room rate which is a small price to pay for your safety

I worked for an agency when I first started and I have to say it is a million times riskier, agencies will prey on you by convincing you that being independent is dangerous and they are taking care of you when in fact the opposite is true, they have one motivation. Make as much money as possible, so they will put you in far riskier positions, bend on security checks etc. Dobt buy in together sales pitch xx

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #21 on: 23 November 2015, 07:43:18 pm »
I was victim of an armed robbery at my incall place, and yes I could have avoided it if I'd not become so complacent. I also had a burglary at another property partly related to the work.

Both these incidents made me wish I'd taken advice on alarm systems, both events cost me far more than the installation of such items.

Yes I screamed, so loud that my noise was raspy for the next few days, but solid walls prevented the sound from carrying.

A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

Can I ask...these robberies? Were they a result of punters telling other people where you were working from? Do you know which punters, if this is the case?

The burglary was the result of someone local working out what I did, so thought/knew I'd have cash in the house and deciding I'd be an easy target.

The armed robbery was a set up by a client, who rebooked under a new name and unregistered number. I didn't look when opened the door to let him in, so didn't see the mask.

Police and I worked out who he was from his phone even though it was a throwaway topped up with cash.

Both had been in my property on a previous occasion.

Thanks for the explanation. Looking back, was there anything about the client you felt was iffy (when he first visited you)? x

Yes and no. At the time I'd seen a couple of new clients, all of whom were nervous-types, he appeared to be another of those, there were some things which I specifically remembered but they don't necessarily make someone an armed robber.

For example both times he wanted my latest appointment BUT I have seen many genuine clients who'd not harm a fly, who also wanted the same and if I turned down all requests for my 'latest' appointment then I'd have missed out on a lot of very nice clients and severely restricted my working time, and who's to know when I go to the bank.

Main thing was that he assumed I'd not use banks, the main thing that made me vulnerable was the fact that I opened the door without looking and had never invested in any sort of alarm system.

Paris has posted a lot about the security systems she uses, and I'm not surprised that she's not been attacked or robbed, because she takes it seriously.

Shortly afterwards I approached someone about martial arts/self-defence lessons and the first thing they told me was "improve your home security".

The burglary only happened because I had a yale lock right by a single pane of glass.

Simple stuff like that is really easy to do.

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #22 on: 23 November 2015, 08:05:55 pm »
Yes and no. At the time I'd seen a couple of new clients, all of whom were nervous-types, he appeared to be another of those, there were some things which I specifically remembered but they don't necessarily make someone an armed robber.

For example both times he wanted my latest appointment BUT I have seen many genuine clients who'd not harm a fly, who also wanted the same and if I turned down all requests for my 'latest' appointment then I'd have missed out on a lot of very nice clients and severely restricted my working time, and who's to know when I go to the bank.

Main thing was that he assumed I'd not use banks, the main thing that made me vulnerable was the fact that I opened the door without looking and had never invested in any sort of alarm system.

Paris has posted a lot about the security systems she uses, and I'm not surprised that she's not been attacked or robbed, because she takes it seriously.

Shortly afterwards I approached someone about martial arts/self-defence lessons and the first thing they told me was "improve your home security".

The burglary only happened because I had a yale lock right by a single pane of glass.

Simple stuff like that is really easy to do.

Great advice, thanks. It must have been traumatic to say the least x



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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #23 on: 23 November 2015, 11:38:46 pm »
I was victim of an armed robbery at my incall place, and yes I could have avoided it if I'd not become so complacent. I also had a burglary at another property partly related to the work.

Both these incidents made me wish I'd taken advice on alarm systems, both events cost me far more than the installation of such items.

Yes I screamed, so loud that my noise was raspy for the next few days, but solid walls prevented the sound from carrying.

A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

Can I ask...these robberies? Were they a result of punters telling other people where you were working from? Do you know which punters, if this is the case?

The burglary was the result of someone local working out what I did, so thought/knew I'd have cash in the house and deciding I'd be an easy target.

The armed robbery was a set up by a client, who rebooked under a new name and unregistered number. I didn't look when opened the door to let him in, so didn't see the mask.

Police and I worked out who he was from his phone even though it was a throwaway topped up with cash.

Both had been in my property on a previous occasion.

Thanks for the explanation. Looking back, was there anything about the client you felt was iffy (when he first visited you)? x

Yes and no. At the time I'd seen a couple of new clients, all of whom were nervous-types, he appeared to be another of those, there were some things which I specifically remembered but they don't necessarily make someone an armed robber.

For example both times he wanted my latest appointment BUT I have seen many genuine clients who'd not harm a fly, who also wanted the same and if I turned down all requests for my 'latest' appointment then I'd have missed out on a lot of very nice clients and severely restricted my working time, and who's to know when I go to the bank.

Main thing was that he assumed I'd not use banks, the main thing that made me vulnerable was the fact that I opened the door without looking and had never invested in any sort of alarm system.

Paris has posted a lot about the security systems she uses, and I'm not surprised that she's not been attacked or robbed, because she takes it seriously.

