so, bit of a long story but this particular species of man, was originally destined to probably be a one time client but ended up being a prospective sugar daddy (i really loathe this term)/benefactor. We went on some lovely dates, but he never actually succumbed to the actually practice of giving me money. "I've never been the type to play for play....wahhh wahhh wahhh" "The economy really hit me"  yet in the same hour I've been told he's sold plenty of multi-million dollar estates and knows the owner of Nobu, quite well.

aka: Miss Mary doesn't care. On to the next.

Still he persisted. I thought about the prospects of him being a gift daddy but my spidey senses told me he couldn't actually deliver what I wanted. So again, I tried to move on. And made it clear nice dinners are great, but they don't do anything for me: except get me fat.  And I don't need your help, if i feel like getting fat. He definitely likes me, and not just in the I fancy you, blow me way. Or if you weren't paying me, I'd completely ignore your existence way. I can tell with him its the, I can spend time with you and enjoy myself without wanting to paint the walls with my brains. or yours.

i knew this is was a tool, so I tempted him, flirted and what have you. We DO have a great time together, but great times do not pay the bills. Unfortunately.

So we went on one last date, I laid my cards and simply said, I think we've had this convo before and I know what I want and what you want and neither have really given in, so we're at an impasse. And it seems as though, thats where we're staying!! We parted amicably, and I went home full and bit tipsy. With leftovers. 



Naturally,  yesterday he randomly emails me. "Seeing how I'm doing". Long story short, I informed there wasn't a need to do that unless he'd changed his mind.  Smart ass remark responded, I go back to my day of cramps and cupcake cravings.  Then I get one more email... "what do you want to jerk me off tomorrow"

 


what the hell? I'm not sure how to respond to that? He tells me he's never been the type to play for pay...and how he's inquiring? I think this is an attempt to see me again...but i'm not sure what to do. Perhaps some waiting could make him actually give me what I want?? Or should i just ignore him....

Help!!!!

Emily you're totally right. Very much the case of asking a question knowing damn well what the answer is...

But at the same measure I feel like ( it could be my hope and naivete) if I ignore him enough he could cave. Like in business, a large entity doesn't just give up when a small, yet incredibly strong company doesn't bend to their will and agreed to be swallowed up. If the larger company sees you as part of their portfolio, and something they must have. They bide their time and offer more money. (Or wait til other factors come in). He has never been rude, he has gotten snippy, to which he was FIRMLY and quickly regulated.  (i.e.  You, older, married, 50. Me, hot, early 20s, intelligent, ...and did I mention Hot?)  I made it very clear if he thought he'd be sucking up my time and affection he was surely mistaken. He is battling with the fact that he wants me. But doesn't want to pay. Yawwwn.

You're right- dealing with SDs is draining, on a completely different level than escorting. More of a psychological battle/warfare. Hes a 50 something man, who's afraid to say he's bored out of his skull and feeling insecure about his sexual adequacy.  The shark in me says wait...  Sigh. I don't know. 

But at the same measure I feel like ( it could be my hope and naivete) if I ignore him enough he could cave. Like in business, a large entity doesn't just give up when a small, yet incredibly strong company doesn't bend to their will and agreed to be swallowed up. If the larger company sees you as part of their portfolio, and something they must have. They bide their time and offer more money. (Or wait til other factors come in).

That's interesting. I like the analogy! I feel a bit more energetic this afternoon than earlier this morning so I guess I can see that if there's a chance for a big reward after playing some games, and if you've got the energy, then why not try? I am definitely very quick to dismiss people who threaten to cause problems in my life because I know I don't handle extra stress well etc etc and I think in this situation I put too much of my own personality into it. But if you feel confident (and I agree that you do know what you're doing, much more than I would) then why not play a bit of the waiting game? He's already been rude to you so it's not like you've got that shock still to come, thank god.

balls and buggeration.

hey ladies, thanks for the the responses! 

I did ignore him yesterday and haven't heard back. Honestly Emily I totally get where your coming from. Its a hard game to play. Especially when you don't accept BS. I'm choosing to ignore him until he decides to cave. I figure if he wants to he will, if not then it doesn't matter anyway-- i always have backups!!

Got a feeling he'll be back. He's REALLY into me. So I'm gonna take the back seat for now...Lets hope he gets a clue before my birthday!!

Quote from: Miss Mary on 28 July 2010, 05:59:10 pm

hey ladies, thanks for the the responses! 

I did ignore him yesterday and haven't heard back. Honestly Emily I totally get where your coming from. Its a hard game to play. Especially when you don't accept BS. I'm choosing to ignore him until he decides to cave. I figure if he wants to he will, if not then it doesn't matter anyway-- i always have backups!!

Got a feeling he'll be back. He's REALLY into me. So I'm gonna take the back seat for now...Lets hope he gets a clue before my birthday!!

Good. Just don't forget how petty people can get - when they feel they've been slighted, they can lash out. You have told this guy his, er, magnetic personality and powerful sexual aura won't win you over without some material goods so I'm just worried his pride is so wounded that he'll continue with the insults. Nothing you can't handle but also nothing I'd exactly enjoy experiencing!

True Emily, this was also a reason why I didnt want to answer the jerk off question because-- idk it seemed like it bad decision, especially when he's been so adamant about not 'paying for play' (his words not mine...i'm much more eloquent that that )

also- glad you liked my analogy :)I get that you're a low-stress person, I respect and appreciate that. I am too, to a fault. But, i've been known to take a few risks...but calculated ones, for the most part.