Shortly afterwards I approached someone about martial arts/self-defence lessons and the first thing they told me was "improve your home security".

The burglary only happened because I had a yale lock right by a single pane of glass.

Simple stuff like that is really easy to do.



My block of flats is very well covered with cctv and there are signs up stating this it's also very well lit up at night as well
Stuff I use is simple easy to get stuff there is some really good wire free / wireless portable stuff that you can get now

But I have a    spy hole camera that replaces the normal spy whole and wired into a small tv so I can see who is at my door
Alarms with an indoor box rather than outside - the sound is so loud it's ear spliting  no one could stay in there flat / home when It goes off

 My alarm if it goes off has the option of ringing / texting or both several pre set numbers to contact friend / family to let them know the alarms gone off

I also have personal alarm fobs that if pressed will activate the alarm as well as a few panic buttons

It might seem like im a paranoid but because my flat has been my main base for years and always will be ive invested in a few things over the years

I also always leave my keys in the door as I don't want to be trying to find my keys
All my doors have locks / keys and bolts with the keys in them so I can lock myself in

I will take one of my dogs with me if I'm working late , he is a cheap effective body guard and only wants some tripe as a treat.  I actually feel 100 percent safe with him as he is so huge and very well trained. A lot of my clients have asked is that someone downstairs when he moves around or snores and show them the dog when they leave if they are feeling brave   ;D

I personally would never use apartment especially those that are well known / well used by other escorts mainly because you don't know who has had the keys / copied them . In  Ireland when I used to work there girls were always getting robbed due to keys being copied and getting set up by other escorts

At least in a hotel the worse is your asked to leave , I would rather be asked to leave at midnight in my underwear than robbed / attacked in an apartment

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #24 on: 24 November 2015, 01:59:00 pm »
Saving money and not getting desperate for it is a massive thing.

I was skint when I came into this industry as I suspect a lot of women are, but once you've worked for a while and cleared things, save. 

If you're down to your last ?20 you're a lot more likely to agree to see that dodgy sounding guy that phones, or agree to do things you wouldn't normally agree to in order to get a booking.  I've done it, the worst that happened to me was I felt like i'd sold my self respect for ?75 (I'm not getting into it as it's a service a lot of girls provide happily, it just wasn't for me and I don't want to offend anyone as we are all happy with different things) and it took me a week or two to feel OK again, but it could have been much, much worse.

So yeah, don't get desperate or your screening is likely to go out the window.

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #25 on: 24 November 2015, 06:31:46 pm »
A few years ago an Escort was held in a room within a busy hotel for 12 hours, repeatedly attacked, it was only her husband returning home to find her missing who raised the alarm.

If it's the same one I'm thinking of, the woman concerned was sent there by an agency.

Yes she was, it was in Newcastle I remember
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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #26 on: 24 November 2015, 06:57:44 pm »

I got very friendly with another escort.  We toured together for a year and then she wrote a letter to my daughter outing me, with full profile including pics and reviews.  I could have returned her favour with her live in boyfriend who didn't know what she did.  But I am not wired that way.  But karma will get her. I now don't trust other escorts in my company.

I got robbed not long after I first went on tour as treated the clients same as I did at home.  Big mistake, every areas different and I should have been more vigilant when screening.  I never checked a number just gave appointment if they sounded ok.


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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #27 on: 24 November 2015, 09:58:43 pm »

I got very friendly with another escort.  We toured together for a year and then she wrote a letter to my daughter outing me, with full profile including pics and reviews.  I could have returned her favour with her live in boyfriend who didn't know what she did.  But I am not wired that way.  But karma will get her. I now don't trust other escorts in my company.

I got robbed not long after I first went on tour as treated the clients same as I did at home.  Big mistake, every areas different and I should have been more vigilant when screening.  I never checked a number just gave appointment if they sounded ok.

Why would another escort do something like that? I thought they stuck together.

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #28 on: 25 November 2015, 12:39:43 am »

I got very friendly with another escort.  We toured together for a year and then she wrote a letter to my daughter outing me, with full profile including pics and reviews.  I could have returned her favour with her live in boyfriend who didn't know what she did.  But I am not wired that way.  But karma will get her. I now don't trust other escorts in my company.

I got robbed not long after I first went on tour as treated the clients same as I did at home.  Big mistake, every areas different and I should have been more vigilant when screening.  I never checked a number just gave appointment if they sounded ok.

I find that really shocking and sad :(, but I do agree that Karma will get her in one way or another.
I can't trust anyone, so would never work with another Escort or Agency or Brothel etc.. The only people that know what I do are myself and...however many Clients I may have had in 6+ years of Escorting  ;D
As Outcall only, I take full address ID/Landline etc but no idea how girls screen for Incalls? Is it just by the way they sound on the phone?  :-\

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Re: What's the worse that's happened and could of you avoided it?
« Reply #29 on: 25 November 2015, 01:40:30 am »
Why would another escort do something like that? I thought they stuck together.

Eh, depending on the area, folks in this line of work can be some of the cattiest and most competitive you'll find.